I talked to a friend who said that every time she sent a message to a guy she liked, it would take a long time to reply.
Still, she didn't flinch. Because someone told her that women chase men, compartment paper, as long as they persevere and persevere, they can finally get their wishes.
But is this really the case? The fact that a message is so slow to reply is definitely not because I didn't see it.
In this era when the network is so developed, according to relevant statistics, on average, every 6 minutes will look at the mobile phone, and the number of times to open WeChat more than a day is about a hundred times.
Choosing to ignore or neglect is not invisible, but simply does not want to reply.
Why not reply, at the end of the day, doesn't take you as seriously, and for no other reason.
I don't know when the interaction between adults can be seen at a glance through WeChat.
The same message, someone can quickly reply, someone always pretends not to see, but constantly refreshes and likes and comments in the circle of friends.
It can only explain one problem, sometimes you think of a friend, but the other party is not serious.
In this era of WeChat, wherever you go, you may add friends, a meal down, maybe the people at the table did not even remember the name or face, and then lay quietly in your circle of friends.
But what does that mean? It does not mean how close your relationship with the other person is, nor does it mean that you can occupy a certain position in the other person's heart.
Just like handing each other business cards in the early years, who knows who is who later?
Although everyone wants to maintain the most basic etiquette in social activities and maintain a good image for everyone they know, sometimes when they are faced with some messages, they really don't want to reply.
For example, a female friend who is chased by a man, the relationship between the two is still completely unpainted, and the man interferes with each other's life in various ways, thinking that she should not eat street stalls, and should not be friends with people with bad habits...
In the face of such information, friends all pretended not to see it. She said: "If I really want to reply to him, I am not sure that I will say a series of dirty words." ”
Therefore, simply pretending not to see, giving each other the last decency, and letting the other party retreat is also a means of refusal.
Unfortunately, she hinted so obviously, the other party is still chasing after it, the information plus the phone, chasing and blocking.
The decency of adults is actually manifested in "can't read back".
I don't see your message because: first, your message has no nutritional value; second, I can't think of a suitable reply to your message; third, I just don't want to reply to you.
Seriously, everyone can get into a time like this. You're working, or doing something, and the other person suddenly utters two words , "Are you here?" and that's really confusing.
In order to avoid unnecessary trouble for yourself, simply do not see it, but also save the next problem of embarrassment.
Therefore, if you really want to turn to others, you may wish to make things clear and clear.
The other party is willing to help you, naturally will reply, if the other party has not expressed its position, in fact, has explained their attitude, no need to ask again.
Everyone should understand that you should never expect too much from others, only in this way, you will not be hurt by the other person's "can't read back" attitude.
After all, no one has the obligation to be responsible for other people's lives, whether it is a show of hands or a hard time, but this is someone else's business, others help you out of affection, not to help is also the duty.
When you send a message to someone, be prepared with both hands, and the other party will reply or not.
If you reply, you should be grateful, and if you are not replied to, don't have any selfish distractions, because this is the right of the other party.
You have the right to reject others, and so do others.
For a guy you've sent messages many times and don't reply to you, there's no need to keep sending them again.
If you feel that looking at the other party's name is an eyesore, you can completely block and delete, so that your heart may feel a lot better, and the other party will not know at all, let alone care.
The love between people needs to be jointly managed and maintained by both sides, whether it is love or friendship, if only one party pours out their hearts, it is impossible to establish a deep friendship.
Feelings have always been a matter for both sides, not one person has taken 99 steps, and the other person is still hesitating whether to take the first step.
Such a relationship, keeping will only increase the trouble, will only consume you, in vain.
Because the other party has already made his attitude clear, not replying, in fact, it is also a reply.
The writer Sanmao once said that people and things in the world have their time to come and go, and we just need to cultivate ourselves into the best form and then wait quietly.
Flowers blossom and fall, have their own laws, and as long as you don't put all your hopes on others, more often, rely on yourself, you will not be disappointed in the world.
You will not fall into inexplicable irritability because the messages you send to others are not replied to in the end.
Because you'll spend your limited time doing things that make more sense, rather than wasting it while waiting.
At the same time, you may also see that others have meaningless or nutritional information, and adopt the same attitude, and you will not feel that there is anything wrong.
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