01.
The opening and hanging life of the Ice Princess Gu Ailing
At the recent Winter Olympics, the talented girl Gu Ailing, who was popular all over the Internet, was completely on fire.
The 2.8 Rigu Ailing Freestyle Ski Women's Big Jump final won the first place, setting a historic record for Chinese women to win in ski events and winning the third gold medal for China.
Gu Ailing has always maintained a confident and optimistic smile on the field.
Even if the results are excellent, they do not forget to encourage and embrace the competitors who have made mistakes, so that netizens can praise Gu Ailing's character and character.
After the success of Gu Ailing, major media and networks began to compete to write the legendary deeds of the frog princess Gu Ailing and the parenting scripture that Gu Ailing's mother cultivated.
This Versailles-style growth experience has made many netizens sigh: this is the legendary children of other people's families, if Gu Ailing is the ceiling of Haidian children, Gu Ailing's mother is the ceiling of the parenting world.
Gu Ailing began to follow her mother Gu Yan to the ski resort at the age of 3.
Recall that most children are 3 years old, probably just running, and their speech is not clear.
And Gu Ailing has begun to challenge the path of an extraordinary life.
At the age of 8, Gu's mother sent Gu Ailing to the ski team, and the following year Gu Ailing won the National Junior Ski Championship.
Since the age of 13, the young Gu Ailing has been determined to participate in the Beijing Winter Olympics.
Since her season debut in December last year, she has won six titles in 36 days.
Gu Ailing is not only a ski champion, but also a school bully.
In 2020, the SAT was close to full, and Gu Ailing was admitted to Stanford University with a high score of SAT 1580 and nearly 1600 points, ranking 99.8%.
Not only does he love skiing, but horse riding, rock climbing, archery, singing, and playing the piano are also Gu Ailing's usual hobbies.
Moral, intellectual, physical and aesthetic all-round development, such an excellent child, who does not love?
02.
Daughter of the godfather in the field of artificial intelligence
Zhu Yi was experienced by a net explosion
Zhu Yi, who also fought for the glory of the country in the Olympic arena, was almost the same age and similar experience as Gu Ailing, but he was not so lucky.
On the field, Zhu Yi made two mistakes in the game.
After the game mistake, Zhu Yi quickly became a hot search, and netizens were not very friendly to her attitude and began to carry out online violent attacks.
Zhu Yi's eligibility was questioned, saying that because his father was a scientist in the field of artificial intelligence, the "black box operation" replaced Chen Hongyi, a player with equal strength.
The US media used this to publish a photo of Zhu Yi crying, accompanied by the text: After falling on the field of the Winter Olympics, Zhu Yi, who gave up his American citizenship to represent China, is being attacked by Chinese social media users.
On the day of the incident, he also discussed the matter with Noda, and his understanding was very different from that of many netizens who vented their emotions on the Internet.
The rational Nopa said:
Zhu Yineng's selection for the national team shows that he can reach the level of competition in terms of strength.
What about Zhu Yi's father, a scientist and godfather in the field of artificial intelligence? What about the dean of artificial intelligence at Peking University?
So many influential scientists in Beijing, don't children have to queue up to settle down, and don't they still have to shake the number when buying a car?
The selection process of online events is decided by the General Administration of Sports, and if the child is really weak, he cannot influence any decision.
The selection process was questioned, and netizens asked the General Administration of Sports to attack a girl who participated in the competition, which would only make her fall into greater mental pressure.
As an athlete, she also wants to win glory for her country, otherwise she would not give up her American citizenship and come back, doesn't she want to win? Did she want herself to make a mistake?
Many netizens who complain on the Internet actually don't understand figure skating at all, which is the result of watching a game win or lose. If you experience it yourself, it will be difficult to stand on ice.
It is also possible that she was the best performer in the selection at that time, and the game process was tense and wrong?
It is too normal to make mistakes on the figure skating field, don't American players also make mistakes, and don't those Russian masters also make mistakes?
If someone else's mistake can be, her mistake can't be.
If she is a child of her own family, can she only accept the success of the child, and cannot accept her failure?
After the discussion, I suddenly felt that there was a lot to learn from tsinghua polytechnic men's rational way of thinking.
On February 9, Zhu Yi's mother posted a video of Zhu Yi participating in the Figure Skating Trials of the Beijing Winter Olympics on social platforms, playing well and writing that she "flew against the wind".
Confirming Nopa's guess: during the selection process, she did play well.
In the Olympic arena, which attracts the world's attention, the competition pressure of each athlete is unimaginable to ordinary people.
Just yesterday, at the age of 19, Japan's Yusheng Yushin, who became Asia's first figure skating Olympic men's singles champion, challenged the 4A major mistake, and Yusheng Yushin missed three consecutive championships and missed the medal.
It can be seen that even mature players who are often consistent may still make mistakes on the field, not to mention the new Zhu Yi.
Even if the facts are finally clarified and the truth is revealed, it will be difficult to retract those unfair criticisms of Zhu Yi.
Zhu Yi, who was attacked by the network, I don't know if he can still regain his confidence and regain his confidence in the next Olympic arena.
Such a social media cyber attack not only destroyed Zhu Yi's confidence, but also triggered excessive anxiety among subsequent athletes about the accusations of failure.
03.
The unfortunate life of a dog chain girl who gave birth to 8 babies in Xuzhou
At the beginning of the new year of 2022, the unfortunate life of the Xuzhou dog chain girl has also attracted the attention of many media and caring people on the Internet.
