Author: Chestnut
Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn) original debut
01
A photo of Li Yan
Blast out a bunch of "parents"
On March 23, on the social trumpet, Li Yanpo took a vacation photo at the beach.
Sunshine, long hair, bikinis, confident ground facing the camera.
Stuck at the node of dad remarriage and mom's hot love, Li Yan sent out this set of photos, and some people speculated that it was a silent revenge that felt ignored.
Maybe it's just a momentary venting. On the contrary, her group of photos was also scolded by netizens on the hot search.
"I started to show up when I was a teenager, and I couldn't show it when I was older."
"I mean living so open abroad?"
"Fifteen years old is the age of knowing shyness, is it not shameful to send large-scale beach photos, how did my mother educate?"
Not a parent, but a parent's worry.
One of the online specialties of this era, wild parents, began to operate every time these times.
To tell the truth, how Faye Wong taught Li Yan, it was really not their turn to worry.
After all, li Yan's growth path is much more difficult than everyone imagines, and Faye Wong has also passed one level at a time.
Because she is a natural "rabbit lip" girl, she is born with obvious defects.
In the early years, unscrupulous media always turned the camera on her and rushed to shoot "the flawed daughter of the queen of heaven".
Li Yan's inferiority was planted at a very young age.
When she was 7 years old, Faye Wong and Li Yapeng divorced.
From thousands of pets to become a child of a single-parent family, there is definitely a gap in her heart.
However, Li Yapeng and Faye Wong used love to fill the defects in their daughter's heart.
After his daughter was born, Li Yapeng wrote a letter to her daughter, and one of the most beautiful sentences was: "God has given you a scar, and I will make this scar your glory." ”
Faye Wong constantly praised her daughter, saying publicly more than once, "I think she is very beautiful."
In terms of raising children, she is so fierce that she can also let go.
A teacher surnamed Wei, who grew up with Li Yan as a child, organized Li Yan and other children to climb the wild mountain when she was four or five years old, walking for 7 hours a day.
Taking the children to do the 24 solar terms observation, for 7 consecutive years, I went to the Ming Tombs Reservoir 168 times, and the Forbidden City also went 30 or 40 times before and after.
Li Yapeng once said that Li Yan's activities, Faye Wong will accompany a lot. "We may really spend a little more time on our children's education than the average family."
She taught Li Yan not to take rabbit lips seriously.
She took Li Yan to see the beautiful world outside.
Faye Wong not only erased Li Yan's inferiority, but even added a lot of unique self-confidence to her.
At the age of 6, she opened a solo exhibition showing 44 works, all of which were auctioned off for the construction of the foundation.
At the age of 9, he secretly opened a live broadcast, exposed his mother's dresser one by one, and became a "beauty blogger".
Li Yan said at that time: "In fact, I sometimes really feel that I am perfect, and that is because I am more able to dress up." ”
At the age of 11, he went to Paris to walk the catwalk, and his movements were generous, and he was open to people's eyes and flashes.
Nowadays, Li Yan, who studies abroad, often shares her daily life.
Today, she is full of thorny light, and there is no lack of Faye Wong's temperament. In the same frame as classmates, dinner with friends, and selfies with girlfriends in the mirror.
At the age of 15, she already exudes a glow and confidence that surpasses that of an average child.
But these are the confidence given by Faye Wong.
Not given by "wild parents".
02
As the second generation of stars, while attracting attention, she has become the "cloud daughter" of wild parents.
Li Yan is like this.
Huang Duoduo is like this.
As one of the second generation of stars most familiar to the whole people, Every step of Huang Duoduo's growth has been on the hot search at every turn.
Because of this, she is also the most worrying of the "wild parents" in the second generation of stars.
Because of a photo taken at a sitting angle, short skirt + white stockings + small leather shoes, netizens said:
"Wearing short skirts and stockings, too vulgar!"
"Is precocious really good?"
"World-weary face, this is not the expression that a child should have."
9-year-old ear piercing is "too precocious", 13-year-old permed blonde hair, lipstick, fake tattoos are "little bastards".
Even wearing gym clothes will be provoked: "Children are so small, is it appropriate to wear exposed hair on the Internet?" ”
Every mature appearance that does not match his peers will attract countless voices of doubt.
The biggest feature of wild parents is that as long as they appear in front of me, I can comment on them.
Also from "Where Daddy Goes", Cao Ge's daughter Grace has also received attention recently.
Grace, who has reached the age of 11, has broken away from the soft and cute childishness of her childhood and transformed into a slightly mature girl who loves beauty.
Probably also influenced by her mother's style, she has yellow hair, sits in front of the makeup mirror, wears flaming red lips on her mouth, and makes eyeliner, not only that, she also draws the shadow of her nose.
