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First of all: this Ma Li is not a happy twist, China's tens of billions of box office actress Ma Li,
It is Ma Li, a national first-class actor of the National Theatre of China.
I believe that audiences who like to chase dramas are no strangers to this Ma Li.
She has starred in more than 100 film and television dramas from Yilai and created many classic roles, such as Princess Gaoyang in "Wu Zetian";
the heroine Hu Die in "Movie Queen Hu Die", Mi Lan in "Spicy Female Soldier";
Zhu Bai Clan in "White Deer Plain" and so on.
These are all Ma Li, and not all of them are Ma Li.
As an actor, Ma Li can be described as the "evergreen tree" of the entertainment industry, and she is still active on the screen so far, and she is a veritable drama bone.
But who would have thought that her dream was not to be an actor, but to be an athlete, but an accident made her pass by her original dream, fortunately with her mother as a "military master" to make her life have an unexpected joy.
For Ma Li, her mother is the noble person in her life, she respects her, loves her and regards her as a "treasure", and what is even more rare is that her husband loves her as much as she does.
Ma Li with her mother
In Ma Li's impression, although her mother is not tall, she has always been a cool mother and her role model.
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In March 1966, Ma Li was born in Beijing, she has two older sisters and a younger brother below, for a total of four siblings.
Ma Li's father is an Indonesian overseas Chinese, who has been doing export trade abroad in his early years, and rarely has time to accompany his children, and this burden falls on Ma Li's mother.
Ma Li's parents were young
Ma Li's mother is not tall, only one meter and five two, but it is not easy for her to take care of four children alone.
Some people may say that Ma Li's father earns money outside, and it should be good that her mother takes care of them at home and does not worry about money.
In fact, in the early years, the conditions of Ma Li's family were not good, and she was sent to rural Shanxi with her parents when she was five years old.
It was a remote and backward place, so that Ma Li was bent on escaping it and returning to Beijing, but it was not an easy task.
Ma Li was born beautiful since she was a child, inherited her father's height and appearance, and at the age of 8, she was favored by the sports school because of her height and long legs, focusing on race walking.
Life in a sports school is very hard and tiring, but Ma Li is not afraid, she is afraid that she will not be able to study cultural classes like a normal child.
At first, Ma Li still felt that it was very good to practice race walking every day, without homework, but as she grew up, she felt more and more that cultural classes could not be left behind, and she wanted to grasp both culture and sports.
If she chooses a sports school, she can't be like a normal child, so she often complains to her mother: it's too hard and she wants to go back to Beijing.
After listening to her, my mother did not raise her head:
"Want to go back to Beijing? Take the test back with your skills! ”
Ma Li looked at her mother and felt that she was embarrassed by herself, she entered a sports school at the age of eight, and her cultural performance was already a big step behind, how to get back to Beijing?
Her mother's words undoubtedly made her bored, and since then she has not mentioned returning to Beijing, but has immersed herself in practicing race walking.
Ma Li wants to become a good race walker and get out of here and return to Beijing.
But an accident involving a motorcycle into a large truck nearly killed her, and although she was lucky to recover a small life, the doctor told her that she was no longer with the athlete.
Ma Li fell into a low mood, and the only light she could see was so knocked out.
She felt that fate was unfair, but she was helpless, and that period was the lowest time in her life.
But the most important thing at the moment is to rest and recuperate.
After taking a break at home, 17-year-old Ma Li went to work as a physical education teacher at an elementary school.
In the school every day with the children, Ma Li is happy and happy, in the eyes of the children, Teacher Ma is a tall and beautiful "child king", and at the same time an amiable and good teacher.
Everyone thought Ma Li was happy, but her mother could see that she was not happy.
Ma Li with her mother
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Once, when her mother saw Ma Li in a daze again, she said to her:
"Beijing's universities not only have Tsinghua University and Peking University, but also Beijing Film Academy and Central Academy of Drama, these two schools have low cultural scores, if you still want to go back."
Ma Li listened to her mother's words, and she was stunned for a moment.
Because her mother is a neat person in her heart, she does not believe that her mother is so open.
In addition, at that time, she did not know anything about literature and art, so she asked her mother: "Why do you dare to let me go to art college?" ”
"Aren't you bold, thick-skinned, talk crosstalk, and act in sketches!" Mom replied.
Ma Li also inherited her mother's fierce side, she knew that she said this as a radical method, anyway, there is no way back, it is better to give it a go.
Unexpectedly, she really passed the three rounds of the Chinese opera exam with "big courage and thick skin" and was successfully admitted, and in 1988, Ma Li finally returned to Beijing with the honorable "exam".
