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Do you prefer boys or girls? Will you choose to have a second child? Around the child's gender and love issues, netizens will discuss for a long time every time. But have you ever thought that Dabao's gender may affect your idea of choosing a second child?
Why are parents of first-born daughters more likely to have a second child?
A mother shared that she originally wanted to have a second child after seeing an article, she gave up the idea of having a second child, which analyzed the current situation of young couples' fertility:
If the first child is a daughter, then the husband and wife are more likely to have another baby, but if the first child is a boy, the husband and wife are less likely to have the second child.
If you think that this is a son preference, it is a big mistake, the real reason is that girls are more sensible and well-behaved to some extent, parents with children will be more relaxed, under the premise of "daughter obedience", young parents think that they have mastered the "code" with children, and another one can cope with it.
But for a family with a boy, of course, there is also the hope of having a daughter to make up the word "good", but after experiencing the raising of their sons, these parents have a deep understanding of themselves and their children, since there is no diamond diamond, they will not work on porcelain.
A more common phenomenon is that parents raising girls pose as "experts" to teach the experience of the families raising boys.
But in fact, daughters are like border herdsmen, boys are like huskies, different personality characteristics need to be domesticated in different ways, boys and girls have different characteristics, and parenting education cannot be confused.
Proper parenting can do more with less
There is indeed a big difference in the way boys and girls are born, but it is not that boys are not easy to raise, but that it lies in the method.
Families with sons often complain that boys are naughty, in fact, it is not caused by personality, girls also have cheerful personalities, and the reason why boys are "difficult to manage" is mainly because of "testosterone".
Testosterone can make boys more energetic, promote height development, and stimulate morale. From the age of 10 or so, the boy's testosterone will rise sharply, the body will change a lot, and the personality will become aggressive, anxious, and emotionally high...
Some girls, if testosterone is elevated, will also show the same active and mischievous as boys.
In addition to the different hormonal effects, the brain structure of boys and girls is also different. We know that the left and right brains each have a mission and rely on callosum connections.
In contrast, there is relatively little connection between the left and right brains of boys, resulting in some activities boys can only think with one side of the brain, so boys are good at hands-on, while girls who think with two brains at the same time are better at communicating and expressing.
At the same age, boys' development is more delayed, and many boys still maintain motor neurodevelopment at the primary school level, and hyperactivity and naughtiness are normal manifestations.
If because of developmental reasons, boys are criticized by their parents, they are prone to become negative about themselves, their self-confidence is hit, and it will seriously affect their later development.
The biggest difference between raising boys and girls is not the difference between good and bad
Many parents of boys complained that in addition to saving more money for having a son, it seems to take more energy, and when he was young, he had to play with him, and when he grew up, he was worried about the boy's trouble.
And giving birth to a daughter is completely different, every day you only need to dress up your daughter beautifully, or be dressed up by your daughter, in short, give birth to a daughter as long as you quietly watch her grow up.
In fact, boys and girls are like different kinds of flowers, they all have their own flowering periods, and they should be taken care of equally by their parents.
Both boys and girls should be spiritually rich, and God's abundance covers too much.
Children must first respect their parents and elders, treat others politely, and then enter the social society, both boys and girls need to be confident, dare to accept challenges, and play their role in the collective environment.
Spiritually rich, the material requirements must be decided according to the actual situation, within the scope of ability, reasonable material input is allowed, and there will be problems in the cultivation of wealth.
For parents, they should be more aware of the characteristics of the growth of boys and girls, and what kind of responsibilities they should assume when they grow up, rather than staying in the wrong cognition of "girls are easy to raise, boys are difficult to raise".