Today is the International Day of Happiness, and the pursuit of happiness has become the goal and expectation of everyone's universal pursuit.
Happiness has a wide range of meanings, so what is true happiness?
Happiness is learning to live peacefully in life with all the status quo that cannot be changed.
Behind every person, thing, and environment you don't like, see the lessons you need to learn, accept reality, change yourself — remember to change yourself, not others.
The following 10 happiness rules, each of which is worth collecting, can change your life by following them.
Many people always think that good scenery is in the distance; good life is in another home; good luck is someone else's.
In fact, no matter where people are, good scenery is around, good life is at home, and luck is in their hearts.
The first law of happiness: a pair of eyes that discover the world, the ability to create life, the wisdom to understand oneself, and the state of mind to let go of fear.
There are many times when life is frustrated, and there are fewer times when it is satisfactory, so there are nine times out of ten that life is not satisfactory, and no one is an exception.
However, we often know our own unsatisfactory, but we do not know the unsatisfactory of others.
The second law of happiness: only by taking all kinds of unsatisfactory things as the norm of life and living in harmony with them, we will feel peace and happiness.
People tend to infinitely magnify other people's good life experience and feel that they do not have enough; in fact, it is not necessarily happy to be happy when it is sunburned, and whether others are living well or not, you really don't know.
Even if it is really happiness, it is the happiness of others, and it has little to do with you.
No matter what others have, whether they are afraid, jealous, or envious, they all belong to others, and our true happiness ultimately depends on what we have and how to live in harmony with ourselves.
The third rule of happiness: remember your goals and change yourself.
The most beneficial and effective thing we can do for ourselves is to change ourselves, step by step closer to our goals, use the resources we already have to create and enrich our lives, and focus on the things that can make us harvest and grow.
Pain often stems from the failure to expect from others, especially the indifference, inconsiderateness, and indifference of intimate people, which is inevitable when we entrust the responsibility of warming ourselves to others.
Behind all the strife, suffering, and hurt is the absence of feeling safe, not being accepted, understood, and loved, and the starting point and core of the resolution of suffering must be a response full of kindness and care.
The fourth rule of happiness: everything starts with self-responsibility.
Happiness The harmony and tranquility of this world is never outside, in the hearts of each and every one of us and in the act of coping with suffering.
【What you can do when you find yourself comparing yourself with others】
(1) Ask yourself, what do you feel when you feel inferior to others?
(2) Why do I feel uncomfortable and sad?
(3) Why choose to compare with this person, is there any missing part of your life?
(4) What can he do and you don't, and what do you need to do to bring your life closer to what you want it to be?
(5) Discover your own resources: Take stock of everything you have, and use everything you already have to create the life you want.
(6) Ask yourself: What progress and growth has there been compared with yesterday?
(7) Devote time, energy and resources to practical actions and constantly revise and change yourself.
The fifth rule of happiness: not to compare yourself with others, only with yourself.
【How to love yourself】
1 Make yourself the first person responsible for loving yourself and don't expect anyone else.
2 Listen to the body's instructions to sleep, eat, and exercise on time.
3 Learn and learn to comb and regulate your emotions.
4 Immerse yourself in nature, even if it is a pot of flowers, a flower.
5 Do not please anyone.
6 Do only self-serving things.
The sixth rule of happiness: Love yourself.
What you believe you will see.
So if you really want to change,
Change from the perspective of how people and things are viewed,
Not changing the people and things you see.
The Seventh Law of Happiness: Keep Believing.
At the heart of happiness is warm relationships.
At the heart of a relationship is a stable mood.
At the heart of emotional stabilization is the feeling of being heard, seen, and loved.
The core of being heard, seen, and loved is being heard, seen by oneself, understood and supported by oneself.
Learn to love yourself, make yourself the source of love, and the people around you will be easier.
The eighth rule of happiness: the premise of loving oneself is stable emotions.
"The secret to pain is gratitude."
Too many people would rather be miserable than change. For those who live in pain, pain becomes a lifelong companion. People who change in pain, pain slowly transforms into happiness.
Together, let us cultivate a heart full of beauty, warmth and happiness with gratitude. In gratitude, discover the good, have the good, immerse yourself in it.
The ninth rule of happiness: always be grateful.
Man is born twice, the first time, he came to the world from the womb of his mother; the second time, he was able to learn to be his mother and care for himself in the ups and downs of fate.
May I know that all people are originally perfect, and the reason why I feel that I am not good enough is because my past experiences have obscured the beautiful part of myself that I have seen, and the beauty has always been there, and may I find my originally beautiful self in thousands of explorations.
The tenth rule of happiness: Always believe that the original self is good enough.
Text | Dr. Aquamarine
EDIT: Pastoral
Comic: Wanting