In fact, Ma Li's mother has always been the one who knows her daughter best.
She knew that her daughter was unwilling, she was not willing to stay here for the rest of her life, and she also believed that she had the strength to walk out from here.
Originally, being a teacher was also a good choice, and she was stable for life, but when she saw that her daughter was unhappy, she tried to encourage her daughter, so she came up with such a radical method.
Unexpectedly, her daughter was really on the road and was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama as she wished.
Originally, she could rest assured that she should be proud of her daughter, which is the reaction of normal people.
But Ma Mu she is not an ordinary woman, she did not sit back and relax, but advised her daughter to negotiate business with her father, go to school, and do trade business.
And she is willing to contribute the first start-up capital.
Ma Li didn't understand her mother's intentions a little, thinking that she had just been admitted to Chinese opera and studied hard, why did she have to learn to do business again?
The mother saw that her daughter had doubts, and she paused and said:
Not everyone can do an actor, and if you find that you can't be an actor, you can also retreat to the next place to do business.
Her mother's words made Ma Li daigo, worthy of being an old mother, thoughtful and comprehensive.
"Moreover, women can only find good men if they are financially independent," Ma Mu continued.
Ma Li was amused by her mother's words, but she agreed with this view:
Women should remain independent, both financially and personally, so that they can live as they like.
So Ma Li learned business with her father while studying, and not only did she not fall behind in four years of college, but her business also did well.
The mother is proud of her daughter, she has always been optimistic about this little daughter, not pampered and willing to improve.
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In addition to giving her daughter guidance in her studies and career, her mother is also her daughter's teacher in life.
When studying Chinese opera, Ma Li participated in dramas such as "Sister Row" and "The Curious Case Has Not Ended", and her performance was not bad, and she was assigned to China Youth Art when she graduated in 1992, but she gave up choosing to do business abroad.
For her daughter's choice, the mother did not interfere too much, she knew that her daughter was an adult and had her own choice.
But in the marriage of her daughter, she has a clear request, that is, to bring herself to marry together.
Her mother was a "dowry", which was heavy for Ma Li, but she accepted it gladly, and her husband did not say a word.
Maybe someone will sweat for the future son-in-law when they hear this, because living with your mother-in-law is just like living with your mother-in-law and mother-in-law, but it's not that simple.
But there is also a very sensible mother-in-law who will not only not affect your married life, but will also make your life the icing on the cake.
Ma Mu is such a mother-in-law.
Ma Li married early, and she married just after graduating in 1992.
Her husband is an outsider and a businessman, and he is a straightforward and optimistic Beijinger.
As a mother, Ma Mu did not express any opinion about her daughter's early marriage, she just told her at the time:
The advice I can give you for marriage is that you must take me with you when you get married. I don't follow your eldest sister, second sister, or your brother, I will depend on you.
In the face of her mother's advice, Ma Li didn't say anything, she is the youngest daughter in the family, and she loves her the most and sticks to her the most when she beats her mother, and it is also appropriate to bring her around.
Ma Li's husband also approved, but they probably didn't expect their mother to be so clingy.
Ma Li goes to film, her mother has to follow, Ma Li goes shopping, watching movies, and eating with her husband, and she will also go to make fun.
But the good thing is that she followed quietly on the side, did not nag, did not interrupt, and only made a summary at the critical moment, so that her daughter and son-in-law felt that "what Mom said makes sense."
Enlightened, understanding, supportive, and respectful of your life, such a mother stays around, the daughter is willing, and she can push you at critical moments to make you better.
Ma Li did not rush to have children after marriage, and did not plan to have children until she was 30 years old.
In this regard, the horse mother did not give birth, 36-year-old Ma Li was pregnant at an advanced age, although the mother was worried, but she didn't say anything, just took care of her as much as possible.
Watching her daughter's weight soar from 110 to 180, she still went out to dance every day, she didn't care, giving her daughter absolute freedom.
Ma Li with her son
However, when Ma Li's son was just over the moon, her mother urged her to go out to film.
So Ma Li began to lose weight desperately in order to receive a better drama, and after hard work, her figure finally returned to her prenatal appearance.
At this time, her mother told Ma Li: "I didn't want you to make money when I sent you out to film, but I hope that you can lose weight and become a beautiful woman immediately." ”
Who doesn't want such a self-disciplined mother, she wants her daughter to lose weight may be so that she can not lose points in front of her son-in-law, so that their husband and wife relationship is not affected, but the most important thing is that she wants to see her daughter always be beautiful, healthy and happy.
