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Xu Di
Xu Di is a famous actor in the mainland and a national first-class actor.
Xu Di, as an opera actress, has been engaged in opera for more than 40 years, and she is the first winner of the "Plum Blossom Award" in Beijing opera;
On the screen, Xu Di is also the audience's favorite "mother professional household", also known as the TV screen "national mother-in-law".
As a famous opera performance artist, Xu Di's strength is beyond doubt, and she has won three awards of the Magnolia Award for Best Supporting Actress, The Outstanding Old Drama Bone of the Year, and the Supporting Actress Favorite of the Audience of the Chinese Opera Festival, just by virtue of the role of "Xue Zhenzhu" in "The First Half of My Life".
Stills from Xu Di's "The First Half of My Life"
From operas to film and television dramas, Xu Di is already a household name and a big star.
But in life, she has no shelf at all, she will go to the morning market to buy vegetables, talk to people, wear clothes and do not pay attention to the brand, as long as it is comfortable, she is so low-key, homely, it is inevitable that people will wonder who her other half is? What does it look like?
For years, there have been rumors that Yang Lixin is her husband, and some people say that Taiwanese actor Li Youlin is her lover.
In fact, Xu Di once made a rumor on the show that "there is no such thing at all" They are not her real husbands.
Xu Di debunked the rumors
Who is Xu Di's true lover, the dearest husband? This is a very romantic and long-lasting love story.
The story begins when she enters the Beijing Opera School.
01 17-year-old first love
Xu Di was born in July 1958 in Beijing, China.
Xu Di is the second eldest in the family, and she also has an older sister and a younger sister respectively.
Xu Di's three sisters are left and left
When she was a child, Xu Di studied well and loved to read, and at that time, her ideal was to become a worker and peasant soldier when she grew up.
Embarking on the road of opera is an accident and fate.
In 1974, the 16-year-old Xu Di had grown into a big beauty, a pair of charming big eyes and a large dimple, making her particularly conspicuous in the crowd, plus she also had a unique condition: a good voice with a round and jade body.
That year, the Opera Class of the Beijing Opera School enrolled in their school, and Xu Di registered for reference and was successfully admitted, but this was only the first step.
Xu Di had no foundation in opera, and when she first entered school, she suffered a lot both psychologically and physically.
First of all, she sang the introductory fork song, but she belonged to the midrange area, and the high could not go up, and the low could not come down, which made her very broken.
When she began to learn to sing "A Pot of Rice", her voice was hoarse, which was not tight, what made her most bitter was pressing her legs, and every time she heard the bones crackling, and the pain made her tears swirl in her eyes.
Xu Di is a strong woman, she knows that her foundation is poor, so she works harder than ordinary people, and soon she becomes the leader of the class by virtue of her strength.
Young Xu Di
Beautiful and hardworking, it is inevitable that some people are attracted to such Xu Di,
At that time, the head of their class, Yu Jianwei was one of them, Yu Jianwei was also a Beijinger, a year older than Xu Di.
Speaking of the two, the two can also be regarded as a pair of joyful enemies, at the beginning no one looked up to anyone, and when they met, they pinched, but no one expected to talk about love the next year when they pinched the two.
After graduation, the two were assigned to the same unit, the Beijing Opera Troupe.
From classmates to colleagues, from wrongdoers to lovers, Xu Di and Yu Jianwei talked about love for three years before entering marriage after graduation.
02 Career love goes hand in hand
In 1981, Xu Di married Yu Jianwei and gave birth to a son, Yu Zibo, in 1983.
At that time, Xu Di was immersed in the joy of parenthood, and at the same time worried about her work, she loved opera, but opera was a small drama, not everyone knew.
But Xu Di is not a person who easily concedes defeat, she is the kind of person who chooses a path and must take it smoothly.
In those obscure days, she insisted on practicing, insisted on rehearsal, and waited until late every day to go home.
Xu Di's persistence and efforts were looked at by Wei Xikui, deputy head of the Qu Art Troupe.
People who love opera are certainly not unfamiliar with Wei Xikui's name, she was a performance artist with the same name as Mei Lanfang, and the classic songs such as "Yang Naiwu and the Little Cabbage", "Laughing Karma", "Fang Pearl", "Tear Blood Cherry Blossom" and other classic songs starring her have not been talked about so far.
Originally, Wei Xikui did not accept disciples, but Xu Di was fortunate to be accepted by her as a closed disciple and personally taught.
Xu Di and Wei Xikui
Years later she learned that
The master made an exception and accepted her as an apprentice because her appearance on the stage was quite similar to her young self.
