The fertility rate under the three-child policy is still decreasing, and the main problem is in the post-90s men who lack money.

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With the mainland's policy of opening up the three-child policy, netizens have been hotly discussed, under the upsurge of the state actively encouraging the increase of fertility to cope with aging, the reaction of the younger generation is cold, and even some people directly call "the second child can not afford to have, talk about the third child", especially as the mainland's current main welfare population of the post-90s young people, even the willingness to have a child is not very strong.

In fact, friends who often surf the Internet may find that the hot search list has always been about encouraging marriage and childbearing, but even such a frequent public opinion orientation has not aroused the fertility enthusiasm of the post-90s generation, but under the pressure of reality, the pressure from society and family has made them feel headaches.

In fact, the difficult landing of the three-child policy lies in the fact that it is facing the stinging reality behind the young generation.

With the continuous improvement of the mainland's economic level, the level of consumption is also high, most young people are entangled in the trap of employment, pension, housing, medical care, and consumerism, not because they do not want to have children, but because they cannot afford to have children, and the lack of money is destroying the post-90s concept of marriage.

What is well known is that raising a child as an adult and giving him good educational and living conditions is far from a family problem, and under today's reality, it seems to be a social problem.

For the post-90s wage earners, the elderly, children, car loans, housing loans, think about the pressure of the mountain, it is no wonder that the current post-90s talk about "three children" discoloration.

Not long ago, the author once browsed a video about the post-90s marriage concept, the video interviewed a post-90s young man on the streets of Shanghai, he is 28 years old this year, the monthly salary of 20,000, it is said that in the eyes of many people has been a winner in life, but he has not had the courage to get married.

When he first joined the work, he also talked about a girlfriend, and then she thought he couldn't afford to buy a house in Shanghai, so he broke up, and then he was disappointed in the current social reality, because the love without money was not long after all. And no matter how hard he works, he can't seem to see the day in Shanghai, a gathering area of the rich who are drunk and gold-obsessed.

And the author reflects on my post-90s friends around me, such a situation is not uncommon, but almost everywhere.

The high school classmate with whom I used to live in bunk beds, whose parents divorced at a young age, made her feel disappointed in her family, almost firmly expressing inconsistency and infertility. 985 North Drift classmates who worked together with the liver thesis in college said, "My salary is only enough for me to spend, and I can't afford to raise children."

Talking about this issue with my older sister at the New Year, she just shook her head lonely, "I am too busy at work, if I have children, I have to take maternity leave, and my work will be replaced by others at any time, and I will lose my competitiveness in the workplace, and the cost is too high." "The reasons given by everyone are varied, different, but in the end they all point to the same destination, that is, they do not want to be born.

In the face of such a reality, many post-90s young people have said "lying flat", but in fact, even if they just want to lie flat completely, they have to pay a certain price and courage, and under the three-child policy, post-90s men seem to have lost the qualification to lie flat.

There is a satirical and realistic metaphor on the Internet, the three-child policy is like Xu Zhimo's cloud for the current post-90s men, so close to themselves, and so far. In view of the increasingly unfriendly social environment and cost of living, young people's choice to lie flat seems to have become a phenomenon-level trend.

In fact, since the full liberalization of the two-child policy in 2016, the mainland has already shown an attitude of encouragement and support for childbirth.

But the reality is that the fertility rate is still declining year after year, and the younger generation of post-90s is like the people who can never wake up, and the real root cause of this problem is actually "lack of money", because of lack of money, so they dare not, do not want, can not have, rather than do not want.

When the three-child policy was just announced, a public service advertisement about the birth of three children that was widely circulated on the Internet was strongly resisted and complained by netizens. The three men who appeared in the advertisement were scolded by public opinion.

The first male profession is a teacher, who claims to implement a free-range education method for his three children, which seems to help children avoid the pressure of taking the test, but in fact it harms the child, you know, under the current difficulty of exam selection, we can't even guarantee that our children can have the same level of education as us.

The second dad, a ride-hailing driver, promised in the video that he would work hard to provide a better material life for his wife and children, that he would change his baby's diapers during the day and help his eldest son with homework at night.

But in reality, the financial, material, and energy to raise a child, the bitterness of parenthood, must be understood, such an idea is undoubtedly too naïve and idealistic.

The third father, a 40-year-old doctor, encouraged his wife to have three children because he already had two babies and that he and his wife were not young. In his view, as long as the physical state is well maintained, it is relatively safe to give birth at an advanced age.

At present, the situation of confrontation between men and women on the mainland is becoming more and more intense, but in fact, under the pressure of society and the exploitation of capital, regardless of gender, they cannot escape the prisoner's dilemma brought about by "lack of money".

The healthy growth of childbirth and raising three children is behind the double increase of responsibility and pressure, rather than the naïve belief that children can be raised when they are born, and as long as they are alive, they are qualified parents.

The times are constantly moving forward, people's concepts have also changed, once in the seventies and eighties young people, as long as they have excellent academic performance, can enter the university, after graduation the state allocated jobs and houses, that era of demographic dividends, has gone.

Under the multiple pressures of high housing prices, difficulty in employment, difficulty in childcare, and difficulty in providing for the elderly, more and more young people after the 90s who marry late and do not marry are increasing. Everyone laughed bitterly and ridiculed, "The 30-year-old of my parents is full of energy, while our 30-year-old is already lying flat." But in fact, for the current post-90s men, if they want to lie flat, they must ask themselves whether they are qualified, and the embarrassing but realistic problem of "lack of money" has made many people's concepts of love and marriage face collapse.

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Author | Tommy

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