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"2 gold and 1 silver" ended the Winter Olympics!
"Gu Ailing Hot Search"
On February 8, 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics, in the final of the freestyle ski women's big jump, Gu Ailing's third jump challenged the super difficult action "turn to the left axis 1620" that had never been done before, and staged a miracle reversal, suppressing the world's no. 1 player and winning the championship!!
On February 15, she once again won a new silver medal in the final of the women's steeplechase in freestyle skiing, with the perfect performance of the third jump. This is her second medal at the Olympics.
On February 18, Hegu Ailing won another gold! In the freestyle women's U-shaped venue final that Gu Ailing is best at, she lived up to expectations and won the 8th gold for China! Gu Ailing ended perfectly with 2 gold and 1 silver at the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics!
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"Genius Girl"
Behind the flash, she is as bright as she is in front of the stage. "Stanford School Bully", "Model", "Play Football, Piano, Ballet Jumping, Horseback Riding, Rock Climbing, Basketball, Bungee Jumping...", "And Yi Qianxi Endorsement Advertisement", "Design Competition Suit - Dragon Pattern", in 2021, the entire endorsement and signed advertising cooperation is close to 20, and its commercial value is also growing. It is really to achieve the ultimate balance between life and hobbies, and how many people envy the unattainable big winner of life.
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"The Best Mother"
In the documentary "Gu Ailing: I, 18", you can feel the excellent education method of Gu Ailing's mother to her children, which is very worthy of everyone's admiration and learning.
"Your make-up tuition cost me a month's salary, you can't study hard, can you afford me?"
"How can you not study well?" Do you know how hard it is for Mom and Dad to make money? To earn money to support your family, for you to go to school, food and clothing, utilities ... What kind of thing does not need to cost money, how can you be worthy of us! ”
"You children now really don't know how blessed it is, how hard it will be for us when we are young..."
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These similar situational conversations can often be seen in our lives, can you say it's because your parents didn't love you enough? No, it's not. They are also the first time to be parents, and no one has told them how to "be parents", and they have only inherited some of the educational ideas of the previous generation, and even lost themselves in the "power of love" to play multiple identities, controlling and venting their emotions in the "name of love".
"Guilt education", by confiding in their own suffering, let children empathize with the guilt, and then will compromise with their parents to fulfill their parents' expectations, and finally achieve the purpose of education. This form of education is common in most families, but many people are unaware of its philosophy, pros and cons, and how it is used.
Children who grow up in this kind of "guilt education" will gradually become inferior, anxious, low self-worth, and insecure when they grow up. These psychological characteristics will accompany the child's life for a long time, and will gradually form the child's "guilt thinking mode" personality, which will have an adverse impact on a series of social activities afterwards.
But on the other hand, the education of Gu Ailing's mother is full of love wrapped and respectful of each other's independent individuals.
In order to support her daughter's skiing hobby, Gu Yan will drive back and forth to 8 hours of snow every weekend of the snow season, send Gu Ailing to participate in ski training, and this silent payment lasted for 10 years, and there was no pressure on the child and poured out his dissatisfaction to make the child feel guilty, which may cause the child to give up this hobby because of the heartache of the mother or because of the mother's extremely high expectations, there will be a certain pressure on the training and can not enjoy the fun of his hobby, and the result will also have a certain impact.
To put aside the general family, parents will definitely say "such a big snow day, running this 8-hour drive, how much oil and time did I consume, do you want to give me a good study, are you worthy of me?" "I've paid so much for you, but I'm waiting for you to become a talent!" ... The discourse of this kind of guilt education can sometimes affect a child's pursuit of his or her former interests.
Gu Yan also said to Gu Ailing, "You don't have to thank me when you grow up, you don't owe me anything, I just want to thank you." I often say to Gu Ailing, you don't have to thank me for taking you to learn to ski, I want to thank you, so good at skating and willing to play with me.
She is very aware of her identity and responsibilities as a mother, and does not exert pressure on her children as a mother. Rather, as independent individuals, each grows and develops themselves together.
She was seen by her parents and encouraged to chase her dreams, to create her own possibilities, to be herself. It is this sincere recognition and response that she is accepted and believes that her existence is valuable, and the sense of security is fully valued, so that we can see a positive and confident and energetic "genius" girl.
Looking back at the February 8 challenge to the "1620 World Jump", she said in an interview that she called her mother for help when she was hesitant to challenge the new difficulty. "I was on the phone with my mom after the second jump, and my mom asked me to go to 1440 and get a silver medal if I played well, but I said I don't, I want to go on the difficulty, my mom said ok, the choice is your own, I hope you can enjoy the game." Then I made my own choice – to challenge myself.
It is not difficult to understand gu Ailing saying at the press conference, "I am not here to win anyone, it is because I love freestyle skiing... I'm just breaking through myself, breaking myself. ”
Gu Yan's education ranking for her daughter is these three points: "sleeping" > "learning> "playing".
Gu Ailing shared his secret: "Sleep is my 'secret weapon', I slept 10 hours a night since I was a child, and now it is. "Sleeping promotes the growth of the body and brain, and at the same time, sleeping is also a revision time." Review everything you need for the day before going to bed and wake up the next morning to find yourself better.