Originally, Xu Di worked very hard, and with the suggestions of famous teachers, her singing voice became more and more refined, and soon began to emerge in the opera industry.
In 1997, Xu Di won the "Plum Blossom Award" for Chinese drama "Plum Blossom Award" for the "Cheng Niangzi" in the opera "Longsugou", and she was also the first actor in Beijing opera to win the drama plum blossom award, after which she starred in "Young Heavenly Son", "Yang Naiwu and Xiao Cabbage" and other operas.
At that time, acting was not as highly paid as it is now, and although Xu Di was a famous actor, the pillar of the tuanzi,
But she also received a meager salary every month, and her salary and her husband's salary were only enough for their family of three to live an ordinary life.
In order to improve the living standards of her family, she will occasionally take over some TV dramas, but her heart still puts opera first, and only opera is the cause she has struggled for all her life.
Even if she became famous in film and television dramas later, her fame grew, and she never forgot her original intention.
Xu Di and his disciples
Xu Di was deeply influenced by her master Wei Xikui, and she also had a strong sense of mission and responsibility for Beijing opera.
In order to allow the Wei sect to continue to be authentic and carried forward, she also accepted a closed disciple Wang Yu.
Embarking on the road of film and television is a chance for Xu Di.
It was many years ago, when she was not yet thirty years old, she went to the communication room of the unit opera troupe to get a newspaper, and was favored by director Liu Wentian.
Early years Xu Di
Director Liu asked Xu Di if she was interested in acting in TV dramas, and he had a drama in preparation, in which there was a role she was very suitable for.
In the face of this sudden olive branch, Xu Di said with some surprise: "I am a drama actor, and I have never made a TV series. ”
For the first time in everything, Director Liu was optimistic about her, and he also thought that she was worried that she would not be able to act well, in fact, she was somewhat resistant to filming from the heart, and Director Liu continued to persuade her:
"Even if you perform every day and the venue is full, only more than 1,000 people watch it, and there are more than 30,000 spectators in a month." And if you act in a TV series, there are at least hundreds of thousands of viewers in one night. ”
Xu Di stills
Liu Dao's words moved Xu Di, and she asked to give herself time to think about it.
After returning home, she told her husband about this matter, Yu Jianwei supported her to try it, and now many film and television actors have transformed from drama actors.
However, at that time, there were regulations in the group that you could not casually take the role outside, otherwise the consequences would be at your own risk.
After getting the support of her husband, Xu Di did not make her own opinion, she also went to the group to ask for instructions, and after getting permission, she filmed her first TV series "The Lens Reaches the Courtyard".
Xu Di's "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" Lady Gan stills
03 "Mom Professional Household"
After filming "The Camera Reaches out to the Courtyard", Xu Di made some cameos in some film and television dramas intermittently.
For example, she has her wonderful performances in "Love You Are Not Negotiable", "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", "The Woman Who Wam Through the Man's River", "The Family Has a Difficult Scripture", "Zuo Zongtang", "Idle Centaur Big Sister", "Young Heavenly Son", "Family with Children" and other dramas.
Although they are all small supporting roles, Xu Di's profound opera skills have been well reflected in the shaping of film and television characters, as long as she appears, she can make people shine.
It's just that at that time, her main energy was focused on opera, so she also missed the opportunity to become popular.
For example, the directors of "Longing" and "Beijingers in New York", which were popular in the early 1990s, came to her to play the heroine at that time, but they were all rejected by her.
Later, after these two dramas were broadcast, the protagonists and supporting roles in the two dramas of the actors were red, and Xu Di's heart was inevitably a little lost.
Looking at her lost look, her husband Yu Jianwei comforted her. There is a specialty in the art industry, it is not easy for a person to be the top in his field, you are now the inheritor of wei Pai, the winner of the "Plum Blossom Award", and you have also produced your own album, you are already great.
And I believe that sooner or later you will also be on fire as a film and television actor.
It was really said by Yu Jianwei that the later Xu Di was not a big heroine, but the supporting role of "mother" was very brilliant.
Especially in 2008, after she officially applied for retirement from the unit, she had more time and energy to focus on film and television drama creation.
He has starred in more than a dozen dramas such as "You Are My Brother", "My Father and Mother", "Happiness Is Not Enough", "Divorce Agreement", "Big Husband", "Lost Orphan", "Little Husband" and so on.
In 2018, she won the "Magnolia Award" Best Supporting Actress Award with the role of Xue Zhenzhu in "The First Half of My Life".
Stills from "The First Half of My Life"
Xu Di was really as popular as her husband said, and with the shaping of various "mothers", she became a "mother professional household" and a "national mother-in-law".
