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These two days of brushing videos, I saw a clip on the previous variety show: a diminutive mother and her eldest daughter, as well as twin sons on the show, telling their own mental journey from marriage to having children.
The mother is only 80 centimeters tall. Such a body shape, needless to say, even if you can get pregnant and give birth to a child normally, it will be a dangerous thing.
So what is the belief that made this mother give birth to a daughter and then give birth to a son?
It is by no means simply the desire for procreation. If you know her story, you will find that her life is full of "not accepting defeat" and "not accepting her life".
She was short in height and had some deformed feet, and after marrying her husband, she was watched by the villagers. In addition to discussing her height and body type, they were more laughing at this man and how he married such a daughter-in-law. Can you spread the branches for him?
She was not convinced, and after consulting the doctor, she learned that her illness did not affect her fertility, so she thought of having a child for her husband.
Although the daughter was born premature and spent a month in intensive care, she eventually recovered and was discharged from the hospital. At this time, there was a rumor in the village, "Just gave birth to a female doll, should the child be like her mother, a dwarf?" ”
At this time, in order to fight for breath, she decided to have a second child. But no one expected that the second pregnancy would suddenly be pregnant with twins.
After normal people are pregnant with twins, it is also inconvenient to walk, sit and lie down, not to mention her height of 80 centimeters. But she overcame all the difficulties and inconveniences of pregnancy one by one, and finally the twins gave birth to two sons.
Although there are physical deficiencies, God seems to have given her what she wants, which is another form of compensation.
I don't know what her original intention was to give birth to a second child, if it is really to give birth to a son, it is similar to the situation of many mothers who only have daughters.
Today, mothers in some areas are still in a difficult situation because they have not been able to give birth to their sons.
Either they have a knot in their hearts, and they always feel that they have not been able to give birth to a son who can be passed on to their husbands. Either they don't want to have children anymore, but they still have to continue to have children under the pressure of their in-laws, and if the second child can't give birth to a son, then they have to have a third child.
I have a cousin in my old family, who is a strong character herself, who said that after getting married, she would come out and come to my city to find a job and work hard. Unexpectedly, she became pregnant not long after getting married. So I can only obediently stay at home, raise a fetus, and wait for delivery.
I had gently advised her that if she wanted to work hard, she should pay attention to contraception, and she also nodded her head and said yes. Who knows, the eldest is only two years old, and she is pregnant with the second eldest again.
Because she had two children, her hard work plan was postponed indefinitely, and I didn't mention it to her anymore.
Later, when she returned to her hometown for the New Year, she heard from her relatives that she was pregnant again. And what is "surprising" is that what is in her belly is a boy, and after giving birth to this child, she can completely seal her stomach and not regenerate.
I don't know how much she wants to have three children in a row. Only from everyone's voice of "three children can be regarded as a male baby", it seems that she also has no choice.
It is said that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation, which I do not quite agree with. But what kind of partner to choose and how many children to have will indeed affect the second half of a woman's life. Still can't make a decision rashly.
[Do you have any examples of having two or three children out of helplessness? 】
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