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Love is actually something that can be done, love or not love is not necessarily all fate to decide.
Not everyone has a crushing experience at first sight, and for the vast majority of people, long-term love is the norm.
In "Foreign Daughter-in-law Local Lang", Chinese-American Jordan flew from the United States to Guangzhou in order to catch up with Yumi because he looked very similar to his deceased wife.
When he first arrived at kangjia, Jordan was overly neurotic, wearing protective clothing and masks all the time, and even frequently disinfecting in Kangjia.
Yumi's first impression of Jordan is that the uncle has a problem, and immediately says that she does not have any feelings for Jordan and refuses to give Jordan a chance to get along further with her.
At that time, Yumi would rather play with Saliva Wei than take care of The Golden and talented Jordan.
If it were not for an isolation experience, Yumi would not have looked down on Jordan who had a bad impression.
Yumi, Saliva Wei, and Jordan are quarantined next door to The Grandma's house. Saliva Wei knows how to do what he likes and sings with Yumi, so Jordan can only be snubbed by Yumi...
Later, jordan showed his singing voice, and instantly got a sense of beauty.
Later, in order to show the charm of men, Heo Wei showed his physical strength in front of Yumi, but gave Jordan the opportunity to show his muscle lines.
Since, Yumi has become Jordan's fan sister... Yumi sees Jordan's shining point, and her heart falls, and the two also fall in love, salivating to death, and shouting to go home before the quarantine period is less than two weeks old.
To what extent did Beauty and Jordan develop? That is, Yumi is ready to marry Jordan to the United States.
If Jordan had not revealed his purpose, Yumi would have flown to the United States to become his wife.
When Jordan said that he wanted to give him a soccer team when the two were preparing to leave for the United States, Yumi was so frightened that she directly refused to marry and was unwilling to return to the United States with Jordan, and the two broke up.
Yumi and Jordan's experience actually tells us that it is not rare for beautiful people to have a heart. If you want to get a woman's sincerity, you have to do it "one less and one more".
First, when pursuing girls, have less self-interested purposes
When a man exposes too much purposefulness when he pursues a woman, then it is difficult for him to get a woman's heart.
Because in love, there is often a strong sense of purpose not because of real love, but for his own benefit.
The reason why Yumi rejects Jordan at the beginning and in the end is because Jordan exposes his purpose at the beginning, he pursues Yumi because Yumi is like his lost wife, and finally because Jordan exposes that his purpose of marrying his wife is to have children.
Therefore, Yumi no longer falls into the mood of hot love, but chooses to quickly withdraw and refuse to fall into Jordan's emotional trap.
Pursuing a woman is naturally to be able to be with her, but if too much emphasis is placed on the purpose of being together, it will easily cause oppression and selfishness.
Why? Because too much attention to purpose often means that he is likely to fail to see the real needs of the person he loves, and he cannot see that the person he loves may not fall in love with him at all, and bring pain to the person he loves...
People who pay too much attention to whether they can be together will actually be together, and they will not see that love is to give happiness to the people they love.
If you forget the original intention and cling to the wrong points, it is naturally difficult to get the heart of the person you love.
In "Splendid Weiyang", if Li Weiyang did not meet Tuoba Jun first, she would definitely fall in love with Li Minde, because Li Minde and Tuoba Jun's love for Li Weiyang is of the same attribute.
Li Minde only lost that he did not meet Li Weiyang first, and also lost in his second brother's identity to make Li Weiyang preconceived.
The love that Li Minde and Tuoba Jun gave li Weiyang had no purpose, and even did not have so much persistence that must be together.
On the other hand, Tuoba Yu, even without Tuoba Jun, Li Weiyang would not fall in love with him, because Tuoba Yu's love was too utilitarian and too purposeful.
Tuoba Yu had a good feeling for Li Weiyang because Li Weiyang's intelligence was conducive to his seizure of the throne. Later, he fell in love with Li Weiyang because Li Weiyang could help him expel the shadow of his childhood, so he ignored Li Weiyang's ideas and insisted that Li Weiyang marry him.
A woman's intuition is very accurate, if you have too much purpose when pursuing her, then it is difficult for you to win her heart.
Second, when pursuing girls, show your strengths more
The vast majority of women, the reason why they are attracted to a man is because the man "conquered" her.
Women tend to fall in love with men who are stronger than her, which is not necessarily really capable or rich, but can make women worship him.
Women are actually still small women in their bones, eager to be protected and cherished, just like most men have heroic complexes.
If you want a woman to give to you, in addition to having less purpose, you should show your strengths and let the woman you love admire you.
Advantage refers to the place where you are good at it, rather than deliberately pretending to be good at it for the sake of a beautiful person, otherwise it is easy to make jokes like saliva.
Of course, if what you're good at is just what the woman you love likes, then you can speed up making her fall in love with you.
Everyone is not ordinary, and has his own advantages. If you feel that you are dim, then you must not have enough confidence in yourself, resulting in insufficient self-awareness.
Perhaps, you can learn about your strengths from friends and family, and then strengthen them, and then find opportunities to show them in front of your loved ones.
Be prepared and then at the right time to let your loved one know your charms. Remember, the presentation is not deliberate, but at the right time.
For example: what you are good at is singing, what you have to do is not to run to the woman you love every day to sing, but to ask her to attend a friend party, show her voice when singing in the K song, seemingly unintentional but deliberately show, you can let the beloved see you.
Love can make a difference, one is that the mentality needs to be pure, there should not be too much self-interested purpose, and the other is to show more of your advantages and let the beloved girl be impressed with you.
If a person loves in the wrong direction, just with a purpose, and forgets the original intention of love, just gives more but forgets to conquer with charm, then the result may not be as desired.
Love sometimes needs "routines", a little skill, to make love love love.
Techniques exist just to find the relatively right way for us to love someone and then give each other joy and happiness.
May everyone remember your original intention on the road of pursuing love, and conquer the beloved with charm.
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