Text/Wei Chen
Everyone is a mirror that can reflect the shadow of home.
As the saying goes, the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked.
Usually, what kind of parents there are, there are what kind of children. It can be seen that the influence of the family on people is enormous.
Zeng Guofan wrote in his family letter: "In all the families, the word diligence and respect can be kept for a few points, but they are not happy, if there is no point at all, there is no undefeated." And the word can keep a few points, there is no unhappiness, no peace undefeated. ”
The diligence and harmony of a family has always been an important thing, and if there is one, the family will prosper, and if there is none, the family will decline.
From a certain point of view, the rise and fall of the family determines whether a person's life is wonderful or not.
A good family atmosphere makes people feel good, and a bad family atmosphere makes people dejected.
In the process of family decay, the following 5 signs are common, and any one of them should pay attention to.
Family members are out of harmony
For a family, family member discord is a serious problem.
Whether it is a brother or a husband and wife, once there is a competition for interests between any family member, it will lead to the decline of the entire family.
The relationship between people should be measured, especially the loss of measure between intimate relationships, and it is easy to turn against each other.
Those who once knew each other best could easily make each other doomed.
As the saying goes, brothers settle accounts. It's about preventing bad things from happening.
The same is true for husband and wife, no matter how intimate they are, they must leave each other with room for independence. Human nature is always like this, the stricter the control, the more rebellious.
The discord of family members can be said to be the biggest blow to a family.
There are no problems in this world that cannot be solved, only interests that cannot be fought for. If a family does not want to go into decay, it must know how to give mutual benefits.
Children corrupt the family's wealth
Being generous is a person's strength, and blind generosity becomes a defect.
Many parents live with the mentality of "no matter how bitter they are, they can't be poor children".
This has led to some ignorant children, completely disregarding the hard work of their parents, and spending a lot of money outside.
As the saying goes, loving mothers are many losers. Children are the hope of the family, and if the elders are too kind after the children have done wrong things, it will lead to the decline of the family.
Children who have corrupted their family wealth must be severely reprimanded and strictly restrained.
It's harder to stay in business at any time than to start a business.
If a family cannot keep its wealth and is too generous when it is prosperous, then the family is not far from falling.
The elders are too wide
"Lü Shi Chunqiu Bozhi" has a cloud: "The whole will be lacking, and the extreme will be reversed." ”
It tells us a truth: nothing can be too perfect, and after completion, there will inevitably be imperfection.
In family education, the same is true of elders managing their children.
Too loose management does not work, too tight management is easy to react.
Holding on to it at any time is a very important thing.
Ups and downs are life, and no one can stay at the top forever. People must learn to accept and take the initiative to go downhill, only in this way can they control their lives.
Elders sometimes can't manage too widely, if things are not wrong in the general direction, don't pay too much attention to the details.
Tolerance with one eye turned a blind eye is the wisdom to maintain family harmony.
There has never been a perfect person in this world who can demand something from his children, but he cannot demand too much from his children.
Spoil your offspring excessively
The state has the national law, and the family has the family rules. If there are no rules in a family, both adults and children will make mistakes.
And everyone will take it for granted that they have made mistakes, and in the long run, the family will become a pot of porridge. Such a family is naturally worse from generation to generation.
Elders can love their descendants, but they cannot coddle.
Caring is love, spoiling is hurting. If you look closely, you will find that those who spoil their offspring will inevitably be hurt by those they have spoiled.
There is a very strange phenomenon in this society, that is, the more children who are loved by their parents, the greater the chance of filial piety.
On the contrary, those children who have not been paid much attention since childhood have more filial piety after their parents grow old.
Pampering children must distinguish between right and wrong, and tolerance that does not distinguish between right and wrong will only lead to disaster.
The family climate is not right
For any family, a good family style is a valuable asset.
The family can be said to be the smallest organization in this society, and any organization must have rules and regulations, otherwise it will be full of problems in long-term operation.
A family style is the potential rules and regulations of the family.
A good family style has a profound impact on children, and can even determine the rest of their lives, the way they behave, and their attitude towards life.
We often say that the impact of the family of origin on a person is profound and indelible.
Not all native families will have a bad impact on people, and a good family atmosphere can create a warm life for future generations.
A decent family style can ensure the happiness and harmony of generations.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.