"Spicy Female Soldier"
These, Ma Li, who has also become a mother herself, naturally understands her mother's heart better.
She knew that her mother was never vexatious, that every piece of advice she gave was for her own good, and that she had indeed become better because of her suggestions.
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Ma Li was able to fully return to filming after giving birth, and her mother has the greatest credit, because her mother has always helped her carry her since her son was born.
Ma Li goes out to film, and sometimes brings her mother and son.
Sometimes the filming place is too far away, Ma Li can't take them, but when she misses her son, her mother will take her to visit the class, which makes Ma Li feel very happy.
She never imagined that one day her mother would fall.
In the summer of 2002, Ma Li was filming in Kunming, and her mother took her two-year-old son to visit the class, and that night her mother suddenly fainted and fell to the ground.
Ma Li couldn't wake up, she quickly called the medical staff of the crew, and the first nurse who received the call told Ma Li that "Mom is critically ill" after taking Ma's pulse.
Ma Li with her mother
Ma Li was blinded all of a sudden, isn't "critically ill" notified after the hospital examination, and her mother is usually very tough, how can she suddenly become critically ill.
After arriving at the hospital and doing an examination, the doctor told Ma Li: It is a brain tumor membrane and must be operated.
Ma Li almost fainted, but she must be strong, but the medical conditions in Kunming are not as good as in Beijing, and Ma Li wants to take her mother back to Beijing for surgery.
Ma Li called her eldest sister and second sister, and they cried when they learned that their mother had a brain tumor, and rushed to Kunming as soon as possible.
But Ma Li didn't have time to cry, she had to make a decision, but the most taboo thing about brain tumors is to fly, because the high pressure in the air may make the tumor compress the nerves, causing life danger.
After thinking about it, Ma Li decided to bring her mother back to Beijing.
After her mother woke up, Ma Li didn't tell her the truth, just smiled and told her that there was nothing serious, and there was a little problem with her heart.
When Ma Mu heard her daughter say this, her mentality relaxed, and she promised to fly back to Beijing with her daughter, thankfully, Ma Mu just slept on the plane and landed safely in Beijing, without tumor compression nerves like she worried.
When she arrived in Beijing, the date of the mother's operation was quickly set.
On the day of the operation, Ma Li's husband happened to be on a business trip, and her brother was also on a business trip, and it was Ma Li and her two sisters who accompanied their mother in the hospital.
That day, the doctor issued a total of four critical illness notices, and the operation protocol was as long as 17 items, all of which prompted the mother of various accidents that might occur: death, vegetative state, paralysis, each of which worried Ma Li.
But until she pushed into the operating room, the horse mother did not know what disease she had, but because she had to shave her hair for craniotomy, the horse mother had questions.
Ma Li gave full play to her acting skills as an actor at this time, making up all kinds of nonsense about why she had a heart problem but had to shave her hair.
She finally told her mother that when she came out to buy her a wig to wear, she would still be an old beauty.
Ma Li's two sisters were already crying on the side, and finally Ma Li was stunned by Ma Li and said directly: "I don't care what kind of disease I have, I can come out alive." ”
Ma Ma's operation lasted more than six hours, during which time Ma Li and her two sisters were anxious, she did not want to lose her mother, she was taking care of herself until she was almost forty years old, she had not yet enjoyed a day, she prayed.
Fortunately, her mother's operation was successful, but after the operation, she was admitted to the ICU, and Ma Li could only look at her mother lying on the hospital bed through the small window, she thought of her mother's side, touched her hand, and probed the temperature of her forehead.
In order to be able to enter the ward to see her mother, Ma Li used various methods, and finally applied to volunteer to help critically ill patients carry feces and urine before they could touch her mother.
There are six people in the ward where Ma Ma lives in, which means that Ma Li has to help five people except her mother to carry feces and urine together, and when she pours urine on the first patient, the catheter is pulled out, and the urine splashes her face, but she behaves strangely because there are still people watching outside.
Those people still thought that she was a real nurse, anyway, she finally walked to her mother's bed, touched her hand, patted her face again, and called "Mom" softly, her hand fell, and at that moment Ma Li burst into tears: "Mother is still alive." She was finally relieved.
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After that, Ma Li carefully took care of her mother, and she was safe and healthy for a year and a half after her craniotomy.
In the second half of 2005, when Ma Li took her mother to the hospital for a follow-up, she found that the brain tumor membrane found her mother again, this time Ma Li and her mother were very calm, and they followed the doctor's arrangement for a second craniotomy.
