Huang Duoduo's dyed blonde hair is hotly debated, is Huang Lei and his wife's respect for their children excessive?

To say that today's children are really precocious, kindergarten dolls know that they will find a good-looking person to marry in the future, elementary school students began to steal their mother's cosmetics to make up for themselves, and junior high school students dressed up sexier than adults.

Children who should be focused on learning, but pursue fashion and personality, but some parents are not in a hurry, just like Huang Lei and Sun Li, they fully respect their daughter's love for beauty.

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Huang Duoduo dyed his blonde hair and caused heated discussion

Huang Lei and Sun Li's daughter Duoduo is often known for dressing up on hot searches, and recently, rumors about Duoduo dyeing his hair blonde in a barbershop have once again rushed to the hot search.

Some netizens broke the news, saying that they met Huang Duoduo quietly waiting for the stylist's design and cutting in the barbershop, probably feeling that someone was secretly photographing him, and specifically turned his head to glance in the direction of the photographer.

And the last photo is the appearance of a blond hair after doing it. It was these photos that once again put Huang Duoduo on the cusp of the storm and caused a lot of controversy for Huang Duoduo's family.

Such an arrogant and individualized hairstyle has made 17-year-old "good student" Huang Duoduo the focus of everyone's doubts, and many netizens think that Huang Duoduo is not yet an adult, nor is he a pop artist, and his hair is really excessive.

In this regard, mother Sun Li forwarded relevant reports, denying that netizens broke the news of dyeing more hair, and said that the photo was "moving flowers and trees", so the golden hair is not much at all.

In fact, Duoduo is not the first time on the hot search, some time ago, she seemed to be possessed by the hot search, frequently because of all kinds of trivial things on the hot search.

In addition to envying Duoduo for being able to dress himself in his own way, a large number of netizens also began to question why the parents of Huang Lei and Sun Li did not intervene in their daughter's dressing, and even whether they respected too much.

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What about children raised in respect?

Since the age of nine, Huang Duoduo began to try the "adult-style" life, such as wearing makeup, earrings, rings, nail art, dyeing hair of various colors, etc., all of which were exposed and put into action early.

But beneath the seemingly "rebellious" exterior, Duoduo is talented, outperforming many of his peers and even adults, from baking and painting, to English translation and piano playing.

Huang Duoduo's ability to release his personality while also growing up all-round is inseparable from the core concept of his parents when educating himself - respect.

In the education of children, Huang Lei said that he has been cultivating children under the premise of "respecting children's independent personality", and also frankly said: I hope that everything my daughter does is what she likes and is happy, because such a life is the happiest and most simple and beautiful.

At the end of the day, parental respect for their children is a form of trust that both parties give to each other – I believe you have the ability to judge right from wrong, and the other person responds to the rhythm of their own self-control.

Respect your child's decision

At the beginning of this semester, my son's class organized a class committee election, because my son's language results were good, so I suggested that he run for the representative of the Chinese class.

But his son, who was obviously weak in mathematics, insisted on running for a representative of the mathematics class and carefully prepared the campaign draft. Seeing the child so positive, the old mother really couldn't bear to discourage his enthusiasm.

As a result, his son was successfully elected, and after being elected, in order to be able to serve the public, his son's study in mathematics also became active, and his grades rose steadily.

Wilde said: The best way to make children good is to make them happy.

It can be seen that children's affairs should sometimes be let them learn to make decisions by themselves, and the children's path should be taught to walk by themselves.

Respect the child's development

The healthy growth of children is inseparable from the care of parents, but it does not mean that they can act arbitrarily.

In the process of growing up, although the child is born by relying on the parents, it is not the "belonging" of the parents, especially in the stage of the gradual growth of the child, parents must know how to properly withdraw from their children's lives, so that children can really walk on the road of life, in order to feel what is best for themselves.

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Respect does not mean permissiveness

"You can not be well-behaved, but you can't learn badly." This is the lyrics that Faye Wong sang when Dou Jingtong was born more than ten years ago, and more than ten years later, this daughter did "not behave", but she really did not learn badly.

This sentence is also Huang Lei's educational philosophy, although gentle but principled.

Many parents are worried: children are not fully developed mentally and have no resistance to temptation, how can they let them make their own decisions, so won't they spoil their children?

What we mean by respect here is to respect the child's personality, treat the child as an independent individual, and let the child enjoy a free and equal educational environment, not indulgence and doting.

In my opinion, there is a good difference between the two:

True respect for children's growth is when parents silently guard behind their backs and reach out when necessary. Just like flying a kite, you can not only fly the kite high and far, but also ensure that the line is dragged too hard and let the kite fall.

"Piercing ears" and "dyeing hair" do not mean that they are bad children, and good children do not have to be well-behaved.

Education expert Wu Zhihong said in the book "Why It's Always You Who Hurts": The best nature is to be yourself, that is, to live according to your own will.

Parents can respect the child's growth law, do not force interference and plan the child's future, in fact, the child has already won at the starting line.

Today's topic: Do you approve of the way Huang Lei and his wife educate their daughter?