Text/Wei Chen
Life is not bitter, only you know. This saying is not false at all, for most people, pain is an experience of life that cannot be avoided.
If you look closely, you will find that most of the wise people in life have suffered on a psychological or physical level.
I think that's probably why the old saying goes, "Eat a grain and grow a wisdom."
People who come out of pain usually have high IQs and emotional intelligence.
Those who showed enviable lightness and calmness in the face of disaster and hardship were exchanged for the experience of suffering.
Only by believing in themselves from the bottom of their hearts can people be more tenacious and withstand the baptism of wind and rain in life.
In fact, in people who have suffered greatly, there will always be places that are different from ordinary people, and people with the following five characteristics deserve to be loved.
Silence and steadiness
No one is born silent and steady.
If you find that there is a person around you, you don't like to talk much, and you still do things steadily. There is no suspense that this person has suffered greatly in places you can't see.
I have a friend who can say he did "mature overnight". However, this growth is passive, he does not want to, and as friends we do not want to.
Friends originally loved to play, love to laugh and laugh, can be said to be the most childish one in our circle.
However, the sky has unpredictable storms, and people have bad luck and bad luck. I vividly remember that summer his father was sentenced to "death" by the hospital.
For those of us who were still very young at that time, in the face of doctors and this result, anyone was in a hurry.
He locked himself up all night without seeing anyone, and the next morning he became a steady and mature figure that we did not know.
Since then, he has had the appearance of a mature, stable and taciturn adult.
Behind everyone's maturity is pain.
Determined
Any strong-willed person has high standards for himself.
As the song goes: "No one can see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, and no one can succeed casually." ”
Rainbows must be after the wind and rain, there is never a shortcut in life, if people do not be cruel to themselves, it is too difficult to achieve their wishes.
From a certain point of view, people who have suffered greatly will become "cruel". This "fierceness" is not for others, only for oneself.
Sometimes we see the strength of others, but in fact, for themselves, it is a kind of self-cruelty.
Human nature is born lazy and weak, and everyone wants to live as a flower in a greenhouse. If the environment allows, no one wants to be born into a cold plum and proud of the snow.
Children who have some pain will cry after being injured, and children who have no one to hurt can only hold back. To be able to cry is happiness, and not to cry is to be mature.
Know how to cherish blessings
Happiness in life never comes for no reason. Happiness is not a standard, but a reward.
Dong Qing said in the reciter: "Pain is a part of life, it tests the character and wisdom of each of us, and only those who have withstood the test can enjoy the wealth transformed by pain." ”
Pain can be frustrating, frustration is followed by strength; pain can be confused, and confusion follows direction.
Those who can come out of pain will change the appearance of the heavens and the earth in their eyes.
People who hoe the ground at noon can better understand the meaning of "every grain is hard".
People who have suffered a lot understand that life is very complicated, and we need to do our best to find a safe place, so we live a special treasure.
Don't be afraid to be alone
There is no one who does not love to be lively. It's just that some people have long known that "the prosperity outside the door is not my prosperity." ”
Life is always your own, and no matter how you like it is, you can't really share it with others.
Everyone's heart is lonely.
Some people are afraid of loneliness, so they run to the "door" to try to integrate into the prosperity; some people are not afraid to be alone, and raise more prosperous flowers in the desolate place "inside the door".
Most people who have suffered great hardships prefer to be alone, because in the experience, they understand that it is difficult to exchange for understanding and understanding by telling pain, not that they do not know how to express, but that the hearts of others are not here.
Some of the relationship between people is essentially meaningless. So after seeing through, he became silent and became evasive.
When a person is able to achieve emotional self-digestion, they are no longer afraid of being alone.
"Raise a glass to invite Mingyue, to the shadow into three people" is a different kind of romance.
Word
In a person's lifetime, there are many things that cannot be changed, some people call it destiny, some people think it is practice.
In fact, no matter how you explain it, everyone's life is roughly the same at the beginning. Sometimes it's just that the order is disrupted, some people are bitter first and then sweet, and some people are sweet first and then bitter.
If life is a game, then the person who can overcome all difficulties and finally pass the level is the real king.
No one can really grasp the steering wheel of the life train, and all we can do is try to keep the fluctuations under control.
People who have suffered understand the importance of doing what they say. Without execution, no matter how perfect the arrangement makes sense.
Some things test not whether you can do it well, but whether you can do it or not.
In the ups and downs of life, no one can go smoothly. No one will be inactive, from the beginning to the end, and no one will be bitter from the beginning to the end after seriously facing it.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.