This time, the mother was hit with 4 large steel needles on the head, but the horse mother was optimistic, and on the way home, the neighbor asked her why she went, and she said that she was going to travel.
When people asked her what happened to her hair, she said it was her new haircut.
My mother didn't die twice, and Ma Li was grateful for everything.
But because the tumor compressed the nerve, the horse mother still left some sequelae, her eyesight began to decline, and her personality became suspicious and critical.
In the past, she lived in a large villa with her daughter and son-in-law, happy and happy, but one day she asked to buy her a separate house, and it must be the first floor.
Ma Li was still hesitating, and her husband immediately clapped: "If Mom wants to buy it, let's buy it." ”
So they bought a house not far from home according to their mother's requirements, but Ma Li was not worried about leaving only a nanny to live with her mother, so she moved to her mother's new house with her husband and son.
When Ma Li was at home, she accompanied her mother, and this burden fell on her husband when she went out filming.
But the horse mother did not appreciate it, and she scolded her son-in-law if she was slightly displeased: "Get out, this is the house my daughter bought." ”
As a son-in-law, Ma Li's husband is not angry, but Ma Li feels sorry for him, and she apologizes to him: "It's okay for my mother to scold me, after all, I am her own child, scold you, I think it's quite undeserved, I'm sorry." ”
Ma Li's husband smiled and said: "What do you say, in this family, mother is the queen mother, we all have to follow her, you don't have to think about my feelings, be filial to your mother, don't leave regrets." ”
Ma Li's husband is also really good, filial to the top, caring for the bottom, mutual understanding and mutual support between husband and wife, no wonder she wants to marry him after graduation, and the marriage is still as loving as ever.
Of course, Ma Mu not only competes with her son-in-law, she also fights with her favorite grandson, and her son often sues his mother.
Every time at this time, Ma Li patiently told her son:
Grandma is an old man, you have to let her point, and then say that Grandma has no heart and says ugly words, she still loves you in her heart.
My son didn't understand it at the time, but when he grew up, he understood that as long as his grandmother was happy, he could do anything.
Ma Li's son
Ma Li felt that her mother was a little strange, how could people who were so enlightened and reasonable suddenly become arrogant and unreasonable.
After she went to consult a doctor, she learned:
It turned out that the mother's temperament changed greatly, because of the impact of craniotomy, on the other hand, it is likely to suffer from Alzheimer's disease.
This news shocked and distressed Ma Li, it turned out that her mother did not mean to oppose them, nor was she playing tantrums, she was sick. But there is no cure for this disease, so it can only be raised and carefully cared for.
In the past, every time Ma Li went out, her mother helped her clean up and gave her thousands of instructions;
Now every time she goes out, her mother will only stick to her ear and say viciously: The plane will fall and kill you.
In the past, Ma Li would have been very angry when she heard this, but now she won't, she will hug her thin mother and say: "Well, obedient, the plane will not fall, otherwise who will buy you candy to eat." ”
Since her mother fell ill, Ma Li, her husband and son have treated her as an old child, a living treasure, and everything is fine as long as she is happy.
Ma Li's father passed away in July 2018.
This was a thing that made her sad and heartbroken, and it also made her cherish the time with her mother even more.
Looking back on her childhood, it was her mother who took care of everything she had, gave birth to her so well, and made her feel that she was a happy daughter at all times. Now that she herself has become a mother, she can better understand her mother's difficulties.
"You raise me young, I raise you old" Ma Li was determined to be a good daughter who returned her mother's love with her heart and had no regrets, and she did it.
Over the years, as long as there is no drama, she has accompanied her mother, taken her out to play, climbed mountains, and the old lady's body still looks very tough, which is the most gratifying thing for her, and she will continue to accompany her in the future.
In the legend, there is a story of crows feeding back, and the "Compendium of Materia Medica, Poultry Department" also contains:
Ciwu: This bird is born and the mother feeds for 60 days, and the long one feeds for 60 days.
This means that when the little crow grows up, the old crow can no longer fly and cannot find food on its own, and the little crow will in turn find food to feed its mother until his death.
This story has been dictated from generation to generation, and almost everyone knows it, but not everyone can do it.
Ma Li did it, she changed from a happy daughter to a good daughter, not only that, her husband also took care of her elderly and sick mother-in-law with no regrets.
The couple led by example to influence their son, and the family was happy for three generations, which is the best family tradition.
I hope that this atmosphere can blow into more families, so that more families can be warm and happy, and everything will be prosperous at home.