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After retirement, the work arrangement will be idle, at the same time, there will be more time for yourself, and if you can pass it reasonably, you will not be bored by sudden changes.
Some people really will be like this, when they first retired, they were comfortable, they worked for most of their lives, and now they can rest, and their hearts must be happy.
However, with the long time spent at home, not everyone can quickly adapt to the life in front of them, and many people will feel lonely easily.
Whether before or after retirement, very few people can really break away from society and exist, although everyone needs a certain amount of solitude time to empty their minds, but people need to live in groups, need a certain liveliness, to enrich their lives.
After retirement, people with high emotional intelligence will take the initiative to please 3 people.
01. Please your children;
This kind of flattery does not mean that it is necessary to bow your head to do things to please your children, but more refers to a kind of active closeness and contact, rather than blindly waiting for your children to come back to visit you, especially passive.
The journey of parents and children is destined to be gradually distant, when parents walk on the road of gradual aging, children may continue to carry new responsibilities, the more weight on the shoulders, the more so, a person's energy is already limited, especially the arrow of love is always downward.
At this time, parents will inevitably be ignored.
My mother once said such a sentence, which basically means that they are old now, and they have no big hopes for life, and when they are at home, they especially hope that their children can come back to see more. When my mother said this, I felt very guilty, in fact, I did not realize that my mother was almost 60 years old. My life is full of too many things, I have to work every day, I have to study, and when I get home, I can't wait to lie in bed. As for parents, although they often call or video, the number of times they go back to visit may be once or twice a year, except that they will go back to play for a period of time in the New Year, and the number of times they usually go home is not much.
The main thing is that I can't walk away either.
So, later I thought of a way, anyway, my mother retired and there is nothing wrong, I let my mother come to my place to play. My mother was still very willing to come, but I didn't say it before, she was worried about whether it would cause me trouble when she came, so she didn't dare to take the initiative to say it.
Between parents and children, most people are ashamed to express their thoughts and emotions, and many times they are more introverted and reserved.
In fact, as a parent, if you miss your child, you can take the initiative to get close to this relationship, rather than just blindly waiting for your child's love and return. Sometimes, without saying anything, the child may not really realize it.
02. Please friends for many years;
No matter what age you are, a good friend can really be the same existence as the light on the road of life, and never discard it.
Especially after retirement, life begins to become idle, and friends at this time, as a kind of existence to pass the time, absolutely play a role that cannot be ignored.
People, always have to go out to contact new people and things, in order to always feel that life is more interesting, it is easy to think wildly when you are alone.
I saw this in my mom too. Since retiring, a really large part of my mother's spare time life is supported by friends, she has a lot of friends who have a good time, and if there is nothing to do, everyone often gets together, and the original boring things may become interesting.
For example, if my mother is at home alone, she may not usually want to go out to buy vegetables, but if her friends call to let her go out, the same to the market, my mother may buy a few dollars when she comes back, but she is still very willing to go on this trip, two people on the road to chat, talk, time is passed, will not seem so boring.
I used to teach my mom to shoot videos, and my mom forgot how to do it for a while. To be honest, in fact, I was a little impatient after teaching a few more times, and I didn't want to teach.
Later, I found that my mother actually knew a lot of things, and when I asked, sure enough, her good friend taught it, and she has now become more fond of taking videos, and her mood is much better.
Some time ago on 3.8 Women's Day, my mother and a group of her friends, especially with a sense of ceremony, went out to dinner together, everyone AA system, when my mother took a video to show me, I felt that she was very happy.
Like-minded friends do not have to be intimate, when bored, everyone can sit together and chat, when the mood is not good, they can comfort each other, even if it is to spit it out, it can also ease the mood a lot. To put it bluntly, everyone is an ordinary person, and many people actually do not have the ability to be alone and think forever, nor do they have the ability to solve their worries alone.
Some unhappy feelings, really need to take a breakthrough from friends, in your comfort sentence by sentence, slowly look at some things.
03. Curry favor with relatives who come and go frequently;
Family affection is also an important asset on the road of life.
In this world, there are good family affection and bad affection, and it is true that not every relative has a bad heart. In fact, under general circumstances, although the family affection will not be perfect, at least the overall situation is still positive and positive.
Therefore, when you retire to the old age, good family affection must be constantly consolidated, move around more, and let this relationship continue.
When people reach a certain age, emotional needs will really increase greatly, no matter which aspect of the emotion, is indispensable.
My grandmother is in her 80s, her brother is almost 90 years old, every year on my grandmother's birthday, her brother always arrives a day early to celebrate her birthday, so many years have never changed, each time will quietly give my grandmother some money, my grandmother does not want, and then two people will be there to push and shove, and finally my grandmother will generally receive.
To be honest, when I see such a scene, I am more moved every time.
At a certain age, when more and more people around you begin to leave, the weight of family affection at this time will definitely continue to increase, and it can also become a lamp to warm the heart, and some people still think of you, how lucky.
Those relatives who come and go a lot, really don't lose them.
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