A few days ago, Huang Duoduo, the daughter of Huang Lei and Sun Li, posted photos of guiding classmates to rehearse stage plays on social platforms, wearing a white shirt and holding a microphone, refreshing and cute.
In fact, I don't know when it started, it seems that every once in a while, her every move is easy to cause a commotion on the Internet.
A few days ago, Duoduo shared a baking video, but it aroused a lot of discussion among netizens, and Duoduo was scolded again.
As can be seen from the comment area, many netizens have a lot of opinions about the clothes worn in Duoduo's video.
"Teenage children dress like this, too mature."
"The halter neck is too exposed."
"There is no student look at all."
At the same time, some people speculate too much about the content of the video and ridicule it.
"The eyes are not right, and the feeling of speaking is also very strange, so contrived."
"I always feel that she has a gloomy temperament."
It was originally a simple sharing of a warm atmosphere and a simple sports suit, but it was speculated by netizens with details everywhere.
People diverged from her outfit, fabricated false information about the girl, and overwhelming conspiracy theories became the standard for almost every piece of her dynamic.
Huang Duoduo, a child who has not officially debuted, has a hot search physique like a star, and people are no longer surprised that every time she appears, she is inevitably a scolding war, and such unfounded malice has been with her for a long time.
And when did all this absurd malice begin?
After Huang Duoduo entered the public's attention from the parent-child variety show "Where Did Daddy Go", there was constant controversy.
In the show, she is empathetic, knows how to take care of other younger siblings, has a mature and sensible beyond this age, and this angelic baby attracts a wave of good feelings at the beginning.
But within a few episodes of the show, her innocence and sensibility were said by some people to be "so scheming", "too fond of showmanship", and "so good at pretending at a young age". What's even more excessive is that later there are such offensive entries as #Huang Duoduo get out of where daddy go#.
Even if Huang Lei came forward to explain, it still had little effect. Perhaps because Duoduo was still very young at the time, these gossip was diluted by other new news after the show, and gradually died down, but it has undoubtedly planted the seeds of evil for the future.
After leaving the show, her every move is still watched by netizens at all times.
In 2019, Sun Li uploaded several photos on Weibo to share her new hair color with everyone, she just picked and dyed her purple hair, she looked in a good mood, and she was lively and flexible under her mother's lens.
As a mother, it is very common to record the growth moment of the child, and at the same time witness the changes of the child with everyone, but it didn't take long for #Huangduoduo hair color# to immediately appear on the hot search, causing a large area of criticism from netizens.
Everyone has the impression that the well-behaved little girl dyed her hair, which made netizens very "worried", accusing Huang Lei and his wife of being too mature in their daughter's dress, not educating, and letting the child dye her hair at such a young age to corrupt the customs, like a bad teenager.
Immediately afterwards, some netizens found out the photos of Duoduo holding her mother's handbag before and applying lipstick to the mirror with her sister, and some people made a big fuss about her piercing her ears, earrings, and nail polish.
Even though many netizens approve of and support her approach, there are still many netizens who are addicted to "analyzing" her in speculation, thinking that there must be unknown secrets behind these appearances.
In this regard, labels such as "bad boy", "mature addiction", "weird demeanor", "marketing coffee" are bound to Duoduo, and even fabricated yellow rumors for this little girl, to put it bluntly, these hideous malice follow in every dynamic.
There is almost no time that the end of the hot search terms related to Huang Duoduo does not end with such a malicious scolding war, this underage girl, before her debut, has been raped online for several years.
She is not the only one who bears such malice.
It seems that those girls who enter the public eye are always inevitably educated and disciplined by the public.
Last year, Faye Wong's daughter Li Yan posted several life photos on the Internet, which caused a lot of condemnation. In the photo, she enjoys the sun and beach like everyone on vacation, comfortable and comfortable.
However, netizens believe that in the photo, she is too exposed and mature in a bikini, and a 16-year-old child should not dress up so "cool". Some netizens said even more maliciously that she was showing off her sexiness and did not know shame.
Subsequently, a photo posted by Li Yan on social networking sites caused an uproar on the Internet. In the photo, she casually coils her hair, opens her shirt, and places her paintings next to her.
She responded to the fingers of netizens in her own way, declaring her freedom to dress, and also changed her account profile to "Please put away your prejudices before coming in", which was very straightforward to show her intentions.
But as Faye Wong's daughter, Li Yan's every move is naturally highly concerned, and her cool dress preferences are more mature, and her personality has been criticized by some "righteous people", saying that she wears heavy makeup and shows femininity too early, which is really not like words.
Her sister Dou Jingtong is even more so, and she is even more "extreme" for those who show herself with a neutral style, shaving her head, dyeing her hair, tattooing, drinking alcohol, and being criticized as a deviant and problem girl.
Is what happened to her the same as Duoduo, speculated, accused, and disciplined.
It is not difficult to find that many netizens always seem to be bitter as an elder, but in fact they are constantly using this language to discipline girls.
They try to cram girls into uniform, stereotypical standards, obedient and sensible, not contending, wearing conservative clothes, and not too early in contact with all the adult world.
How ridiculous this is, no matter what a girl can do and wear, there is never any absolutely correct standard, and the underlying logic of these suggestions is deep misogynistic thinking.
Canadian-American feminist Schlamis Firestone said in The Dialectics of Sexuality that patriarchal women were told that in order to survive in this world, they had to fit into a certain image.
They stared at these girls, speculating many "crimes" from a little appearance factor, saying that they had bad personalities when they were children, and when they grew up, they evolved into yellow rumors of bad behavior, and these rumors even intensified to the point of outrageous and immoral.
These public opinions are all objectifying women, Facebooking, and loudly discussing a sexual resource, and the better the girl, the easier it is to become the bullseye of these malicious arrows. What these so-called "deviant" girls do is do nothing more than live the life they want.
On the other hand, those men who are watched rarely fall into the dilemma of public opinion, as was the case with the "Young Master Wan Liu" who was on fire because of positioning on Douyin some time ago.
It is also a daily sharing, but it is highly sought after because of the mansion positioning of Wanliu Academy. The details of his life were also deeply picked up by netizens, but it followed and was indeed sought after indiscriminately, becoming the "Young Master Wan Liu" who has money in the family and has his own face.
You won't see someone under their related video justifiably emphasizing what teenage boys should wear and what they should be doing at this time, and no one will speculate that there must be an unknown story behind his being so rich, and no one will say that he is out of position and rubbing hot spots in the first place.
Under the same conditions and attention, the difference in treatment between men and women is staggering, and the dividends that the parties can enjoy if they are men are obvious.
The girls who have been subjected to verbal violence in the example we have given are just sharing their lives and showing themselves calmly, but they have been subjected to long-term, such loud accusations.
It can be seen that in the current society, even if the family is superior, the individual excellent girls, still can not escape the siege of misogynistic thinking, in this patriarchal society, being stared at and disciplined is still the dilemma of all girls.
As writer Hou Hongbin wrote in What is the Use of Feminism? The preface says: "When the status of women is not actually improved, even if it is repeated for a hundred years, the dominant men in society will still not hear, do not want to hear, and ignore it." ”
Every strong intervention of others is an attempt to attack and deny women's subjectivity, and these toxic suggestions in the name of "for your good" do not shy away from all aspects of daily clothing to life, and even appear with false goodwill.
There is no absolute model for women of any age, and it is "right" enough not to submit to society's discipline of gender, to live themselves, to live the life they want, and beyond that, there is no standard.
Edited by Tristan
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