Tu Hong is a post-80s mother, her love for her daughter is unlimited, but the love of the father and grandmother in the family for her daughter is limited, Tu Hong knows that she can only really have a place in this family if she gives birth to a boy.
It is said that young boys and girls are the same, but in fact, some people with traditional rural concepts still retain the thinking of "giving birth to boys and passing on the fire". And some men also do not shy away from saying that after giving birth to a son, they are more motivated and more willing to fight for it. Some moms who have had relevant experiences also believe that giving birth to a boy can indeed be cashed in, and it is immediate.
A mother surnamed Hu said that when I gave birth to my daughter, my mother-in-law did not give a penny, but this kind of son was born, the in-laws and in-laws gave a red envelope to one person, and the husband also received the heart, and went home at the first time after work every day, and would never hide around with a mobile phone like before.
But then again, the pressure to have a boy is indeed not small, this girl seems to be able to teach a son-in-law to the family, but giving birth to a boy seems to be making a wedding dress for others.
Families who dare to give birth to boys must have the ability to prepare various learning funds for their children, and the dowry money for the house and car is calculated, and even if it is put on the child in this life. So with boys, dads can't be idle, they have to be braver and harder.
But for a mother, the biggest advantage is that she is no longer nagged by her mother-in-law and no longer snubbed by her husband. But seriously, times are different, and this patriarchal mentality really shouldn't exist. Rather than saying that this boy is just to block the mouth of others, in order to make others not laugh, there is no man in his own family, but rather that this is a manifestation of selfishness.
If there are not enough people in the family to help these women with children, one person with two or three will lead to women's physical and mental exhaustion.
So if you are qualified enough, then don't complain behind your back about who doesn't have a boy in the family, let alone laugh and nag, do you want another boy in your family? Someone else gave birth to a boy, what does it have to do with you?
Others think that raising boys is actually quite easy, the reason is to raise poor children. But what era is this? Boys poor in poverty? As long as it is a child who needs to be rich, the wealth here does not mean economic wealth, but spiritual wealth. Whether the family is poor or rich, we must exercise the child's willpower to avoid the child's personality being too sensitive, squeamish, timid, and glassy.
But there is one thing that is easier to raise a boy than a little girl, that is, the boy is noisier, and it is okay to beat it badly, but if the girl is beaten, there will be a lot of trouble.
In short, boys and girls are the same, as long as the education is good, they are all small vaults in the family, which can show the basic qualities of a family and have a happy and beautiful future.
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