Not long ago, Mango Film and Television Revealed that the new version of "Marrying the Wrong Flower Car to the Lang" is about to start.
As soon as the news came out, it immediately appeared on the hot search, which triggered a heated discussion among netizens.
This millennium hit drama, because it is too classic, is still talked about by the majority of netizens to this day.
It has been said that women have two chances to reincarnate.
The first was birth and the second was marriage.
And the two heroines in this drama actually married the wrong person. Intriguingly, they eventually got a happy marriage.
And what's going on?
Seemingly absurd marriage, hidden in the mystery of fate
Li Yuhu and Du Bingyan are the two beauties of Yangzhou City.
The two were born in the same month of the same year and left the cabinet on the same day.
What's even more coincidental is that they are exactly the same even in their wedding dress and palanquin.
Du Bingyan's husband was Qi Tianlei, the third son of Jujiaqi Province in Linzhou.
Li Yuhu's husband was Yuan Unyielding, a general who guarded Jingzhou.
The two girls seem to have a happy marriage, but in fact, they have their own grievances -
Qi Tianlei was frail and sickly. He married Du Bingyan for the sake of chong xi.
Yuan Buzi and the Li family have been feuding for a long time. He married Li Yuhu for revenge.
On the day of leaving the cabinet, heavy rain fell from the sky, and the two welcoming teams ran into the Fairy Temple to avoid the rain.
Li Yuhu and Du Bingyan saw each other as they were, and they worshiped as sisters on the spot.
Soon, news came that the robbers were going to rob the Fairy Temple.
In the panic, they got into the wrong palanquin with each other.
These two marriages are originally evil fates. The two brides also got on the wrong palanquin, and the ending was frightening when they thought about it.
However, in the darkness, the arrangement of fate has its own reason.
In the play, the story of Li Yuhu is particularly impressive.
After learning that he had taken the wrong flower car, Li Yuhu was bent on fleeing back to Yangzhou.
She escaped halfway, but because she broke her foot, she was chased by the matchmaker and the maid. In the end, he could only make a mistake and pretend to be Du Bingyan to marry into the Qi Mansion.
From resistance to surrender, it is a process of growth
On the wedding night, Li Yuhu looked at Qi Tianlei Qingxiu handsome, completely unlike the legendary sick seedlings.
And Qi Tianlei did not force Li Yuhu to share a room, but lay alone on the table and fell asleep, showing the gentleman's style.
Until this time, Li Yuhu's attitude toward this marriage was still resistance.
Later, she found that Qi Tianlei had been pretending to be ill.
Qi Tianlei's cousin Ke Shizhao wanted to secretly kill Qi Tianlei and then seize the Qi family's property.
In order to let Ke Shizhao relax his vigilance, Qi Tianlei had to pretend to be ill every day in order to secretly collect evidence of the other party's crime and bring down the other party when the time was ripe.
Du Bingyan was born in a rich family and knew Dali.
And Li Yuhu's big grin did not have the temperament of Miss Qianjin at all, which inevitably aroused Qi Tianlei's suspicions.
One day, Qi Tianlei invited Li Yuhu to play in the Jinjue Building.
He deliberately used the "Oriental Wanli Mirror" to test Li Yuhu.
Li Yuhu was indeed successful.
In the end, she had to admit that she was indeed a fake Du Bingyan.
After learning the truth, Qi Tianlei not only did not get angry, but also promised that he would keep it a secret.
Qi Tianlei's thoughtfulness and humor gave Li Yuhu a great sense of security.
At this time, Li Yuhu's attitude towards Qi Tianlei gradually shifted from resistance to acceptance.
Soon, Ke Shizhao also began to doubt Li Yuhu's identity. He came up with all kinds of tricks to expose Li Yuhu's identity.
However, these tricks were skillfully defused by Qi Tianlei and Li Yuhu.
In this process, the relationship between Li Yuhu and Qi Tianlei became more and more intimate.
The two have the same three views, and both are jealous and hateful. Similar hobbies, both like to practice martial arts. When they are together, they giggle, play and play, and are full of life interest.
Li Yuhu is sincere and lovely, and when he does things, he is a bit reckless. And Qi Tianlei is wise and courageous, and he considers the problem very thoughtfully, which just makes up for Li Yuhu's shortcomings.
Because of this, Li Yuhu unconsciously fell in love with Qi Tianlei. At this time, her attitude towards Qi Tianlei had gradually shifted from acceptance to submission.
In the end, the evil man of Ke Shizhao was badly punished. And Li Yuhu made a fake and became Qi Tianlei's legitimate wife.
The reason why a bad relationship can become a good relationship, in addition to Qi Tianlei's kindness and wisdom, lies in Li Yuhu's inner transformation.
Looking at her attitude towards Qi Tianlei, she has undergone three changes:
Resist – accept – surrender.
When he first got on the wrong flower car, Li Yuhu thought that he would be finished in the second half of his life.
So, she always wanted to escape.
And when she and Qi Tianlei got along day and night, she felt Qi Tianlei's kindness, integrity and humor, she saw his shining points, and was deeply attracted to him.
In the end, the two join forces to defeat the bad guys and become a veritable couple. At this time, the marriage began absurdly, but ended in happiness, which made people rejoice.
