The beginning of the article will first share two small cases with you:
Case 1:
Boy A and girl B are in a long-distance relationship and rarely see each other, so they often video chat.
During the daytime chat, A and B made an appointment for a video chat at 9 p.m., but because of work reasons, A added a few shifts, and it was already 8:30 p.m. when I left work, because the mobile phone was out of power, and I didn't tell my girlfriend, so I quickly took a taxi home and rushed home in a hurry, but it was already 9:30. Quickly play the video to the girlfriend, and then the following conversation occurs:
A: Didn't you wait very hard, my dear?
B: Didn't you say good 9 o'clock, how do you not punctual at all, let me wait like this is interesting? (Already getting angry)
A: I'm sorry, because of overtime, honey, don't get angry, okay?
B: Overtime? Excuse it! Well, no need to explain, it's too late, I'm going to sleep.
Then I hung up the video.
Case 2:
Boy C and Girl D are also long-distance relationships.
They also made an appointment to video chat at 9 p.m. that day, but because boy C was fascinated by playing games in the Internet café, it was already 11 o'clock when he returned home, which reminded him of having a video with his girlfriend. Then the video was played to the girlfriend, and the following conversation occurred:
C: Didn't you wait very hard, my dear?
D: Why did you go, didn't you say that it was good at 9 o'clock (I also started to get angry)
C: I'm sorry, playing games with friends in internet cafes, it's so late, don't get angry, okay?
D: Well, next time don't do this, punish you for spending more time with me for video today
C: A must
I believe you will feel strange when you see it, obviously the reason for the quarrel is the same, the way to coax the girls is the same, why do two different girls make completely different reactions?
Yes, the main reason is: personality differences.
Although we have been stressing that girls are a very emotional animal, you must not reason with girls when coaxing girls, otherwise you will encounter a major emotional crisis in your life.
But things are not so absolute.
After getting along with girls for a long time, you will find that sometimes you reason with girls to coax her, she can accept, sometimes you say a lot of comforting words to her, she thinks you are hypocritical.
And the root of all this is because of the difference in girls' personalities.
So today we will talk to you about girls of different personality types, how to coax them after they are angry, in order to really touch her inner needs.
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Classification of girls' personalities
The "personality color theory" proposed by Lejia divides people's personality into four categories: "red, yellow, green and blue". Similarly, the personality of girls is nothing more than these four types.
Next, I will talk to you about the personality characteristics of these four color personality girls.
Red personality
To put it simply, a girl with a red personality is more lively and cute, and as long as she can make her feel happy, she is willing to do it; a girl with a red personality is easy to be happy because of a small thing, and likewise, she will be unhappy because of a small thing.
The girl with the red personality is hot inside and pursues freedom. They like an unrestrained life, do not like to be managed, work, like to be able to commute freely to work, life, want to sleep until what time it is, want to do what they want to do, may also make an appointment in the morning and afternoon with girlfriends shopping, may have a lunch and want to go to the movie, it is so arbitrary.
In addition, girls with red personalities have a wide range of interests. Rather than being a wide range of hobbies, it is better to say that they like the new and dislike the old" and they can easily like a new thing, but they may forget it in a few days. Favorite things are also not fixed, various types, from rock climbing bungee jumping to all kinds of small accessories.
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Yellow personality
This type of girl is what we call "strong women". They don't like to rely on men, and in their hearts, only when they become excellent can they meet better men. So they work and live very hard, and they can't stay idle for a minute.
Girls with yellow personalities only care about whether the outcome is good or bad, and never care what the process is. They also don't like weak men, and since she is strong herself, she also wants men to become strong.
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Blue personality
The blue personality is representative of the sane woman. It is said that girls are a kind of emotional animal, but girls with blue personalities are unusually rational, so they are usually very strict with their partners, so it is very difficult to enter the hearts of girls with blue personalities.
In addition to reason, girls with blue personalities also pursue perfection. Therefore, they are particularly comprehensive when thinking about problems, and will take into account the best situation and the worst situation, which also makes girls with blue personalities prone to negative emotions.
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Green character
The simple point of the green personality girl is the "gentle and considerate" girl in our eyes. Know how to take care of people, but also know how to be diligent and thrifty, which is also the first choice for most men in today's society.
They are more content with the status quo. It's not that they don't pursue good things, it's just that they're not very interested in good things. If there is, they are willing to ask for it, and if not, they will not force it.
