As we all know, Cao Danshu had already fallen in love with Zhao Zhen at first sight before she was ready to marry Li Zhi, and her fiancé Li Zhi was still obsessed with Xiu Xian and did not want to marry at all.
If this is the case, why doesn't Cao Danshu quit the marriage, and has to marry Li Zhi, who does not love or love herself at all?
In cao Danshu's marriage, not only did her friends around her persuade her to quit the marriage, but even Cao Danshu's mother wanted to help her daughter quit this family affair, but Cao Danshu herself was willing to accept this family affair.
Responsible
In fact, Cao Danshu was able to accept Li Zhi because of her sense of responsibility in her heart, and she did not want her grandfather and even the Cao family to bear the reputation of dishonesty.
Cao Danshu: "No matter what, I will not make the Cao family lose its trust, let alone let myself lose my dignity." ”
Cao Danshu's family affair was decided by her grandfather for her when she was young.
Why did Grandpa Cao Danshu marry his granddaughter into the Li family?
The purpose is to repay the old general Li (it should be Li Zhi's grandfather) for saving his life.
Selfishly speaking, Cao Danshu's grandfather's kindness should be repaid by himself, Cao Danshu does not need to take his life for his grandfather's love debt, moreover, Li Zhi is also bent on cultivating immortals, and does not want to marry his wife at all, if Cao Danshu wants to retire from marriage, Li Zhi must be unwilling, at most the Cao family will be spat at a few words of untrustworthiness, but Cao Danshu does not have to sacrifice herself for her grandfather's love debt.
However, since Cao Danshu went to Ying Tianfu Academy to study, he was deeply influenced by Fan Zhongyan and Yan Shu, and realized that life must have responsibility between heaven and earth, and people have no faith, and they don't know what they can do, which means: If a person does not talk about credit, then what else can he do?
This reading experience of Ying Tianfu Academy made Cao Danshu understand many life principles, and the Li family had helped the Cao family, so Cao Danshu felt that she had the responsibility and obligation to repay the Li family's kindness on behalf of her grandfather.
Seeing this, everyone should understand why Cao Danshu insisted on marrying Li Zhi, whom she did not love at all, because of her inner sense of responsibility and responsibility, and did not allow her to treacherously.
Who to marry is not to marry
Cao Danshu is willing to marry Li Zhi, also because she thinks that she cannot marry Zhao Zhen, the man she likes.
Why is it impossible to marry Zhao Zhen?
First of all, at that time, Empress Guo had not been deposed, Cao Danshu naturally could not take her place, and the Cao family was a famous family, and Cao Danshu would definitely not be a concubine, even if it was the emperor's concubine.
Secondly, in Cao Danshu's view, Zhao Zhen was a person in heaven, and he couldn't reach it himself.
Since you can't marry the person you like, then who you marry is not married.
Moreover, in Cao Danshu's view, Li Zhi is not useless.
Taking temperament as an example, Cao Danshu felt that since Li Zhi loved cultivating immortals, and those who cultivated immortal cultivators were often more indifferent and gentle in temperament, and were not too rude and irritable.
Therefore, marrying someone with such a temperament, from another point of view, can reduce the risk of domestic violence.
In addition, as Cao Danshu herself said: "If my husband wants to cultivate immortals and ignore me, I will be happy to have more free time and can study." ”
Li Zhi loves Xiu Xian, marrying such a husband looks like a tragedy on the surface, but from another point of view, he has more free time, he does not need to serve his husband, if he has some hobbies and interests, he is busy with hobbies all day, it is not bad.
mentality
Logically, marrying a man you don't love at all should be a great pain. Hui Rou did not die early because of her marriage.
However, Cao Danshu can see luck in her misfortune, and she has to say that her mentality is really very bullish.
In fact, people live in the world, sometimes they really need a resilient heart.
Hui Rou and Cao Danshu's encounters are quite similar, they are both married by the elders in the name of repaying favors to men they do not like at all.
Unfortunately, Hui Rou and Cao Danshu suffered similarly, but the ending was completely different.
Hui Rou for the impossible to change the fact of marriage, day and night painful torture, refusing to let go of others and refusing to let go of themselves, when the disaster of fate came, Hui Rou's choice was to indulge in it, passive confrontation but did not take the initiative to stop losses.
Cao Danshu, on the other hand, has taken a completely different path from Hui Rou, she will make fun in suffering, and at the same time, she will take the initiative to do her best to save her own unbearable suffering.
A person like Cao Danshu, no matter who she marries or what kind of tragic situation she is in, she can try to turn herself upside down.
When Cao Danshu and Zhao Zhen talked about their first marriage, Zhao Zhen asked Cao Danshu if she was not sad and desperate when she was rejected by her new husband.
Cao Danshu replied to Zhao Zhen: "I just remember that at that time, I kept saying to myself, it was not that I was not good, my life was not good, I was not afraid, I had the ability to live well, so I would not let myself live a pitiful life." ”
Therefore, even if she marries Li Zhi, a man who does not love or love herself, I believe that Cao Danshu will not let herself go to a miserable situation like Hui Rou.
Regarding the tragic marriage between Hui Rou and Li Wei, Cao Danshu once expressed her opinion.
For the sentimentalist, Cao Danshu's words may make people feel too indifferent, but if you taste carefully, if you don't want to make yourself miserable, you have no choice but to accept the facts, try to solve the problem, and reduce your own damage as much as possible.
Cao Danshu: "Hui Rou was once the happiest girl, but in life, blessings and disasters are unpredictable, and when the disaster is imminent, it is necessary to minimize its damage. ”
Cao Danshu obviously liked Zhao Zhen in her heart at that time, but because of the arrangement of the elders, she had to marry someone she did not like, and in the eyes of pessimistic people, this was undoubtedly a devastating blow, and it was fate that made people.
However, Cao Danshu has always had a strong psychological quality, and she once said a sentence to Zhao Zongshi: "No one in this world can do everything smoothly, be satisfied everywhere, everyone likes, you can't, niangniang can't, in fact, the official family can't, they all have to be patient, they must persist." ”
Therefore, even if she marries Li Zhi, who she does not like at all, Cao Danshu's good attitude can help her fight against this unfortunate encounter.
Even if everyone on the side thinks that Cao Danshu is married to a husband who is obsessed with Xiu Xian, it is really unfortunate, but Cao Danshu can play a bad hand.
Finally, to borrow a sentence from Cao Danshu and Hui Rou, I end: No one's life is perfect.
And Cao Danshu can accept to marry Li Zhi, whom she does not love at all, because she knows the unpredictable nature of life's blessings and disasters, and since she cannot control variables, she can only strive to adapt to variables with a good attitude.
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