The growth and education of children has always been the most important thing in the hearts of parents, however, it will not be because of parents' concerns, children can grow in the direction expected by their parents, and even the opposite situation will occur.
A few days ago, Yi Nengjing's son released a dynamic, which triggered a lot of netizens to watch, and Harry in the photo showed great confidence and freedom.
Harry standing in the group photo is almost in a state of left and right hugging, and it is very obvious that Harry's smoking posture is very sophisticated.
In the face of harry's current situation in the photo, many netizens were surprised. Such behavior is unacceptable in most ordinary families, and will even be called an outlier.
Many netizens also sighed: Harry is obviously good, it is because Harlem and Yi Nengjing's divorce, growing up in an unstable family environment, so that Harry has the performance he has now.
In fact, the growth of children and external factors have an inseparable relationship, and the requirements of parents for children are closely related to the concept of education.
In order to avoid children becoming aliens in the eyes of others and having a better future, in the process of children's growth, the following points can not be ignored and compromised, otherwise the child is likely to be like a small tree, there will be a situation of long crookedness.
[In the growth of children, these are resolutely can not be ignored and compromised]
1. Habit formation
Even if you know that there are loopholes and errors, it is still difficult to correct.
Not only does it often appear in the adult world, but also in the child's world, the frequency of occurrence is also very high.
Once you develop wrong behaviors and awareness, it is likely to take a thousand times or a hundred times more time to correct them.
Therefore, in the process of children's education and growth, parents should cultivate their children's habits as much as possible.
Whether it is a habit in life or a habit in learning, develop good habits from an early age, lay a solid foundation, and avoid spending more effort and time when restricting children's behavior in the future.
2. Cultivation of the three views
In the process of children's growth, the treatment of the three views is also very critical and important.
Nowadays, many children do ridiculous things, and are even called bear children by others.
After doing something wrong, there is no slightest repentance, but instead remains in a state of righteousness.
Such situations abound in real life, and even their own children often behave intolerable behaviors.
To some extent, it is the establishment of the three views that is a problem, so the child's behavior will be biased.
If in the education of young children, parents do not pay attention to the cultivation of relevant education, no matter how much energy and time they spend on learning, they may be wasted in the future, without any meaning.
Therefore, in the establishment and shaping of the three views, parents must deal with it as the most important thing, only in this way, lay a good foundation, all future achievements and results are meaningful.
3. Shaping of rules
Everyone doesn't like to be tied down, and so do children.
Especially children who grow up in an environment where their parents love to spoil, they are often rulebreakers, they only care about whether they are happy or not, and they will not care about the eyes and feelings of others.
It is this selfish state that makes them ostracized when they enter society and school.
In order to avoid putting their interpersonal communication into a state of crisis, as a parent, you must let your child understand the importance of rules as soon as possible.
There is no doubt that breaking the rules comes at a cost.
Such a bottom line and principle must be deeply rooted in the hearts of children, only in this way can they think about whether the consequences can be endured before doing things.
4. Cultivate a sense of responsibility
Many parents complain that today's children are selfish, do not have the slightest sense of responsibility, and always work against their parents.
As everyone knows, this behavior of children is entirely due to the error of parental education methods.
The sense of responsibility is cultivated from an early age, and if the parents do not let the child do anything in the early years, they are in a state of complete responsibility.
The child is in a state of enjoyment, has not made any effort, although he does not know the parents' shelter and hardship, there is still no gratitude.
Therefore, for young children, we must let them actively participate in life and labor, let them integrate into life, only in this way can they feel the efforts of others, and can they cultivate their sense of responsibility.
【Author's Message】
Rousseau once said that I thought it was a beautiful thing to study hard until the last moment of life.
Presumably, most people will not be unfamiliar with "the slightest difference and a thousand miles lost", which has been perfectly presented in the education of children.
There is no parent in the world who does not love their children, and all parents hope that their children will get better and better.
Exhaust all their strength to create better conditions for their children, however, it is this kind of love that also makes children develop a bad disease.
Although these small problems do not produce too much destructive power in young children, however, with the gradual increase of age, the destructive power will gradually increase, and even produce irreparable results.
Three years old to see the old, if in the education of young children, parents ignore the above problems, it is likely to bury hidden dangers, not only parents to eat their own bad consequences, and even ruin the child's life.
Today's topic discussion: Do you think: When children grow up, which problems can not be compromised and concessionated?