Moreover, girls with green personalities are the opposite of girls with red personalities, they don't like to communicate with people actively, they only like passive communication, that is, they like to listen, they like to listen to you take the initiative to say what she wants to know, rather than need her to ask.
Of course, this classification is not absolute, and the personality of many girls is a combination of two or even more colors, so it depends on our careful distinction.
How to coax girls with different personalities
The "Diamond Rule" proposed by Lejia says that people with different personalities should be treated in a way that suits their personality needs.
That is to say, girls with different personalities have different personality needs. When we quarrel with girls, there should be different ways to coax girls for different girls. According to her personality needs, she can make a corresponding way to coax girls, in order to really effectively coax girls.
1. Red Personality:
For example, a girl who is late for work is scolded by the leader and is depressed.
Girl: Alas, the mood is not happy (when you encounter unhappy things and complain to you)
Boy: What's wrong with you?
Girl: I was late for work today, deducted the attendance award, and was scolded.
Boy: Wake up early after that, and stop snoozing
schoolgirl:...... (Angry!) ）
Analyze their personality needs:
Girls with red personalities love freedom and don't like to be managed. And you not only make her get up early, but also say that she is a snoozing person, so that the girl will only be more angry.
When the girl with the red personality is unhappy, she doesn't want you to blame her or give her a solution, she wants your empathy, to unite with her, and let her vent her anger. Such girls usually come and go quickly with anger.
In fact, as long as you scold the boss with her, and then change the topic appropriately, you can basically coax her well.
Handling method:
Method 1
schoolgirl:...... He was also scolded.
Boy: And it's not deliberately late, this company, fried it, let us XX so unhappy (empathy)
Method 2
Boy: It's understandable to be stuck in traffic and late, your boss is too inhuman. Don't be unhappy, I'll take you to eat delicious food in the evening (change the topic)
2. Yellow personality
For example: You go shopping with a girl and buy an ice cream for the girl. Someone left in a hurry, knocked the ice cream off, and didn't apologize.
Girl: Why don't you stop him
Boy: Just one ice cream, I'll buy you another one
Girl: I don't! (Angry)
For a girl with a yellow personality, the reason she is really angry is not that she didn't eat this ice cream, but your attitude towards the person who hit him. It is precisely because she herself is a very strong person, so she hopes that you are also a very strong person, instead of swallowing everything.
Boy: Fortunately, he ran fast, otherwise I would have to beat him up, what kind of person, the street is still running so fast
3. Blue personality
For example: a girl asks you to clean, but you don't do what she asks for.
Girl: Go clean up the house
Boy: Okay
(Then you obediently sweep the floor of the room and drag it clean.) ）
Ten minutes later:
Girl: This is the house you cleaned up?
Boy: I cleaned up
Girl: It's still a mess on the bed... (Angry)
Girls with blue personalities pursue perfection, although you clean the house, but the house is not sorted out, which is why girls are angry. A girl with this type of personality can't stand imperfect situations, so as long as you make this thing perfect, she won't be angry.
Girl: It's still a mess on the bed...
Boy: Got it! Pack it up right away
(Immediately go and clean up)
4. Green personality
For example: you party with friends, you go to sing after dinner in the evening, and then you get drunk in the KTV and don't go back all night, until the next morning, when you wake up drunk, you come home, and you push the door to find a hot breakfast cooked on the table.
Boy: Honey, did you prepare it for me?
schoolgirl:...... (No response)
Boy: Honey, why don't you talk?
schoolgirl:...... (No response)
Boy: Come over for breakfast
schoolgirl:...... (Obviously angry)
Girls with green personalities are more gentle and considerate, so even if you don't go home for one night, she will intimately prepare a hearty breakfast for you, but it is not that she prepares breakfast for you is not angry with you, but they will not take the initiative to ask you these things, they hope that you can take the initiative to explain what you did last night.
Boy: Honey, I had a party with friends last night, I drank too much at KTV, I slept there, and a few friends slept there
Girl: Tell you to drink less, it's not good for your health
Boy: It's rare to get together, happy, just drink a little more
Girl: Next time, don't do this, there is breakfast on the table, hurry up and eat it
Speaking of which, it must be mentioned that in addition to the difference in personality, the reasons for anger are also various. So here is just an idea for you, so that you know how to coax girls more efficiently, it is easier to coax girls well, rather than blindly coaxing and doing some useless work.