This year, Xu Di was sixty years old. After the fire, there were all kinds of speculations, everyone was guessing who Xu Di's husband was, what he did, whether it was outside the circle or inside the circle...
Because of her low profile, Xu Di has never shared her family life with the outside world.
Therefore, some people began to rumor that her husband was Yang Lixin, and some people said that her husband was Taiwanese actor Li Youlin and so on.
Xu Di and Li Youlin took a group photo of the show
In fact, Xu Di's husband is neither Yang Lixin nor Li Youlin.
His name is Yu Jianwei, she is the head of her class at the Beijing Opera School, her first love at the age of 17, from opera to TV series, from the "Plum Blossom Award" to the "Magnolia Award", so many years can not be separated from his support and encouragement.
They have been in love for more than forty years and have been married for more than forty years.
Faced with the question of "who is your husband in the end", Xu Di has also been troubled.
Although there were many debunking of rumors, they were unsuccessful. Until the CCTV variety show, under the questioning of the host Zhu Xun,
Xu Dicai said shyly: "We met at the age of seventeen in the Beijing Qu Art Class, Yu Shi.
I am Yu Xushi, and I have the surname of my husband. ”
Taking your last name and naming me is a lifelong commitment, how romantic.
I have heard a saying: "Husband and wife are married, not to dress and eat, to have children, but to nourish each other, achieve each other, and improve the level of life." "Xu Di and her husband Yu Shi are like this.
Together, the two nourish each other, respect each other, tolerate each other and depend on each other.
04 Do not leave and do not forget
Speaking of which, in this marriage, Xu Di feels that her husband tolerates himself more.
For some time before she retired, she entered menopause, and every day she would lose her temper inexplicably and compete with herself.
Sometimes the son can't bear to see it, but Yu Jianwei can understand her, and he has spent that period with tolerance and companionship.
Xu Di also realized that she was often unreasonable, but fortunately, he did not dislike it, so that she could spend that time safely.
Of course, love is mutual, and Xu Di is also very good to Yu Jianwei. Once Yu Jianwei fell ill and was diagnosed with liver cancer. In order not to affect her work, he hid his illness from Xu Di.
After Xu Di knew, she was angry, but she did not believe in this result, and took Yu Jianwei to a different hospital for re-examination, and finally diagnosed as a hemangioma, although this disease is not as dangerous as cancer, but it should not be taken lightly.
During that time, Xu Di stopped her work and accompanied her husband to do surgery until she recovered, during which time she realized that she had paid too little attention to her husband in the past few decades, and her energy was spent on operas for the first thirty years, and later on film and television dramas.
In order to have more time together, Yu Jianwei became Xu Di's personal assistant after retirement, and at the same time, she also took on multiple jobs, acting as a correspondent, taking care of all her life, she only needed to be responsible for acting well.
Therefore, in recent years, Xu Di has so many brilliant characters appear on the screen, which is half the credit of Yu Jianwei.
Xu Di also shyly said that Yu's old assistant was free and did not have a salary, but the conversation turned sharply: "All the money I earn from filming is handed over to him." ”
Although Xu Di made a heartache expression, she felt the sweetness across the screen.
Since being Xu Di's old assistant, whether it is filming or recording a program, Yu Jianwei has accompanied her, sometimes she is on the stage, the host asks about him, she looks down at the stage, a raised eyebrow, full of happiness.
Yu Jianwei, sitting under the stage, swept the camera to capture the eyes full of love.
Xu Di's husband Yu Jianwei
Yu Jianwei was asked whether it was not easy and hard to do everything by himself.
Yu Jianwei did not ask for credit at all, he said: "I have nothing hard, I am physical work, she is mental work, she is the hardest." ”
Just ask a husband who is so considerate, supportive, understanding and accompanies him, xu Di can't think of anything.
I once saw someone ask, "What is a good marriage?" There is a highly praised answer:
A good marriage is nothing more than "I originally had a good life alone, and after adding another person, I had a better life." ”
Yu Jianwei and Xu Di are like this. Because of his company, she met a better version of herself.
Because of his support, after retirement, she opened up a new world and her career reached a new peak. Because of his company, she enjoys every moment of life.
Mr. and Mrs. Xu Di
A happy marriage is actually very simple, as long as the husband and wife both cherish each other, understand each other, do not care about the gains and losses, treat each other sincerely, and operate together with heart, it will basically have a happy ending, just like Mr. Yang Dai said:
"Half of life is chai rice oil and salt, half of the stars and the sea."
Put a little salt, it's salty,
Put a little sugar and it's sweet.
Whatever flavor you want to tune into, it's all up to you. ”
Wen ‖ one by one
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