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As the old saying goes: Forty is not confused, fifty know the destiny of heaven, when a person reaches middle age, the obsession in his heart will pursue something completely different from when he was young.
Most people think that men in their forties and fifties are mature and stable, have rich social experience, and understand a lot of human feelings.
But in fact, they are not as bright as they seem on the surface, they will often drink alcohol, and they will also sneak tears in no one's corners, especially when no one cares and there is no home to rely on, they will be very vulnerable.
Therefore, many men in society are still confused even though they have reached the age of forty or fifty.
In fact, many middle-aged people are actually lonely and miserable in their hearts, as long as they wake up every day, they are surrounded by people who need to rely on him, in the middle age stage, most people are old and young, both to take care of work and family, but there is no one around them who can make them rely.
However, after all, they are also ordinary people, they should have equal rights to pursue happiness, for the post-70s, the best way to live in life is to give up 3 things to avoid the desolation of the evening.
When people reach middle age, they lose their attachments and go with the flow
For elderly parents, the most important thing is filial piety, listen to their parents' ideas, follow their wishes, and do not stubbornly insist on their own views. In daily life, obsessions related to career, family, and friends should be slowly let go.
Learn not to be arrogant, go with the flow, learn to slowly put the mentality at peace, there is not so much entanglement and anxiety, you have more time and energy to work towards your life goals. Quit arrogance, refuse anxiety, let go of some unnecessary obsessions, and don't make yourself too entangled.
In fact, all kinds of obsessions in life originate from people's brains, and the human brain deals with all kinds of things in a holistic way, and once this wholeness is destroyed, it will cause a series of mental illnesses, such as unfinished plots, and the brain has only two choices to avoid or hunt.
When people are young, they prefer to choose the latter, in order to complete their dreams, they can pay any price, even if they are scaled all over the body. Because young people always uphold the belief that as long as they have worked hard, they will not regret it.
But when people reach the middle-aged and more than half of their lives, they have experienced everything they should have experienced, even if they have regrets, they have no choice. Because in the journey of life, no matter what choices you make, you will inevitably leave regrets, what you need to learn is to let go, let go of those regrets, focus on the things in front of you, as for those regrets and obsessions, let them stay in the past, and gradually forget them.
When people reach middle age, they lose unnecessary social interactions
When you reach fifty, you will understand that the excitement of the second half of life begins with the abandonment of useless social interactions, and when you are young, you are constantly intertwined in various social situations and come and go to Vanity Fair. In middle age you can put it down.
The circle of friends around people in middle age should be stable, and those unnecessary people are no longer worth your time and energy. Which people are truly in contact with themselves, and which people are just walking in the form, your heart must have been clear.
At this time, your ability to adapt to social norms has become stronger and stronger, as long as you carefully manage the small circle around you, you can get unexpected surprises.
So stop wasting your precious time on useless people, leave the hustle and bustle to the outside world, and leave the silence to yourself. Middle-aged people should learn to embrace the new world.
When people reach middle age, they lose their youth and pick up time
When people reach middle age, they should let time to hone their state of mind, the connotation of maturity, and stay away from the disturbances of the outside world. The most important thing for people to reach middle age is to be able to afford to put it down, not to be afraid of failure, as long as they can stand up again, it is not a real failure.
In middle age, although youth is no longer there, as long as you can actively face the growth of age, gradually settle down, and spend more time on meaningful things.
No one has said that middle-aged people can't succeed, as long as you can use your time reasonably, even if you reach the age of 50, it is not without a chance of success. The so-called late completion of the big instrument is this truth.
As a post-70s who have gradually entered the middle-aged stage, we must learn to actively give up the above three things, and the second half of your life will be more exciting, and your life will be more free, live freely, and live soberly.
In the middle age stage, you must believe that no matter what you have lost in your past life, there will always be someone to accompany you. Count the joys and sorrows of the years, and recall the sorrows and joys of past lives.
Your life, whether you are in a good situation or adversity, no matter what kind of people you have met or what kind of things, as long as you have worked hard, bravely faced, and worked hard to win, you can draw a perfect symbol of your life.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205