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2022.03.26—It's a pleasure to meet you and want to repeat this sentence to you ten thousand times
At the end of last year, when I was sorting out the Q&A question boxes for men and women, I saw a question that I don't know how many netizens chewed: Is there really a pure friendship between men and women? Here's an answer: To put it bluntly, two people can't look at each other. I decisively sent a screenshot to Yang Zijun.
"Is there pure friendship between a man and a woman?" Do you look up to me, can you see it and make it up? ”
"Really?"
Yang Zijun's serious tone made me a little confused, he was my friend, a friend of the opposite sex, the best friend, and my carefully selected family. This year is the fourth year we've been friends, and he's been by my side in those days of joy, or sadness, or depravity.
I often think back to when I first met him, and I never imagined that we would become lifelong friends.
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2018, hot summer and military training teenagers. Somehow I became the Military Sports Committee, looking at another Military Sports Committee standing next to me, a little tall, a little dark. This is my first impression of Yang Zijun.
As class committee members, the two of us exchanged frequently and quickly mingled together. He took good care of me, never let me lead the team to run, never let me shout slogans, all the criticism he would help me pick up, accompany me to the training.
At that time, he was like my shadow, inseparable from me.
The second round of revision in the graduation season was so intense that I was a little overwhelmed. I lie on my desk tired every day and often say, "Or I'll give up." Whenever this happened, he would wake me up, encourage me, and take me with him to study. It is no exaggeration to say that he was the beacon of guidance in my days, illuminating my time of depravity. I once told him that without you, I wouldn't be admitted to high school now, and he just smiled and didn't talk.
In fact, I also know that those painful and difficult days were all we came through together, and no one could do without them.
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Looking back on the first three years, I was indeed a rebellious girl. I rarely communicated at home, telling my parents stories about what happened at school, and there was only the clash of dishes and chopsticks and the sound of parents chatting at the dinner table. But Yang Zijun is a rare topic for me and my parents, and I will tell my parents a lot of trivial things about me and Yang Zijun, such as: what I ate with Yang Zijun at noon today, went to play with Yang Zijun during class, and Yang Zijun bought me a bread in the morning. Yang Zijun is a person that my parents trust very much, and it is my reason to go out and play and casually prevaricate my parents.
If it is our mutual friend, you can find that the amount of Yang Zijun in my circle of friends is extremely high. So, I'm often asked if the two of you are in love. Love, for teenagers, is a vague and extremely sensitive topic. The surrounding students will keep showing a little wind and grass, passing ten, ten hundred, and reaching the ears of the class teacher.
I once stood in the office and swore to my class teacher that Yang Zijun and I were absolutely not in love, and that the two of us were just a pair of opposite-sex friends with souls.
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For the matter of whether there is pure friendship between men and women, I once held a negative attitude, just like I once mistakenly thought that for a while, I liked Yang Zijun.
Not adapting to the new bad situation, not being able to walk out of the comfort zone, is Yang Zijun's evaluation of me. I didn't adapt to the bad situation in high school, I didn't have friends and classmates I knew, I would rush from the third floor to the first floor every day after class, waiting for Yang Zijun to eat with me. Over time, when a sense of dependence arises, we will only use the words of children like us to keep a relationship with him. He understood me, and he knew that my relationship with him would not be broken off in this sentence. When he said those words, I suddenly understood that friends will not disperse, and I do not like Yang Zijun, my feelings for him are far more than love and friendship, which is another interpretation of the soul.
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At some point, I do have some neuroticism, I will copy boring copy on TikTok and send it to him, I will casually throw a small tantrum with him, and I will ask him if you will come to be a bridesmaid when I get married. And then he'll reply to my boring words one by one, he'll make me happy, he'll tell me he's going to be Ultraman when I get married. I'm glad I had his company. Because of his company, I have been myself for many days.
Going back to the beginning of the question, he sent me a lot of messages later, saying that there was a time when I had some different feelings, and finally he found that the final end of the two people was a friendship that would not stop.
Is there really pure friendship between men and women? Yes, there must be. It is not that they look down on each other, that they are not "lovers above friendship". Love is not narrow, love is a friend, a good friend, a friendship without any distractions, a pure and clean friendship.
Thank you, Yang Zijun, my friend.
Tonight is small talk
What interesting story have you had with your friends of the opposite sex?
Anchor/Fu Yuhan
Singer/Lychee Fish
Written by/Lychee Fish
Editing/DJ Month