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The pursuit of love actually requires a certain skill, if you just blindly implement it according to your own understanding, you often pay a lot in the end, but you still can't get the love you want.
The reason why many people have been looking for it and it is difficult to get the love they dream of is not that they are not brave enough, nor is it that they are not worth paying, they only know how to take, but because they have not adopted a certain method, so they are delayed in wandering outside the door of love.
It's like solving a number study problem, some people don't find a way, spend a lot of energy, and the final solution is only a wrong answer, while some people, just find the right steps, do not need to spend a lot of effort, very easy to get the correct solution.
Many people's understanding of love is like climbing a mountain, feeling that as long as they persevere, as long as they pay a lot, they will definitely reach the final end.
After they fall in love with a person, they will dig out their lungs for each other, try to be good to him, if they do not get a response in a short period of time, they will feel that they must not pay enough, so they continue to increase their weights and devote themselves to him, but in the end not only can not get a response, but also may be a harm.
Love is like flying a kite, whether you pull it very tightly or loosely, it is impossible to let the kite fly high, only by knowing the skill of retracting, sometimes closing the line and sometimes loosening, can the kite reach the highest height.
If you want to get the heart of a man, a woman must also do the four words of "free rein" so that the love you want may come.
Pay when it's time to give, don't always sit back and enjoy it
Many women tend to have two extremes in love. One is to fall in love with a person and then pluck out their lungs to be good to each other, leaving no room at all, and the other is to feel that love should be paid by men, and women only need to enjoy it with peace of mind.
Women who hold these two ideas are often not satisfactory in love, because too much or too little can not promote the development of feelings. Only when two people invest in each other and pay together can love develop naturally.
Women must remember not to be too active in love, but also not too passive. Don't give nothing, just think of letting the other party be good to you, in fact, everyone is measuring, paying a little to you will come to spy on your behavior, if you don't get your response for a long time, then you will not continue to invest in you.
After liking a person, women should be brave and active to express their love, if they always look forward and look back, obscurity, it is difficult for men to notice you, be brave and bold, take the initiative when they should take the initiative, pay when they should pay, men are generally difficult to refuse a woman who takes the initiative to be good to themselves, but remember to maintain a good degree, pay a ruler, lover has a degree, so is the right way to open love.
Know the skills of disconnection and give each other a sense of crisis
Love needs to be properly disconnected, which is very critical.
Even if two people are in love, love is deep, but also need to properly distance, if two people are tired of being together 24 hours a day, then it is easy to accelerate each other's boredom and let love go downhill.
Appropriately creating a sense of crisis for the other party is an important means to seize the man's heart, in fact, human nature is like this, if you always look like he must be, then the man's heart is already indifferent to you, he will feel in his heart that no matter how he treats you, you will not leave, naturally will not be on your heart.
You have to give him a certain sense of crisis in getting along, don't stick to him all the time, don't have to keep a high-frequency connection to properly break the connection, when you frequently contact him for a period of time, and then suddenly disappear, naturally will leave ripples in his heart, hang up his appetite, and give him a look that you are not indispensable to him, which successfully aroused his interest at this time.
Don't take love too seriously, and don't put your mind on him
What can a person do with what he can do freely? It's something that doesn't matter that much to her.
When you completely regard love as your own world, regard him as the only one in your world, and take one thing too seriously, it may backfire and you will no longer be able to deal with it indifferently.
A person who values love too much, the man may have feelings for you at the beginning, he will enjoy the feeling of being treated as the only one by you, but over time, it will be easy to get bored, after all, what men crave most is freedom.
You pour your mind on him, completely integrate your life circle with him, where he goes, where you go, so it is easy to breed men's disgust.
And no man will like a woman without ego, you give up everything you have because of love, and in the end you will only feel that you are empty and useless.
Don't take love too seriously, love is just a very ordinary part of your life, take love as a side dish, use energy to focus on yourself, love yourself well, and men will be interested in you.
When it is time to make a decision, do not leave the other party a single room
The key point of free rein is: to love with all your heart when you should love, to decide when you should decide, to leave no room, and not to give men a chance to hurt you, so that men will value you more.
Many women are a little less determined in love, completely overwhelmed by love, without a little of their own principles and bottom line, no matter how big the problem is encountered, no matter how much harm the man brings to himself, as long as he is slightly soft, he will immediately soften his heart, completely forget the pain he brought to himself, and choose to forgive completely.
Such a woman, men have never valued, they have already looked down on you from the bottom of their hearts, and they will not care about your feelings at all.
The women that men never forget are the kind of women who are a bit desperate, they have their own principles, once the principle is broken, they will resolutely not turn back, as long as they decide to leave, they will not leave a trace of room for each other, and the more determined the back of the woman turns away, the more men will love you.
If you want to capture the hearts of men, the key is not how to be good to him, but to "conquer".
Men don't care about women who are good to him, and the more they treat him, the less he will cherish them, but once they have completely conquered him, men will be unforgettable.
The four words of free rein and release are very critical, pay when you should pay, decide when you should decide, properly break the connection, stimulate a man's sense of crisis, do not regard love as the whole, and know how to love yourself. Women who can do these four things have unconsciously completely entered the hearts of men, and they are unforgettable.