Only by seeing the essence and learning to surrender can we be happy
Li Yuhu married the wrong person, but he was crooked and finally had a beautiful marriage.
This can not but be said to be: fate, wonderful.
In the play, Li Yuhu and Qi Tianlei sprinkle dog food from time to time, which makes the audience smile foolishly and is warmed by them.
In contrast, in real life, many married women always complain that they have married the wrong person when they encounter marriage problems.
However, they only complain and do not reflect on the nature of intimacy.
Friend Little C is.
Little C and her husband are college classmates. After graduation, they all stayed in Beijing to work.
Little C entered a state-owned enterprise, and her husband entered a large Internet factory.
A year ago, the two were licensed to marry. After marriage, the two bought a house with a mortgage, and the little life was full of taste.
But late last year, the husband was suddenly laid off by the company. The sudden change caught the little couple off guard.
Since then, nearly 20,000 yuan of mortgages per month have all fallen on Xiao C's shoulders, making her almost breathless.
As a result, the relationship between the couple took a sharp turn for the worse.
When they were first in love, those problems that were not problems are now infinitely magnified and have become a sharp blade that affects the feelings of the two people.
For example —
Little C is used to going to bed early and getting up early, while her husband likes to go to bed late and get up late.
Little C likes to read and learn, while her husband likes to play games.
Little C wants her husband to quickly find a new job, and after her husband has hit a wall several times in the interview, he has not moved again.
In the blink of an eye, her husband had been squatting at home for more than two months, and Little C's resentment was accumulating more and more. She even began to wonder if she had married the wrong person.
Later, they did several psychological counseling sessions.
Under the guidance of the counselor, Little C found that in this marriage, although the husband had problems, she also had many problems of her own.
Marriage requires both spouses to operate together.
After the husband was cut, he was ashamed and anxious. However, he will buy vegetables and cook every day, so that Little C can eat hot meals as soon as he comes home.
Little C turned a blind eye to her husband's efforts, she focused all her attention on how to repay the mortgage, completely ignored her husband's feelings, and often reprimanded her husband.
Little C always felt that he was now earning money to support his family, and if her husband did not do what she thought, it was his mistake.
The key to resolving conflicts is respect and understanding, not demeaning and confrontational.
In fact, both husband and wife come from different original families, and their living habits and life experiences are different, and it is normal to have contradictions.
Instead of complaining about each other, it is better to tell your true feelings, share with each other, and grow together.
After several psychological counseling sessions, the relationship between Little C and her husband was eased. The other day, her husband got a new job and is now at work.
It can be seen that in marriage, instead of chattering about your partner, it is better to put down your body first and learn to be humble and surrender.
Surrender in marriage must begin with building trust with each other.
In "Marrying the Wrong Flower Car to the Lang", with the passage of time, Li Yuhu gradually let go of the prejudice of Qi Tianlei, and the relationship between the two became more and more intimate, and finally defeated the bad guys together.
Through psychological counseling, Little C saw his own problems and also saw the highlights of her husband. She adjusted her mindset, constantly encouraged her husband, encouraged him, and finally helped him out of the predicament.
This is the power of surrender.
Surrendering to marriage means seeing each other's strengths and giving each other a chance to reconcile.
Accepting one's partner also means accepting one's own destiny and saying yes to one's own life.
In life, there are not many women like Little C.
They always feel that their partners are not as perfect as they think, and that it is their partners who ruin the second half of their lives. If you don't marry this person, you will have a better life.
However, this is not the case.
Rumi said: "Life is like an inn, grateful to every visitor, because they are the guidance sent by God."
In fact, all the people and things you meet are inspired by our hearts. Whoever you meet is the person you have to meet.
Of all relationships, intimacy is the best self-cultivation.
Marriage is a double dance. Your dance steps determine your partner's dance steps.
At the same time, your partner is also your mirror, which can see your truest problems.
When you resist your partner from the heart, in essence, it is you who disapprove of yourself. This resistance will bounce back to you through your partner and eventually leave you scarred.
And when you accept your partner, it means that you are looking into your own heart, you see and accept your true self.
At this point, you already have the power to surrender.
Judith? Olof writes in The Power of Surrender,
"Surrender is the art of reconciliation with oneself, with others, with external things. It is knowing when to hold on, when to let go, and to fully embrace the changes of the moment. ”
Surrender allows us to let go of our obsessions, get rid of perfectionism, and embrace more possibilities.
Learning to be humble and surrender is a turning point in one's life. It will help us open the door to a new world, let us accept all changes, look at life more peacefully, and look at others more inclusively.
When we let go of our obsessions and do not fight against fate, the power of surrender will naturally lead us out of the predicament and to a higher realm of life.
There, there is the eternal tranquility of life.
Teacher Zhang Defen said in her new book "Emotional Freedom Life Is Lighter",
"What kind of people you meet and what you experience are the true portrayal of your heart."
"When you see a negative emotion and transcend it, you find that all the unsatisfactory feelings of the moment will disappear."
"You will meet a better version of yourself, and a full life full of joy."
The power of surrender allows you to take your eyes back from the outside world and takes you to examine the deep-seated misconceptions in your head.
When you let go of your obsession and see yourself clearly, you will truly learn to surrender, and you will have a new life.
Believe me, everything in the universe is perfect.
Remember, behind every fateful arrangement, there are gifts that surprise you.
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