We often discuss whether to have two children and three children today, in fact, there are several three-child families in the dream of the Red Chamber, we may as well joke about it.
Jia Fu's ancestor Jia Mu gave birth to three children. The eldest Jia Amnesty, the second Jia Zheng, the third Jia Min.
The first two were boys, the third was a girl, and the children were both gone. If we look at our values today, Jia Mu obviously wants a daughter.
But in fact, in the ancient times when the mother relied on the son to be expensive, it was still the most popular to give birth to a son, and didn't Wang Xifeng also want a son in his life?
For Jia Mu, she married from the Shi family to the Jia family, from Miss Qianjin to the daughter-in-law of the Jia family, her biggest task in this life is naturally to open branches and leaves for the Jia family and continue the incense, which is also the biggest confidence for her to sit firmly in the position of the head of the family in the future.
Moreover, for an aristocrat like Jia Fu, the family's great cause is not bad for money, and there are not many children, who will inherit these family properties in the future?
Don't say it's three, if Jia Mu is willing, regenerate a few, Jia Fu can also fully afford ah, more children and more blessings. Didn't the first generation of Ning Guogong have four sons?
People like Jia Fu are not only not bad at money, but also not bad at people. Having a child, you don't have to bring it yourself at all, there is a special nursing mother to feed, and the older one has to teach Grandma, it can be said that it is not too comfortable.
Just like we have children today, if the family conditions permit, we will ask the sister-in-law or even a full-time nanny, and when the children are older, please ask the tutor, anyway, as long as there is money, it is not a problem to have a few.
In the past, people had more children, there was a key factor, in the past the medical level was extremely low, the survival rate of babies was low, more than a few to ensure that children became adults, if only one is born, in case you can't feed, let alone become a talent, the succession has become a problem.
If nothing else, a single chickenpox and smallpox can kill you. Lin Daiyu has a younger brother, who is three years old and has not been supported. Jia Daihua, the Duke of Ningguo, gave birth to the eldest son, Jia Shi, who was raised for eight or nine years old, or died, and it is estimated that they are all related to these diseases.
Such a door as Jia Fu wants money and money, has status, has a large number of subordinates to serve, has its own school, and naturally will not be worse in the education of children at the beginning.
Like the old man Jia Pardon, although it is not serious, but there is Zu Yin can attack the knight, the first-class general can be OK? Moreover, Jia Fu's huge industry, even if it is a loser, is enough for him to flutter.
The second eldest, Jia Zheng, was more studious, and if he were not an official given by the emperor, he could have been admitted by his own ability. But who let him be born in the Jia family, he didn't even have to participate in the imperial examination, and when he reached the age, he was directly assigned to work, and he was a formally appointed civil servant from the beginning, which was really good.
For the old third Jia Min, a girl's family, influenced by the concept that a woman's talentlessness is morality, is golden and noble when she is not out of the cabinet, pampered and habitual, and when she leaves the cabinet, she finds a good family and has a good home, which is also excellent.
Jia Min married the former detective Lin Ruhai, which is equivalent to finding a third-ranked husband in the country, who let her be born in such a door as Jia Province, in the ancient times of paying attention to the door, Jia Min married Lin Ruhai, and neither of them lost money.
For Jia Mu, three children, one inheriting ZuYin, one being decent, and one marrying well, she should be very pleased. At least as a woman of that era, Jia Mu was worthy of the ancestors of Jia Province, and she was also a truly blessed person.
In addition to Jia Mu, Jia Zheng, the second oldest, is also a typical three-child family. He and Mrs. Zheng also had three children, namely the eldest Jia Zhu, the second oldest Jia Yuanchun, and the third elder Jia Baoyu.
It is a pity that Jia Zhu was diligent and studious, entered school at the age of fourteen, and married and had children before the age of twenty, but later he fell ill and died.
There are three major pains in life, the loss of a father at an early age, the loss of a son in middle age, the loss of a husband in his old age, and the unexpected death of the eldest Jia Zhu, which is naturally an extremely heavy blow to Mrs. Jia Zhengwang, who has entered middle age, and is the biggest scar in the depths of her heart.
Fortunately, after Jia Zhu left this branch for himself, he had a son, Jia Lan, but he suffered from his wife Li Feng. In that era when women regarded their fame as greater than the heavens, Li Feng was also a lady who had received a female moral education, and after her husband's death, she was destined to remain widowed for a lifetime.
This is not very acceptable for us today, a woman, young and dead husband, with or without children, most women will choose to "go one step further", rather than staying in the in-laws' house alone for a lifetime.
It can only be said that women in the past have suffered too much. You see after Jia Zhu died, Li Feng was like the ashes of a dead mallet, ignorant of everything. If she hadn't had a son, I really don't know how she would have survived.
The second eldest, Jia Yuanchun, even if he has won the glory of the family, those men in Jia Province cannot count on it, and they are all the masters of the pit family's failure, but they have to rely on the daughters of Jia Fu to revitalize the family.
Wang Xifeng, Qin Keqing, Jia Tanchun, Jia Yuanchun, whether it is the daughter-in-law of the Jia family, or the Miss Jia family, which one is not a well-known fat powder hero? To be talented is to be good-looking, it is really a hundred times stronger than those men with the crown.
But what Yuan Chun paid for was his entire life. She was born in Jia Province, said that she was the eldest lady of Jia Province, her status was respected, and even later she became a noble concubine, and she was above ten thousand people under one person and was respected by people, but all this was not what she wanted.
These three children of Lady Jia Zhengwang, one died, one entered the palace, are not around, only Jia Baoyu, the youngest son of the Demon King of the Mixed World, is around, and because of this, Jia Mother and Lady Wang love like a treasure.
Although for Jia Zheng, he and the concubine Aunt Zhao also had a son and a daughter and two children, in the ancient times when the concubines were distinguished from each other, the birth determined everything, and the children born of the concubines naturally could not be compared with the children born by the concubines.
It is reasonable to say that the brothers and sisters are not around, Jia Baoyu, the old and young, should study harder and provoke the courage of the family, but he not only cannot share the worries of his parents, but often causes many incidents, so that the whole family follows the fear, with our concept today, Jia Baoyu is a loser who is not a weapon.
Jia Mother's three children, the eldest is not a tool, the old child died early, Jia Zheng's three children, the eldest died early, the old and the young did not become a tool, can only say, as parents, it is not easy to raise children, even if they were born in an aristocratic family like Jia Fu.
Although their diet and living are taken care of by the bearded mother-in-law, if they want to become adults, they will have achievements in the future, and as parents, they cannot be taken lightly. For most of our families today, to raise three children, let alone become talented, adults have to use all their strength.
Author: Xi Si Shao, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.