Text: Xi Xihuan
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After entering the society, many people have experienced the beating of the workplace and the trough of failure, only to find that the most carefree era is the campus.
When we are students, we always look forward to growing up, and we feel that it is particularly depressing to go to class every day, do homework, and bother with our parents to make up reasons for bad test results.
At that time, many people felt that maybe it would be better to grow up, and when they grew up, there would be no such worries, there would be no shackles of school, no parental discipline, they could be more free, and they could do a lot of what they wanted to do.
However, the reality is that when we grow up and have freedom, we find it difficult to enjoy freedom, because of our livelihood, even if we don't like the job, we have to force ourselves to do it; when we start to shoulder more responsibilities, we know that growing up means that we need to take on more.
The tiredness of reality will make many people nostalgic for the years when they were in school, so class reunions have become a way for many people to find memories.
Old classmates who have not seen each other for many years get together, talk to each other, talk about interesting things when they were in school, as if their age has also regressed to many years ago, and the pressure in their hearts seems to have been cathartic.
However, some people see the other side from the class reunion, out of the campus, the students who have different starting points after years of struggle, today's appearance and social status have changed greatly, and the relationship between people has begun to become less pure.
After the friend Zhao Long got married, he was a good gentleman, not only pushed off the general socializing, but also broke off contact with all the opposite sex, in order to give his wife a peace of mind.
But just after the New Year, the college class leader organized a class reunion, which made Zhao Long move his mind, remembering the roommates in the same room in college, as well as the girls who had a crush, Zhao Long decided to participate in this class reunion.
His wife was very supportive of him, because college was a very special student era, where many people changed their fate and made lifelong friends.
Zhao Long was looking forward to the arrival of that day, and even bought new clothes for this party, in order to look more energetic in front of his old classmates.
On the day of the party, Zhao Long arrived at the hotel early, and during the banquet, after the students arrived one by one, everyone greeted each other.
Some people used to be unremarkable, but now they are mixed well, they are worth a lot, driving luxury cars, and they are all dismissive between words and deeds; some people were once stormy figures, but they were repeatedly frustrated in society, and they did not have a stable job at the age of thirty, and they were cautious when talking to people, for fear of offending anyone.
All this made Zhao Long feel very unhappy in his eyes, originally to find out how he felt when he was on campus, but everyone talked about those topics in the workplace.
Seeing the girl who once had a crush but did not dare to confess, seeing the well-mixed classmates did everything to please and flatter, and the badly mixed classmates greeted her but ignored her, Zhao Long once felt that he had looked away.
Before the party was over, Zhao Long paid his share of the money and found an excuse to leave early, and on the way home, he bought his wife the most favorite snack.
It was also because of that reunion, although Zhao Long still had memories and nostalgia for the university, he did not look forward to the reunion again, because that reunion exposed three cruel realities.
01 The love of classmates will fade
In fact, many people are like Zhao Long, in the society, they always feel that the feelings of the student era are the purest, and after facing too many social deceits, they yearn for the pure friendship that was once there.
However, people are all changeable, people's hearts are more complex, even we ourselves can not guarantee that they will never change, let alone the old classmates who have not been seen for many years after graduation?
So when we get together again, if we find that the classmates who were better before are not so close, and may even deliberately alienate us, in fact, this is normal, not because we are not good enough, but some classmates will fade with the stretch of time.
In the face of such feelings, we do not need to feel pain, and we do not have to insist on regaining that feeling of familiarity, because after all, those who leave us are not related to us, and those who have a relationship will not be strange no matter how long they have not seen each other.
02 Success is inseparable from the struggle and hard work behind it
After attending the class reunion, Zhao Long felt that there were several well-mixed classmates who were not in sight, and even some were too arrogant, which was completely disrespectful to the performance of the old classmates.
But later, after understanding the actual situation, he learned that they were also bitter. Because the starting point is not high, and there is no family background, so it has always been a special fight.
After making the results, some of the former classmates came to them, either borrowing money or wanting to get some benefits. At the beginning, they were also sincere in helping, but in the end they found that the so-called "classmate feelings" were just an excuse for themselves to be used.
When the heart is cold, there is also a defense. After knowing this, Zhao Long suddenly understood them, and the love of classmates is very precious in the eyes of some people, so the old classmates have difficulty finding themselves, and they are obligated to decide to help.
However, in the eyes of some people, classmates are just a resource that can be used.
Behind the success of these students are suffering from the efforts of ordinary people, so the results achieved are naturally worthy of their attitude, if they have not been hurt, how can they be so "proud"? To say that it is arrogant is to say that it is self-preservation.
03 Reject the ambiguity of "classmate reunions"
In the end, Zhao Long wants to take another look at the former crush girl, in fact, he is also hiding his selfishness, not really wanting to betray his family and partner, but wanting to give an account of the feelings that he once fell in love with but did not succeed.
The girl he saw at the class reunion disappointed him, so he wondered why he had liked her. Conversely, what if she hadn't let him down? Is there a further ambiguity between the two people?
There are not a few people who play ambiguous at class reunions, they feel empty and lonely in their marriage and love, so they want to find the feeling of that year through the beginning of the party.
People who do this eventually regret it, not only ruining years of classmate love, but also betraying their families, and even divorcing people for this reason.
Whether it is the ambiguity at the class reunion or the temptation of the outside world after marriage, we must know how to reject and restrain ourselves, because once we indulge ourselves, perhaps the regret can no longer be made up for a lifetime.
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