A few days ago brushed such a short video, a post-90s father took his daughter to the supermarket to buy vegetables, the daughter wanted to buy a bottle of canned food, because the girl was recently cold, the father refused the daughter's request, but also promised to buy after the cold is good.
When the little girl heard that her father did not agree, she immediately prepared to "play lai", tears swirling in her eyes, and Lai did not leave in place.
It is reasonable to say that this father should yell hard, or "raise his hands and surrender".
But I didn't expect that this was a strange person, only to see him immediately lie down on the ground, he began to "throw and roll", shouting "don't buy, don't buy", the little girl standing next to him was momentarily confused, not knowing what kind of god operation Daddy was.
The customers in the supermarket found this magical scene and gradually gathered around, and the little girl became a little embarrassed, wanting to quickly pull her father up and stop losing anyone.
But this father, like an authentic child, continued to lie on the ground and sprinkle, while shouting "don't get up, don't get up", which made his daughter feel really humiliated.
Finally, the little girl could only sigh helplessly and said to her father: "Let's not buy it, let's get up." The father stood up happily and made the crowd laugh.
Children "sprinkle and roll", parents should not be too conniving
In life, I believe that many parents have encountered similar situations, children use splashing to "threaten" parents and mothers, it is indeed an innate skill, many parents are difficult to resist, and finally can only choose to compromise.
However, as long as parents compromise once, it means that there will be countless compromises in the future, and whenever the child is rejected by the parents, it will use the trick of "throwing and rolling", from a certain point of view, the child's behavior is equivalent to "pampering and arrogance".
Therefore, when encountering children messing around and rolling around, parents must not condone, in the process of educating children, parents must have a bottom line, principles, and must adhere to it when they should insist.
Of course, to say that really like this father, it is not realistic to choose "take the child's road, let the child have no way to go", after all, not everyone has such "social cow X disease", most parents still can't pull down their faces, and this scene is indeed a little too embarrassing.
Therefore, when dealing with children's "sprinkling and rolling", parents should still choose some more rational methods, and they can also properly solve the problem.
What should parents do to deal with children's "sprinkling and rolling"?
Method 1: "The enemy does not move, I do not move", quietly watch the child's performance
There is a post-90s bao mom with children shopping, passing by a toy store, the child cried and shouted to buy Ultraman, Bao Mom said that there are many at home, refused the child's request, the child immediately lay on the ground and rolled.
Bao Mom is very calm about this, just standing not far away, quietly watching the child perform, and not long after playing with the mobile phone.
After nearly half an hour, the child saw that his mother was indifferent, and could only obediently get up from the ground and follow his mother home in frustration.
In the face of the child's unreasonable requirements, the mother's handling method is of great reference significance, many times the child herself is actually reasonable, but because of the poor emotional control ability, impulsively chose to use the method of "threatening" parents to achieve their own goals.
If parents can not compromise, do not be soft-hearted, and achieve "the enemy does not move, I do not move", then the child sees that the method cannot work, and will naturally choose to give up.
However, it is worth mentioning that when we quietly watch the child perform, we must ensure that the child is in a safe position and pay attention to the child, so as to avoid the child encountering danger and accidents.
Method two: do not get angry, educate the child afterwards
When the child "throws and rolls", some parents, although not compromising, choose a more extreme way: they are angry at the child in public, and even scold the child, which makes the child emotionally collapse and forcibly pulls the child away.
Although such an approach can indeed "solve the problem", it is easy to cause harm to children, children are young, but often have a strong sense of self-esteem, many children have been because of their parents in public scolding, and left a psychological shadow.
At some point, someone asked, "What is the thing that your parents hurt you the most?" Of the nearly 20,000 responses, many were about the experience of being reprimanded, scolded, and left faceless by parents in public, and even if they have grown up for many years, they have always been worried about it.
Therefore, in the face of the child's spitting and rolling, we must pay attention to controlling our emotions, not only to avoid compromise with the baby, but also not to get angry, and wait until after the "victory" to educate the child afterwards.
For example, to soothe the child's emotions, clearly reject the child's reasons, let the child understand that the parents do not love him, and then further and the child "about the three chapters of the law", and then encounter similar situations, how should the child correctly express his request, if he will still "throw and roll", what kind of punishment will be faced, and negotiate a good way to deal with it together.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Many children become lawless because their parents connivance again and again.
When encountering children rolling around and arbitrarily "threatening", we must keep the bottom line, do not compromise or get angry, and then educate the children after their emotions are calm, and then educate them to truly solve the problem from the root.
Today's topic: How will you deal with your child's "spitting and rolling"?
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