Last summer, the daughter of a distant relative was admitted to Tsinghua University. Many relatives and friends talked about this child with a look of envy on their faces. Some people said sourly: "I didn't see how clever this child is, he can actually be admitted to Tsinghua University, and his IQ is really high." ”
Children who can be admitted to prestigious schools will not have too low AN IQ, of course. Yu Minhong, a graduate of Peking University, once said that the average IQ of Peking University students is about 140, and it can be said that they are all talented wizards. What does IQ 140 mean? Perhaps everyone thinks that only professional testing can get results, but many people have found that children who have these characteristics from an early age are potential bullies.
Children who have these characteristics from an early age are mostly potential bullies, and parents who have won can steal the fun
Reacting to things is half a beat slower than the average child.
In the past, family members often used oral arithmetic to test the IQ of a small child, and those who calculated quickly would generally say that they were smarter children, and children who were unresponsive would be said to be "stupid". However, if we can count the probability of answering the question right or wrong, we will find that although some children react slowly and half a beat, the accuracy rate is several times higher.
Some psychologists point out that children with really high IQs often give the impression of not being very clever, but slowing down half a beat. Because when they encounter problems, they are not in a hurry to react, but they want their brains to run quickly and think more rationally and deeply.
Children with high IQs have better concentration.
Regardless of the age of the child, highly intelligent children show a strong ability to eliminate interference when observing and thinking. Sometimes parents will misunderstand their children and be more playful, but super concentration will make children better and better at learning performance. When the learning difficulty coefficient is relatively large, children with strong concentration will use perseverance to overcome difficulties, and those with poor concentration will give up more easily.
Therefore, some children like to be alone and like to play games by themselves, perhaps it is a manifestation of their strong concentration.
Children with high IQ have better memories.
Some children show super memory from an early age, such as reading and memorizing. All human learning is based on memory, and language, writing, thinking and other learning need memory assistance.
Children with high IQ will have better memory, and some of their special memory methods can improve the speed and amount of memory, such as they will form blocks of related content to remember. The brain's memory is good, which is helpful for children to learn all knowledge.
Children have an intrinsic drive to learn.
What is internal drive? Just like a child likes to play games, the great inner strength formed by his pursuit of this matter is the internal driving force. Therefore, when teachers are teaching, they will find ways to improve their children's interest in learning, from we want children to learn, to the children's own desire to learn, so that the learning efficiency will be greatly improved.
The difference between the bully and the scum may not be how big the difference in IQ is, but one is that they want to learn, and the other is forced by their parents to learn, and the effect of learning will have a very large gap. Therefore, the children of the school bully type generally have a relatively strong interest in learning and internal drive.
Children are potential academic bullies, may have a relatively high IQ, but also need parents to correctly guide and cultivate, how do we do a good job of assisting to improve children's intellectual development?
Don't disrupt your child's growth rhythm.
Children's intellectual development has their physiological processes to follow, parents should adapt to the rhythm of children's lives, can not urge them.
I often hear some parents urging their children to "hurry up-hurry-", and some parents have to undress their children, hand water to drink when their children are having a good time, break their children's thinking, destroy their children's concentration, and label their children as playful.
We should provide a relatively relaxed growth environment for children, giving children the space and time to develop thinking ability and cultivate concentration. Don't let our cognitive mistakes affect the pattern of children's development.
Give your child more encouragement and cultivate your child's internal drive.
Children need a sense of belonging, and their own things should be responsible for doing well and responsible for themselves. And some of the behaviors that we parents usually do often destroy the child's sense of belonging. When the child gets up, you always have to urge him, the child writes homework, you always have to look at him, the child's exam is not good, you feel that what you lose is your face. The parents' control over the child makes the child our puppet and has no initiative to do things.
Parents should return the initiative of their children to him, encourage his success, comfort his failures, help him summarize experience and lessons, and let the children make progress through hard work. When the child feels that I can do a good job, I can also bear the consequences if I fail, he is his own master, willing to work hard for his own success.
The growth of children is a slow process, parents are comrades in arms and teachers who go side by side with their children, and work together for a better tomorrow.