The middle-aged mother was tired to the point of a nervous breakdown, and the senior psychologist warned her: You only need to do 7 things

The middle-aged mother was tired to the point of a nervous breakdown, and the senior psychologist warned her: You only need to do 7 things

All the troubles come from within themselves

If you have been in the "mental internal friction", then it will become more and more uncomfortable, and your physical health will be greatly affected

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A college friend told me the other day that I had been feeling very tired lately

Always likes to think wildly

However, he had no power to act, so he went around in his own mind all day

In the end, it became more and more uncomfortable

Either dizzy and headache, or weak, the whole person is like a sponge stained with water, especially heavy

But my heart was empty

As soon as I listened, this is not mental attrition

According to the mother, since her son went to kindergarten, she has become more and more uncomfortable at home

And her husband is always very busy and has no time to care about her

Then she told me

"Don't hide from you, I often think of the previous boyfriend recently, I can't figure out who did it wrong, obviously together for so many years, but he suddenly fell in love with someone else, what is wrong with me." 」

I also suspect that my husband, who has always been very busy at work lately, is not enthusiastic when he comes home, and always plays with his son for a while, thinking about the bath stall

Well, you said he was cheating too

And my girlfriend friends (I'm not talking about you) are always cold

Is it because we haven't bought a car yet, and the house is not big, they look down on me

My neighbor is also, several times I brought her snacks, she is very cold, probably disgusted with me."

Indeed, many people in life will unconsciously fall into this kind of "mental attrition"

Women, especially stay-at-home moms, always like to think wildly

Below I will share with you my psychiatrist and tell me 7 tips to solve the "mental internal friction"

I hope it will also be helpful and inspiring to you, who are also deeply troubled by emotions

01

Positive negative thoughts about yourself and stay away from it

The reason why a person thinks wildly, over and over again

It's because his brain is full of all kinds of negative thoughts

When you can deal with these negative thoughts, then you can avoid "mental intriguation"

If you want to deal with your negative thoughts, you have to go through two stages

First of all, you have to learn to accept your own ideas, face it squarely, and recognize its existence

Second, you need to understand its harm and take the initiative to keep a distance from it

Let's take a very simple example

When your mind comes up with "I'm so badly failing, I'm doomed to do nothing, I'm a loser"

That's when you realize that you're being influenced by this negative thought

Then you can try to pull away

For example, replace the original idea with "I am a failure, although I have various ideas"

Then our emotions will change slightly and become positive

In fact, more often than not, emotions are fleeting

As long as you relax your mind, don't try to control or escape

Then it will soon disappear

02

Bring yourself back to the present moment and value the here and now

A big reason why most people become anxious is that they often think about the future and the past

Ignoring the present moment is what matters most

I also forget the fact that the past has passed, and the future belongs to the future

People think more, more entanglement

Nor can it change the past, or jump to the future all at once

So when your emotions start to detach from reality

You need to order yourself to return to the present moment in time, to refocus your energy on the here and now

For example, you can go out for a walk and let your skin feel the temperature today

Or go out into the streets to feel the crowds and the sound of traffic

Or simply clean the house and make yourself a sweet pastry

As long as you focus on the present moment, then your internal friction will naturally end

03

Write down your "panic"

Psychological research believes that the reason why people fall into mental internal friction and become anxious

It's because their hearts are full of "panic."

So when we find out that we're not in the right mood

You can try to list your own "panic" on a piece of paper

This way you will see it very clearly, and then you will be comfortable with it

For example, some mothers will worry about their husbands cheating

Then you can write down this thing and ask yourself what you will do, how things will develop and how they will turn out

Many times, once you calmly analyze, you will find that everything is crazy

None of them make sense, and thus they are perfectly freed from emotional troubles

04

Do what you can first

Many times, the reason why whimsy can affect our emotions

It's because it's uncontrollable and a mess

Then when you learn to find the thread in it, or see the thread that you can catch at a glance

At this point, you will be relieved

For example, you feel that other people's attitudes toward you have changed

Then this is what you can't control, and if you think in this direction, it will be more and more sad

But at the same time, you can think differently

Change your attitude and what you expect from others

And both of these points are within your control

Finally, once we focus only on what we can, then all problems are solved

05

Be your own friend

Many people overthink because they are particularly harsh on themselves

Curiously, such people tend to be more tolerant of others

So when you are caught in "mental attrition", you must learn to pull out and talk to yourself in the way of friends

With words of comfort to a friend, to comfort the wounded self

06

It's better to think than to do

In fact, many times, no matter what you think

None of them are as powerful as your actual actions

When you get stuck in your mind, you can do something to distract your attention

You can start with the simplest things

This way you can easily succeed and thus build up self-confidence

Like going to the gym, dancing, or going out to a party with friends

In short, don't let yourself stay there thinking endlessly, so that you can easily get out of the emotional dilemma

07

Set the "think" time

Adult life is always busy, so the more emotions accumulate

In the end, it is easy to be crushed

Caught in "mental attrition"

Therefore, we can set up some "special thinking" time for ourselves in ordinary times

Let your mind relax for a while

Allow yourself to have time and conversations with your own heart every day

In this way, we avoid falling into mental attrition due to excessive stress

08

As a mom, especially a stay-at-home mom

We face a lot of stress every day, how to mediate our emotions

Keeping yourself away from the "inner volume" is a compulsory course for every mother

Because only when you are happy, the atmosphere of the family can become relaxed and harmonious

Children and families will become happy and happy

Of course, mothers are also human beings, so there are many times when they can't control their emotions at all

It even translates into depression and anxiety

Therefore, it is also recommended that mothers here enrich themselves

For example, stay-at-home mothers can take advantage of their children's schooling breaks to learn a skill, or enroll in some training courses

And the mothers of office workers can relax themselves appropriately, after work or on holidays

Arrange some leisure time for yourself and change your mood

Remember that the sky is high and the sea is wide, the world is worth it, don't trap yourself!

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