Text/Moran
In this world, each of us runs our own circles and has all kinds of relationships.
Living in this society is to get along with people, and in long-term interpersonal relationships, in fact, it is to maintain a balanced and comfortable state.
The relationship that can really go on for a long time is not supported by pleasing and flattering, but by maintaining a normal attitude toward each other.
The relationship between people is too intimate, too laborious, and it is actually very tiring. Therefore, long-term relationships are not flattering, and each does its own.
The more you please, the more tired you will live
When the focus of a person's life is on others, in fact, there is no self.
A person who has no self cannot feel happy, so he will live more and more tired, live for others in everything he does, and lose his self-worth.
People should live in this world for themselves, not in the eyes of others.
Life is your own, only your own feelings are the most real, you care about others, you will ignore yourself.
The real long-term relationship does not rely on flattery, but pays each other and maintains together.
The more you please a person, the more you reduce your self-worth, so that the other party may get used to it in the long run, and your efforts become taken for granted.
No one will be liked by everyone, and there is no need to be compromised by one person. At all times, a person should live out their true selves so that the relationship is balanced.
The longest-lasting relationship is to be true to yourself
Two people together, at first, may be upright, will be disguised, but in the long run will be very tired.
Only by being true to yourself, the other party can bear it, and will tolerate and get used to it. If you have to be perfect at everything and please someone, it will be very hard.
No one can always pretend, if you want to be together for a long time, you should be your true self, don't please, and don't pretend.
Everyone should have their own way of life, there is no need to please a person, please a person, only they can live steadily.
Countless flattery and pandering, in the end, can not be exchanged for cherishing, and even will make you fall into anxiety.
With people, the best relationship is not to please, only do not please themselves, the relationship between each other can go on for a long time.
Therefore, in life, we must dare to be ourselves, dare to say no, know how to refuse, and live comfortably to be happy.
Instead of taking the time to please, please yourself
If people want to please in this world, there are too many people to please, and they can't be busy at all.
Instead of taking the time to curry favor with someone who has no results or doesn't care about you at all, it's really better to please yourself and make yourself happy.
Only when you are happy yourself, life has meaning and value, you have been living for others, no matter how well you do, you may not be able to exchange for the other party's response.
In this life, if people only want to get the approval of others, they lose their original value. Not everyone is worth your time to please, all you have to do is love yourself.
If a person does not even love himself, and still has to rush to please others, he will be ignored and looked down upon by the other party, so that he will never have a position in front of the other party.
Only people who know how to recognize themselves and please themselves can live out what they want to be, and the other party will respect and be attracted to you.
summary:
Either way, you can't make everyone happy, and you can't. To live for others is to destroy yourself, and you may not be able to have a good ending.
Therefore, in this short life, do not live in the eyes of others, but live in your own world.
Don't please, don't be, just be yourself, according to your own heart, how happy, how comfortable to come.