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I don't know if you found it? The post-90s generation has become a new generation of parents and mothers, they educate their children, no longer use the post-70s "scolding-based" way, and will not be like the post-80s, there are endless truths to tell. How was the cute baby educated in the hands of the parents after the 90s?
Post-90s fathers "sprinkled and rolled" in the supermarket, and children quickly "surrendered"
A father took his child to the supermarket, and the child walked through the area selling ice cream and could no longer move his legs, so she had to buy an ice cream to eat. However, the child's stomach is not good, and the current temperature is relatively low, so of course, dad can not buy him to eat.
No matter how much the father persuaded, the child just refused to leave, she stomped her feet, while saying loudly: "Don't buy ice cream, never go home." We all thought that the father would be very angry and dragged the child home, but the post-90s father suddenly lay on the ground and cried: "Don't buy, don't buy, just don't buy ice cream..."
The daughter stood there blindfolded, did not expect that the father was actually so "vulnerable", look at the surrounding customers are looking at here, the daughter's face is a little hanging face.
She quickly went to take Her Father's hand and pleaded, "Daddy, you hurry up, let's go home, I don't eat ice cream, it's too humiliating." Dad stood up, and although his face was still pretending to be wronged, his heart was showing a triumphant smile.
This post-90s father, this is really taking the child's road, so that the child has no way to go! Although this way of educating children is not pretty, it is really quite effective.
Post-90s parents still have a set of education for their children, because most of themselves are only children, and the children's tricks are all left over from them.
Parents after the 90s, "swinging" parenting
We often see such a situation on the Internet, the child's wish can not be realized, lying on the ground and rolling around, and the young parents are not at home, do not panic, encounter things first a circle of friends. They pick up the phone, take a good picture of the child, and then take the phone and brush the video, as if the child no longer exists.
In the face of such a parent, the child was really bored to cry alone, so he had to obediently stand up.
After the 90s, my parents are a baby
After the 90s of the parents, when the children rub unwilling to get up, they did not rush to wake up the child, but they also slowly and leisurely put on makeup, anyway, it is not me who is late, and it is not me who is humiliated.
Instead, the child was anxious to cry: "Mom, I am going to punish the station again, you hurry up!" ”
The child wants to go out to play, the mother will put forward the conditions, your own things you take, the mother's things also need your help to take, otherwise we will not go. Where the child is going out to play, the big bag and the small bag are carried by themselves, and the whole is a small follow-up class of the mother.
Post-90s parents, as a baby to raise, their children will have a strong sense of responsibility. Some people say that this is a manifestation of the irresponsibility of parents and mothers, and children will be emotionally isolated and their mental health will be affected in the face of their parents' indifference.
However, some people say that this kind of static braking is a good way, at least the child will no longer think that crying can solve all problems.
When the child is unreasonable and emotionally explosive, the bottom line that parents should stick to is not to compromise, and then take targeted measures to guide the child to solve the problem.
Deal with the child's bad temper, teach everyone these 4 steps, and easily get the "bear child"
The child's emotions explode, and the more parents must remain calm.
When the child loses his temper, the emotions of the parents will also be very grumpy, but if the parents scold and lose their temper with the children at this time, it will only make the situation worse. Some parents scold their children and make the contradictions intensify, and some parents gamble to ignore their children, and the children's problems have not been solved at all.
If the child is throwing a tantrum in public, we must first take the child away from the crowd and let him think about it in a more independent space. Mom and Dad and the surrounding environment are quiet, and the child's emotions will soon calm down.
Allow the child to vent their emotions and then give the child a hug.
Children feel that they are very wronged because they can't get what they want in their hearts, and at this time we don't have to reason with them repeatedly, and children can't listen to them at all. We stop the child from crying at this time, probably no effect, only to make him more aggrieved.
So when the child is wronged, whether he is right or wrong, we must allow him to vent his emotions.
When the child's emotions are calm, we go to the child to reason, when the child realizes his mistake, parents do not forget to give the child a hug. Let your child know that although you have done something wrong, your parents still love you.
Mom and Dad stick to their bottom line and let their children lose their temper less.
If the child cries and we fulfill the child's wishes, the child may use such tricks more and more. Therefore, parents stick to their bottom line, do not give way to their children on principled issues, let children know that crying is useless, and they will gradually no longer like to cry and lose their temper.
To prevent children from losing their temper, guide children to express their emotions correctly.
When I was with my son, even if he was unhappy, he rarely lost his temper, and I would often tell him in advance that it was useless for you to lose your temper, and you could say your own reasons. So he often argues with me and rarely cries.
When the child communicates with the adults, they are constantly testing the bottom line of the parents, and once they find that they have no possibility of success, they will not lose their temper again. Therefore, guiding children to express their emotions correctly in advance can reduce conflicts with children and make children more adept at managing their emotions.
Raising a bear child or an angel baby, the parent's way of educating is very important.
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