This photo sent by the mother, but also deliberately exposed the shoulder, you can see that it is a "love smelly beauty" of the little girl.
However, just a photo, or can not escape the comments of netizens:
"I'm only eleven years old, I really don't see like a student"
"Looking at the picture is what parents usually do, the child learns what, this is called a kind of learning, feel that the child is precocious"
"I don't have the innocence of 11 years old at all, I am too mature."
In the surfing of public opinion, it seems to separate two worlds.
One is the world that the child's own parents allow the child to explore;
One is a disciplined world overseen by social "wild parents."
When these children travel in their own world, they are always attacked by the outside world.
But often they can still do their own thing in people's teaching of "what they should look like at any age", but they are too good.
As Huang Duoduo:
At the age of 7, he wrote a script in English, translated three classic English novels at the age of 8, dubbed classic English films such as "The Little Prince" at the age of 10, starred in the drama "The Book of Water" at the age of 12, and participated in the Singapore International Western Music Competition at the age of 13, winning five first prizes with his friends.
Recently, in order to run for the president of the film company, she specially directed, filmed and edited a full-English video.
Soon after, he posted a post on a social platform to celebrate his smooth performance: "I am proud of the people who participated in it, we faced challenges, but we did it."
Enough excitement was evident in the words, because this was her directorial debut.
"What should you look like at any age" is a label that this society thinks it is attached.
It seems that as long as you do not follow this principle, all the excellence loses its meaning.
On the contrary, good people are not willing to be shackled to worldly judgment.
In the book May You Have a Life Illuminated by Love, it is written:
"If you are a tree, the attitude of others towards you is gusts of wind. If you care a lot about other people's opinions, it means that any gust of wind will shake you violently and even blow you down. ”
Only those who are loyal to themselves can exude the greatest charm.
When all the "dare not, should not, can not" are broken, it is also a moment of breakthrough growth.
03
There is a sentence in Gu Ailing's Weibo: Beauty is not because of following the trend, but has the confidence to define 'her' and celebrate her innate brilliance, which means using her own strength to make the world a better place.
Isn't the reason why Gu Ailing has become a phenomenon-level figure is precisely because she has broken through all imaginations about women and young people?
You can't ask her to be good and ask her to live in your box.
When she lived in the framework you arranged, she would not be able to achieve Gu Ailing in her lifetime.
Without limits and breaking stereotypes, children will always have unexpected performances.
Some time ago, Yi Nengjing's son Harry suddenly appeared at the Shanghai airport, and at this time, he also received the attention of outside netizens because of his twisted state when he appeared.
Netizens have commented:
"The other party's walking posture is a little too feminine."
"The other person is a bit too much like a girl"
"Yi Neng quietly hugged Sun Hopeless"
"He should be sent to be a soldier for reform"
I really want the people who say these words to wash their mouths, and don't just pinch a little to hurt others.
Because, other people's children are really more than a little bit excellent.
His areas of interest range from writing novels, writing songs and lyrics, painting, costume design, to acting in stage plays and making short films.
On Mother's Day, Harry also gave Yi Nengjing a portrait he had painted for her.
In his homework, he never lowered his A, and was admitted to Central Saint Martins College of Art in London and Parsons University in New York, where he received acceptance letters.
Yi Nengjing participated in "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", Harry accompanied her to practice dance, and sang "You Say I Love You" on the spot, or Harry's own composition and lyrics.
Compared with the meanness of wild parents, Yi Nengjing, as a mother, has always expressed her support for Harry, and even in the face of external interviews, she also said bluntly:
"Will give his son freedom, encourage Harry to live according to his own ideas, and in addition, will help his son to resist malice from the outside."
Just like Huang Duoduo, when she was attacked by public opinion for dressing up maturely, her mother openly supported the scene and blocked the sword of public opinion for her:
"Finally did what I wanted to do but didn't dare to do."
"It's the nature of girls to love beauty, and we respect them.
If you stop her now, she will be more rebellious in the future. She tried it and probably didn't like it in two days. ”
Children living in public opinion, to take their own path in the thorny bush, can not do without the shield and sword given by their parents.
Behind the children who dare to break through the siege, there are rebellious parents.
The appearance of boys and girls should not be the same;
And the child's own aesthetic should not be changed by external comments.
There is never only one definition of life, and not being defined by rules is the best weapon against gossip.
When children face the impact of society, parents are the biggest backing.
I hope that all parents can reply in the words of Ms. Faye Wong when their children face those unkind speculations and personal attacks:
What does it have to do with you!
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Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn), research on new knowledge of family education for 1-6 years old, is the mother's educational notes, is the father's baby guide, is the child's growth energy station. Please contact the Parents Institute for reproduction. Author: Chestnut. Some of the supporting images are sourced from the network, and if there is infringement, delete them.
Editing in this issue: Chestnuts