When we were very young, our parents and elders taught us that kindness is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.
After going to school, the teacher taught us the principle of strict self-discipline, leniency toward others, and kindness to morality.
Learning to read books allows us to understand more knowledge and learning of "being kind to others".
For example, "Even if you have a small amount of strength, you must help each other"; "Give people roses, leave incense in your hands"; "Those who love to return, and those who are blessed to go to fulai"; "Cherish the people in front of you, do not have resentment"; and so on.
The edification and baptism of China's excellent traditional culture, on the one hand, always guides us to treat all the encounters in life meticulously; on the other hand, we always do our best to let all people treat themselves well.
But after half a life, experiencing all kinds of things, seeing more and more people, we also understand more and more:
Not all people deserve our heartfelt treatment; not all sincere efforts can get true feedback.
There is nothing wrong with "inheriting virtue and promoting good deeds" itself, the key is to see who the object is.
Today's sharing is dedicated to honest people: some people don't be too nice to him, it's not worth it.
In life, people who love to take advantage and do not pay their debts
A lifetime is short, and in a limited time of life, no one does not want to live better than the people around them.
Through the right means and channels, with diligent hands to create a happy life. Such people are commendable.
If you always think of getting something for nothing, and base your happiness on the pain of others, it is very unkind.
This is the case with people who love to take advantage of and who do not pay their debts.
No matter how sincerely you help him, in his view, it is just a tool with usefulness.
I remember that there was a video on the Internet titled "Standing to Borrow Money, Kneeling to Ask for Debt", which once caused a hot discussion.
In the video, the kneeling woman hugs the thigh of another woman tightly and pleads bitterly: "I will lend you 600,000, just pay 500,000!" ”
Looking at the woman who was asked next to her, not only did she have no shame, but also had a posture of "I borrowed money by my ability, why should I pay it back". What he said and did completely angered netizens.
It is reported that the two were friends before, and when they borrowed money, they did not type an IOU and did not write a note.
Who knows, it is difficult to know the face of the person.
The woman on her knees must not have thought that her own good intentions would become a chip used by the other party.
This situation corresponds to the sentence: "Borrow money like a grandson, and repay the debt to become a great uncle." "The ugliness of its human nature is fully revealed.
You know, nothing in the world is taken for granted. Helping is the love point; not helping is the duty.
Truly reliable people know this truth. Even if there is selfishness, he will never harm others and benefit himself, and he will not repay his debts.
Some people are different. They like to take advantage of others everywhere, and they never think about others. When encountering difficulties, he would rather hurt others than save himself, even if the other party is his own relatives.
Therefore, no matter who borrows money from you, you must have an extra eye to see the true face and actual situation of the other party, such as whether to talk about credit, serious feelings, and whether there is economic repayment ability.
In life, we must beware of selfish and selfish people who are "greedy, ignorant of righteousness, and like moral kidnapping", especially those who have such bad deeds as "taking advantage of others and not paying off debts"!
Even if you have money, don't lend it to him, unless you are willing to be labeled as "stupid people have a lot of money".
In the workplace, people who pretend to be naïve and take revenge
Take stock of the nasty people and things in the workplace, and we can say a lot.
First, face to face with a set behind the back. When the leader was present, he was full of positive energy; as soon as the leader left, he complained and was passive and slack.
Second, I like to compete for merit. With honor and credit for oneself, when problems arise, the responsibility is pushed away.
Third, when he talks, he likes to pat himself on the back and brag about it; when he does things, he is mother-in-law and mother-in-law, pushing three or four obstacles...
etcetera.
In fact, the threat of these people is easy to detect, and it is not terrible.
The real horror is the one who pretends to be naïve and takes revenge. In front of colleagues, ta are often very naïve and clumsy.
For example, in any matter that is beneficial and inconvenient for him, he will suddenly act helpless in front of you and urgently need help.
For another example, you need to go to the front line to investigate and collect raw data, ta pushed back, the road is too far to catch up with the school to pick up the child, you need your line of fire to save the emergency.
For another example, a large number of materials are waiting to be copied, and ta deliberately clumsily presses a photocopier, claiming that he will not operate it and asks you to do it for you.
In the long run, he will push all the work he does not want to do to you.
And whenever there is a good thing, the TA will throw you out of the street a few streets early; when you have difficulties, he will never find a trace of the TA.
This is not to mention, what is more frightening is that one day, when you become a competitor on the road to a promotion and salary increase, he will not be soft, and he will never let you go because you have helped him.
On the contrary, in order to elevate himself, he not only talks about your privacy and length with people behind his back, but also taunts you and makes you stumble in places where you can't see.
By the time you find out, it's too late.
Therefore, in the workplace, we must be wary of people who pretend to be naïve and take revenge!
Don't be blinded by his innocent appearance, and don't be stupid enough to be sold and still counting money for him.
Treat feelings, deliberately please, cross the river and tear down bridges
In the relationship between the sexes, for their own selfishness, from deliberate flattery to crossing the river and demolishing the bridge, it is not uncommon.
Ms. Chen looks ordinary, has outstanding ability, and is a remarkable figure in a city's financial circle. Busy with work and career, her love life is as simple as a blank piece of paper.
At a dinner party, Ms. Chen met Wu Mou, who resigned from a financial company to start a business. Wu mou knows that Ms. Chen means something extraordinary to him, so he launched a fierce love offensive.
Movies, candlelit dinners, holiday surprises and romances... A sweet date, a warm greeting, in the face of Wu's carefully planned love and appreciation, Ms. Chen is willing to fall into the love network he deliberately woven.
With the help of Ms. Chen, Wu's company quickly achieved its predetermined goal, not only gaining fame in the industry, but also having stable customers, and its operating income also climbed steadily.
At this time, Wu Mou, whose wings hardened, suddenly changed his face!
He not only had an affair with Ms. Chen's assistant in public, but also ridiculed Ms. Chen's figure, mocking her dress for being in a fight with the cleaner downstairs, in short, how to embarrass her.
What is even more infuriating is that Wu actually instructed Ms. Chen's assistant to copy all her core secrets such as materials, business operation processes and future work ideas!
Ms. Chen is out of love and career, and has suddenly become a "silly big sister" in people's eyes from the industry elite, which is overwhelming.
Clear-eyed people understand at a glance, but Ms. Fan Chen knows how to "keep a hand" for Wu, and she will not end up with the end of "bamboo basket hitting water empty".
Treat a relationship, love, but also maintain some rationality. You can't pay it in error, and you can't deliver it all. Leave some love and leeway for yourself.
In a word, in intimate relationships, no matter what, you can't be too good to ta, and you must beware of TA deliberately currying favor first, and then crossing the river and demolishing the bridge.
Finally, again, honest people:
In life, love takes advantage of the situation, debts are not repaid; in the workplace, pretending to be naïve and benevolent will take revenge; treating feelings, first deliberately currying favor, and then crossing the river and demolishing the bridge.
These three kinds of people are not worthy of deep friendship, even if they have no friends, they must stay away.
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What kind of people in your life do you think can't have deep friendships?
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