Psychologically speaking: anger is a reaction to something, or an act of explaining oneself.
So, if we react to things or explain ourselves in other ways, will we be less likely to get angry?
We propose four effective guidance methods that can indeed reduce the frequency of contradictions and conflicts.
The first approach is to cultivate an apologetic communication style.
One case of anger is the refusal to acknowledge responsibility and the initiation of the response.
There is a contradiction that this is not my business, and if you try to calm the anger by apologizing, it will make the other party realize that you can also assume the responsibility that belongs to you, and then the other party will make concessions accordingly, resulting in a situation of shared responsibility.
When we were very young, we heard the story of the sum, this story. It is said that some people later said that Lian Po apologized because Lin Xiangru did hold real power. Some people also say that the relationship between Lian Po and Lin Xiangru is actually not so good.
Of course, in terms of history, we will not do too much research for the time being. However, through this story of apology, it is still very good for cultivating children to solve problems through apologies.
The second approach is the exemplary role of non-aggression.
We can often see in life that children's behavior often comes from imitation of their parents.
I remember once shopping at a roadside shop, and it was a little girl who temporarily helped his mother to see the store.
This girl was deeply frustrated because she couldn't find what I wanted, and she had been beating and beating her mother, at this time, his mother came back, expressed strong dissatisfaction with the girl's behavior, and began to wrestle and scold.
You will find it easy for children to emulate their parents' behavior, whether positive or negative.
Therefore, we should build the understanding that whether it is to stop the misconduct of others or to educate others, the power of example is greater than any form of education.
The third way is to build problem-solving skills.
There is an anger in life that is powerlessness.
You may feel angry that you don't play a game you don't understand, and if you do something you know well, it's less likely to get angry.
The reason for the frustration of playing the game is also because the ability to solve the corresponding problem is not strong enough.
The same is true in life.
So, the more problem-solving skills we can build, the more helpful it is for us to manage our emotions. At the same time, we can also see that the more capable people in life, the less the number of anger is also the reason.
The last is to cultivate compassion, this does not make too much explanation, the stronger the compassion, the stronger the empathy ability, the stronger your perception of others, then you are easier to understand others, it is not easy to be angry.