Source | Educate the voice
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Talking with Mr. Ding, a senior senior teacher, about the high promotion rate and the effect of famous schools in a key middle school, he had great feelings.
"The school has cultivated a bully and a high promotion rate, which is not only the credit of the class teacher and the school." Parents are also credited. ”
"If there is no silent and strong support from the parents of the students, the school and class performance, want to achieve excellent and top state, it is difficult!"
Minister of Education Chen Baosheng said: Family education is not in place, and no matter how well school education is done, it will not help.
Special teacher Li Zhenxi said: "School education is very important, but no matter how important, it is only an important supplement to family education. ”
Behind every bully, there is a group of excellent and fierce parents and parents.
01.
Parents are originals
The child is a photocopy
Just like the teacher Ding just talked about, his son is very excellent, and after graduating from the key high school, he was admitted to the Communication University of China with the first place in the province.
This child I have seen, intelligent, sunny, assertive, and polite. From elementary school to high school, my grades have always been excellent.
It's the kind of good boy who "looks at it and makes people forget it".
Of course, this kind of excellence did not fall from the sky, because this benevolent brother was also very good - as a teacher, he was well-trained, and at a young age, he was rated as a senior teacher.
He never ran various cram schools, for fear that his parents would gossip and tarnish the image of the teacher.
For the sake of the child, he socialized a lot, pushed off a lot, leaving a mind to accompany the child.
In the third year of high school, he also deliberately rented a house near his son's school, and was with his children, always looking at the dynamics and moods of his children.
He also likes to make friends, the ancient road is hot sausage, and the body releases a vigorous cheerfulness and enthusiasm.
He has a wide network of contacts, but he has always been very low-key. Everyone is willing to associate with him.
Yes, children are superior and outstanding, and they are never picked up halfway.
The family's land is rich in nutrients, so that the branches of children can be upright.
The words and deeds of parents, good beauty and health, can lead children to strive for self-improvement and excellence.
Every breath and movement of a child is derived from the spiritual catalyst and life context of the grandparents and fathers.
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Childhood imprints left by parents and families
The highest-grade erasers can't be erased
Parents and parents are a child's first teacher.
Children and parents, elders, day and night, parents and elders in the words and deeds of life attitudes, values, conduct, moral character, communication principles, etc., slowly, it has become indispensable spiritual food, water and air for children.
This invisible shaping allows children to have the breath and energy of resonating with the same frequency as the family.
Psychologists say that memories and effects from infancy and infancy precipitate into the cerebral cortex and linger.
This kind of influence and habit, once finalized, the day after tomorrow to want to change, it is very difficult.
In order to avoid this unnecessary "education rework", parents and elders should do a good job in every detail of life and life plot.
When the parents are sunny, the children will be star-studded.
Parents are depressed, and children are more decadent and confused.
If you want to make your child excellent, you must first "at least not be bad".
If you want your child to stand out, you must first continue to rise, continue to grow, and get closer to excellence.
03.
It is the teacher who teaches
It is the parents who nurture the people
Han Yue famously said, "Teacher, so preach, teach, and solve puzzles." "Contains two important processes of "teaching" and "educating".
The teacher's job is to teach the school and relieve confusion.
As for how to behave and how to deal with people, parents are obviously more responsible, more motivating and influential.
Children and parents get along day and night, and the development of non-intellectual factors such as children's personality development, moral development, and psychological development depends more on the family environment and the quality of parents.
In order to make children talented and adult, parents themselves should become an excellent "teacher": a person who pursues goodness and beauty, a person with an interesting soul, and an independent person who walks upright.
If parents do it properly and do it right, they can lead their children to the high ground of "people" and make their children become leaders with both moral integrity and ability.
04.
Accompaniment——
The most advanced home classroom
Companionship, that is, parents should put down work and socializing, return home, play with their children, accompany their children to homework games, and communicate and discuss with their children.
This is a very simple and not difficult thing to do, do it well, do it in place, you can bloom the miracle of education.
The company of the mother will bring a sense of security to the children of infants and young children.
The company of the father will bring a sense of rule and responsibility to the child.
In the company, there will also be various tactile exchanges, emotional interactions, emotional massages, etc.
There will be problematic discussions and collisions of information.
The door of the child's heart is always open, always regard the parents as their intimate friends, and naturally they are willing to follow the parents and listen to the guidance of the parents.
Children who are accompanied by their parents have a happy and carefree childhood.
Parents who are willing to leave socializing to accompany their children are the most competent parents in the world.
05.
There are no unavoidable tickets
Only children who grow up in an instant
When it comes to accompanying children, many adults, especially men, say that they are too busy.
Yes, your work is in a hurry.
However, the rhythm and frequency of children's growth are also very hurried.
Facing the rising sun and the gentle spring breeze, the speed of the child's upward joint is far faster than we imagined.
The most effective time of companionship a child needs is just over a decade.
You don't have the time or heart to spend with your children today. There is no heart-to-heart communication with the child in the company.
Wait until one day, when you want to care for and manage your child, you will find that he has grown up.
You don't have that chance anymore.
Late.
Of course, some bad problems developed by children in the environment without companionship, such as loneliness, inferiority, calculation, etc., may accompany him for life. Not easy to overcome.
Kai-Fu Lee once appealed: "Don't think that the child is sent to school, everything is the teacher's business, and then when he goes home, he will supervise the homework." Kids need more than that. ”
Gilbert, a harvard psychology professor, said: "Ten years from now, you won't regret doing one less project, but you'll regret not spending an extra hour with your child." ”
Educating children well is the most important cause of parents in this life.
There are no tickets that must be earned, only children who grow up in an instant.
06.
Good parents
Most are studious parents
Wang Renping, a famous psychologist, said: To have children is to raise oneself.
He also summed up an equation for family education: the results of education = the degree of intention× ways and methods× ideas and ways of thinking.
The era has long entered the era of light-speed development. Whether it is in the possession of information and information processing, many children's ability has surpassed that of their parents.
At this time, if the parents' cognition and concepts are still stuck in the eighties and nineties of the last century, they do not know the new nouns, do not understand the meaning of the new words, and will not use modern information tools.
There is even a certain concept of obsolescence and OUT, you want to rely on the authority of parents to guide the child, the child will always have this kind of unconvinced.
Therefore, parents must educate themselves: make themselves advanced, fashionable, and glamorous.
Through online learning, the promotion of learning teams, etc., we will improve our education level, modern life and development concepts.
Parents themselves have been growing, and growth has always been an important concept in the family.
When children look into their eyes, they will naturally look at their parents.
It is difficult to think of not being excellent, to think of not being outstanding!
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Final words
The family is the root.
Children are leaves, branches, and fruits.
Only when the roots are deep, the roots are strong, and the root system is developed, the child's fruit will be fuller.
Every parent who counts for his children should make the roots of the family more developed and more delicate.
Inject positive energy into the family and accumulate a steady stream of good energy and good nutrition for the children.
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