In fact, good sleep is a physical energy charge, when the body has enough energy, it can also invest more energy and concentration to do things efficiently. At the same time, she can do a good job of skiing hobbies and studies, and also talk about the help that sleep and concentration bring to her.
She mentioned that when writing homework, she will not look at the mobile phone, and will also use 100% of the energy used when skiing to learn, first use 100% of the energy to ski, after solving the skiing, she will invest 100% of the energy to learn. Focusing on doing just that when you do one thing, you can reap great results. This is also her own experience and realization, and this is also a point emphasized by many fruitful people to "focus on only one thing at a time", which will easily produce a state of "flow" and thus complete the goal efficiently.
This is also mentioned in the book "Minimalist Mobility":
"It's better to do one thing to the extreme than to do ten thousand things in mediocrity."
Gu Yan talked to her about learning, "You don't have to go to Stanford, you go to any school as long as you like it, but more importantly, you don't give up studying for a lifetime." ”
It is the learning concept of Gu Yan's education, this kind of lifelong learning growth mindset, that also constantly inspires Gu Ailing to bravely move forward to her own people. Not only in terms of learning, the score of cultural classes is better, and even self-taught high school courses, creating the first person in their school to graduate a year early, and then took the SAT test, with a score of 1580 (out of 1600), successfully admitted to the world's top university Stanford University.
And in its hobbies, it is a brave attempt, in addition to the well-known skiing, cross-country running, rock climbing, basketball, surfing, swimming, cycling, football, playing the piano rap, dancing... In terms of life interests and hobbies, she is holding the mentality of "love, like, and curiosity" to try to experience, and it is this idea of "focusing on the process of participation, rather than blindly pursuing results" that has finally made her.
When talking about Gu Yan's educational magic weapon, she said: "When Ai Ling first went to school, the teacher said: Don't correct children's typos, don't discourage children's creativity; praise their intelligence less, praise their efforts more." I did just that. ”
I have to say that such an educational magic weapon is indeed worthy of our deep consideration. Children do not know much about the world at an early age, and have a strong desire to explore and curiosity, so there will be many children chasing their mothers to ask various "100,000 whys" questions. And there will also be an extremely rich imagination, designing all kinds of fun or "surprising" things, sometimes surprising and sometimes helpless. But many people will hold a fixed mindset to look at the embodiment of children's "creativity", trying to instill the concepts they accept into children and correct their wrong behavior, but they do not know that doing so will gradually extinguish the child's self-creation, but accept the mechanized ideas recognized by the public. Not enough, some parents actually do not know the cultivation of children's "hidden ability", but only pay attention to the "explicit results" - good or bad grades to judge the value they create.
True intelligence is the result of "talent + effort", but most people will prioritize the other person's "talent/resources" to fully judge, and the effort behind it will be drowned out. The dark horse counterattack cases of "from the penultimate first to the first place in the class" are not few and cannot be denied, these are all achievements obtained through their respective efforts and efforts, rather than the wisdom of "flashing lights" at the beginning. If we can all do things with the idea of "taking a step forward every time", we will eventually achieve something.
"Exaggerating its talent and ignoring its efforts" is actually a disapproval of its ability. Inconsequential praise is meaningless and may affect its interest because it is not seen.
"Worthy of being my son, with my "smart", this time I scored 90 points, not bad..."
"You took the test 92 points this time, this calculus problem you have now mastered its algorithm secret ah, last time will not do, this time got a full score, can ah"
Gu Ailing's education, real love is to allow him to have the "ability to fly freely". Hopefully, we can all learn to "guide" our children to fly healthy and free, rather than tying up the shackles and blaming the children instead...
The Montessori educational philosophy has to say:
"Everything we do to our child will blossom and bear fruit, not only for his life, but also for his whole life."
"Efficient Accompaniment"
"Pillow book on how to raise children in the era of double subtraction."
"Learn to accompany you efficiently in order to integrate into your child's world." Pretending to be company is far more unhelpful than being "absent""
"Response"
"There are no bear children in the world, only parents who do not understand the emotions of their children. Tantrums, crying, unreasonableness, sabotage, lying... There are specific needs behind every behavior of a child. ”
Montessori
"Adults should not mold children into little adults."
Dr. Montessori believes that every child has the need to observe the outside world, react and learn, and she advocates breaking the traditional concept of education to truly understand and love children. Let children learn to observe the world, concentrate attention, fully stimulate children's innate enthusiasm for learning, and guide children to find the way to the inner world.
Instant Gratification
The author has been a long-term alcoholic, does not take care of his wife and daughter, suffered from heart disease, weighs 194 pounds, but through the new concept of "instant gratification", he successfully quit drinking, returned to the family, self-healed from heart disease, and lost 44 pounds. The "28-Day Motivation Master Class" in the book helps many people solve problems such as "lack of willpower" and "loss of confidence in their ability to make great changes", creating a psychological miracle and changing their fate.
Minimalist Mobility
"It's better to do one thing to the extreme than to do ten thousand things in mediocrity."
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