The girl who was chained to a dog had 8 children in 10 years and wore only a single coat to protect herself from the cold in winter.
In a dark corner, eating leftovers that are starving.
When the incident broke, netizens could not help but have many doubts about her past experience.
Later, according to news reports, the dog chain girl was called Yang Mouxia.
In 1998, Dong Zhimin, a farmer in Feng County, Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province, was 34 years old and had no wife or children.
This became a local gossip in the streets.
Not long after, the village rumored that Dong Zhimin was getting married, and the daughter-in-law was pregnant with a child.
According to locals, Yang Mouxia was very beautiful at that time, and he could also speak a foreign language, and he also wondered why he married Dong Zhimin.
Asked where the girl came from, Dong Laohan said that she had been picked up from outside, and her spirit was not normal, and she could only be tied up, otherwise it would hurt people.
Netizens are wondering, was Yang Mouxia's mental state really abnormal at that time?
Or is it a mental disorder caused by being imprisoned after marriage?
Whether it's a mental disorder or not, these 10 years, with an average of one child a year, is a huge toll on a woman's body.
In order to catch up with the dividends of the traffic era, Dong Zhimin registered a self-media account of "Xuzhou Yixiu Brother" on Douyin.
The scene of the father alone with 8 children and the father raising the child is staged.
According to villagers, Dong Zhimin never went out to work, and his economic income was maintained by the monthly minimum guarantee.
Later, he gradually discovered the business opportunities of the traffic era, which attracted many Internet celebrities to visit.
As the video circulated, the tragic life of the locked dog chain girl was exposed, which caused anger throughout the Network.
In the era of self-media where everyone can speak, he took advantage of the evil of human nature and destroyed a flower girl.
These evil crimes are also placed online to make money traffic and income.
Until yesterday, 12 years later, on February 10, 2022, after investigation by the public security organs, Dong Moumin was suspected of illegal detention, and Sang Mouyu and Shi Mouzhong were suspected of abducting and trafficking women, and the above three people have been taken criminal compulsory measures.
4.
Does birth really determine the fate of a child?
Three different girls, who have experienced different fates in their lives.
A while ago, in the process of reading "Educational Psychology", I was also thinking about a question: Does birth really determine destiny?
The quantitative analysis of twins in the book describes the influence of genetics and the environment on education, and talks about the basic quantitative genetic model, called the ACE model.
A: Genetics
C: Shared environment
E: Non-shared environment
That is to say, a person's achievement is the combined effect of three parts of the factor.
Can IQ be inherited?
Yes, IQ is heritable.
Scientists have shown that genetics accounts for 40% of the effect on IQ.
In the case of the scientist Albert Einstein, the whole world knows that his IQ is frighteningly high, and in rumors, his IQ even reached 160.
And he's so smart in large part because he has highly intelligent parents.
So unveiling Gu Ailing's Xueba family, her mother is a graduate of Peking University, and her father is Harvard University.
Grandma and Grandpa are all Kochi elements, so it is not difficult to find that her success is innately conditional.
A shared environment is one in which two children grow up in the same family.
Non-shared environment refers to some unique external environmental factors, such as even twins, they may receive different educational environments, the particularity of physical genetic diseases, and their evaluation and perception of themselves are different.
Although Zhu Yi and Gu Ailing grew up abroad when they were young, their father was also very good.
However, the training programs are different, the individual's abilities are different, and the psychological adjustment ability is different, resulting in different performances in the Olympic arena and suffering from online violence.
From a few people, to thousands of attacks, the broken window effect of psychology began to play out.
In contrast to the life of the dog chain girl before, we do not know what has been experienced.
Suppose she had a mental illness before marrying Dong Zhimin, her parents must have known about it.
If so, why would parents "sell" their children?
Suppose she was forcibly imprisoned in the village, her parents were abducted and sold without her knowledge, why in the past ten years, no one in the village who knew about it stood up and went to hold her grievances.
Why did Dong Zhimin rely on the government's low income for many years to make a living, and no one from the government came out to question the unreasonableness of this matter?
12 years is enough to ruin a girl's most precious youth and life.
Mr. Lu Xun has repeatedly attacked the numb humanity of Chinese viewers.
He wrote in the "Scream" Self-Introduction: "All foolish citizens, no matter how sound and strong they are, can only be meaningless demonstration materials and spectators, and there is no need to think that they are unfortunate to die of illness. "
What makes people may be the social environment.
It may also be the social environment that breaks people down.
While we believe that human nature is inherently good, we must never forget that evil is not far away from us.
5.
One of the criteria for successful parenting
It is that children grow up healthy and happy
As most ordinary parents, we do not have the excellent genes of Gu Ailing's parents to give their children, which is normal.
Therefore, you can have good expectations for your child's future, but you can't have unrealistic requirements for your child's achievements.
Don't compare her with others, don't use those either-or successful parenting theories, and frame her life path with the formative model of other people's children.
Raising my daughter has made me more and more discover that it is good to live in this era, physically and mentally, physically and mentally, and happily.
Successfully someone applauded her.
Failed someone to give her warmth.
Not trampled by the dark environment of society.
Not to be mentally PUA by the wicked against her.
Keep a warm and kind heart.
Have empathy for others.
Maintain independent thinking and critical thinking.
In times of good and evil, become a faint but warm light.
Have the strength to uphold justice and a brave heart.
Live yourself.
If you have the same feelings about raising girls, feel free to write down your feelings in the comments section.