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The ancients had a saying: "The house of good will have a remnant, and the house of the bad will have a remnant." ”
The family, like the people, has a distinction between blessing and misfortune. Blessed families can naturally benefit future generations. And families without blessings will eventually cause future generations to suffer.
What is a blessing for the family? What is the most important thing for families?
Some people will think that material assets are the greatest blessing of a family; some people will think that a rich family foundation is what a family needs most.
To tell the truth, money and fame, although it is important, a rich family foundation can naturally become the dependence of children and grandchildren. But can they really make a family prosperous for a long time? Not necessarily.
Money will eventually be lost, and material assets will eventually turn into dust.
Throughout history, there have been many rich and powerful families, but now they have disappeared. The culture of some families has been passed down, although they are not rich enough.
For a family, the greatest misfortune is not that the family is depressed, but that it lacks these three things.
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The biggest misfortune is that there is no good home style.
Some celebrities have said that the atmosphere of the family is like the soul of the person, which can make the family move towards a longer-term future.
The family atmosphere can make people worse, but also can make people better, the key is to see whether this atmosphere is deep and positive.
A family with a deep foundation, in general, its environmental atmosphere will not be too bad, and the character qualities it has shaped are also practical and simple. To sum it up in one word, it is a long stream of thin water.
And families without deep roots, like "upstart" families, are more arrogant and extravagant, and less simple and down-to-earth. As a result, children and grandchildren have become profligate, and there will eventually be a "decline" day.
I like this sentence very much: "Home without spirit is like a person without spirit, empty and empty." ”
A family, if it has a diligent environment atmosphere, then the sun will naturally become diligent. Even if this generation is very ordinary, the family still has a prosperous day.
On the contrary, a family lacks a diligent environmental atmosphere, which always makes laziness the mainstream, so that the family, even if the current family property is hundreds of millions, can not last long.
Family style, which is an intangible family asset, is more effective than material assets.
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The greatest misfortune is that there are no elders who lead by example.
There is a saying in the folk: "The upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked." ”
A house, if the beams and columns above it are not aligned, then the beams and columns below it will become crooked and twisted.
In the same way, for the members of the family, if the elders do not lead by example and play an exemplary role, the children and grandchildren below will also mess around and even do inappropriate things.
In ancient times, there was a family, and the parents who were in charge of the family were particularly stable and paid great attention to the education of their children. Even if you suffer more, you must let your son study well, hoping that he will be able to get ahead in the future.
This kind of life lasted for more than ten years. And their children, who were also titled in the gold list of the imperial examination, had a good career and became a high official.
Parents can have no culture or outstanding ability, but they must set an exemplary image for their children. Just think, you are particularly able to endure hardships, and you also teach your children to suffer hardships, so how can your children and grandchildren do nothing?
Elders who have no knowledge will teach their children and grandchildren who have no knowledge. All blessings and misfortunes are the result of interlocking links.
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The greatest misfortune is that people's hearts are not united enough.
Whether it is the family or the collective, we all need to emphasize one point, that is, "the cohesion of people's hearts".
The so-called "a chopstick is easy to fold, a chopstick is difficult to break" is this truth.
In a family, you have been working hard, but your partner and other family members are dragging you back, then the future of your family and your family is not worrying?
On the contrary, if you do your duty well, and your family also does their duty, then your family will be twisted into a rope, and why be afraid of the wind and rain of life?
In ancient times, why did the fool dare to move the mountain? Because Yu Gong knew that his generation might not be able to do anything, but as long as the generations persisted, the mountain would eventually be flattened.
There is a saying that "the hearts of the people are united, and Tarzan moves." ”
The reason why we can't do certain things is not that we are incompetent, but that the family is not united enough, and in the end, a grain of rat wastes a pot of porridge, and all parties get nothing.
Therefore, let the family members unite, less disputes, more harmonious coexistence, and believe that the future of this family will eventually blossom.
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summary
What is the most important thing for a family?
It can be summed up in one sentence, with the family style as the soul, the elders as the example, and the people's hearts as the foundation. Grasp these three points, I believe that there will be no unsuccessful families.
Take Zeng Guofan's family.
Zeng Guofan has always insisted on the creation of family style, and he has also done a good job, not only leaving a good back road for his children and grandchildren, but also taking the lead himself. More importantly, he taught his family to "live in harmony." In this way, Zeng Guofan and his descendants gradually developed.
The family is always the first and last school in people's lives. Whether it is down or not has little impact. And what is the atmosphere and environment of people's hearts, that is the core.
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