First of all, forget the rules for texting, because she can think of anything you can, and that won't make any difference (especially the three-day rule).
If you've just had a great day with a lady, don't wait for three days, two days or even a day later to text her because the three-day rule no longer exists because it's fake; unreasonable, and it doesn't work.
If you've just gone through an incredible date and maybe the woman kissed you or texted you to say she was happy, the best way to make her crave you is to wait three days. But by then, she may have forgotten about you.
It's true that a certain level of absence or busyness conveys high value and can spark desire, but that doesn't apply to the three days of waiting after the first date, we are social creatures and we are very sensitive to people's attempts to manipulate our behavior. Don't play tricks.
Nothing inspires attraction more than building a foundation of trust and security with a woman. This is the first thing to remember. That said, there are also 5 tips you should know about texting women after the first date.
This is the best way to text her
Don't text her about how beautiful the pink dress she's wearing or how handsome she looks, and while women love to hear that, it's going to be a great compliment at the start of a date or during the date.
But after a date, instead of texting her about what she looks like, praise you for what you know about her.
For example, if she shares a moment of vulnerability with you and she reveals sensitive information like her background or how hard she worked in her career and how much of an impact she made, this is where you should compliment her.
Tell her, "I'm happy with you, especially when you share that story with me... Thank you for sharing with me. Or, "The way you look at life is so beautiful, sharing your experience with me makes me understand why you see life the way you do." ”
The key here is to compliment her on what she thinks is important. Preferably the goal she strives for. This is what sets you apart from all men because it shows that you really notice her, not just how hot she is in a dress on a date.
Why is this important?
Intuitively, women want a man who allows them to be protected both mentally and physically. When she feels like you're really listening to her, it means you really care about her. It made her feel safe.
How to break down the word barrier
After the first date, there are times when there is this feeling of embarrassment. We want to know who should text first. Or, how long should we wait to text the other person. If we wait a while and don't receive the text message in time, we start to wonder if the other person is interested in us. Or worse, we worry about making a mess of dating.
"Usually, people don't put their phones on the table when they go on dates (or, at least, they don't use them). Chances are, the only time you'll use your phone on a date is when you go to the bathroom or leave right after the date. —Apollonia Ponty (personally think it's an interesting idea to break down the literal barrier)
And a great way to break down the texting barrier after the first date is to text her towards the end of the date.
Here's how to do it.
When you find out on a date that everything is going well, go to the bathroom towards the end of the date and text her "I had a great night with you", perhaps plus a smiley face or a sparkling emoji.
One of two things can happen: First, she hears the notification and sees the text message right in front of you, creating an impactful, touching moment between the two of you. Or, she might see a text message after a date and then have to respond, which breaks down the texting barrier.
Make sure she gets home safely
You can do this in two ways. First of all, if the date goes well and you're going to say goodbye, you can verbally tell her, "Call me when you get home, I just want to make sure you get home safely." ”
When she first texts you to say she's safely home, you've broken down the barricades of texting and things can easily start there. It's good because it makes her feel protected and cared for.
On the other hand, you can also say something like this in a text message, "Just want to make sure you get home safely..." I had a great night. "When she receives this text message, she knows that you care about her and make sure nothing happens to her on her way home." Plus, it's a great way to break down text barriers.
The power of validation
Here's the thing: we're all social creatures. As a result, we are usually very worried about how the people around us perceive us. When it comes to people we care about, especially on occasions like the first date, our insecurities about our social abilities spike.
So if you're having a great time dating, tell her. Often, men don't say the sentence adequately.
Most of the time, the only way a woman can be sure that a man is having a great time on a date is when she invites him. Text her and tell her you had a great time. You can tell her.
"It's a pleasure to meet you. Thank you for making me a lovely night! Or "You're really going to make dating fun." Thank you for spending Saturday with me! "It's very confirming and comforting to let her know there's a chance of a second date and if you guys really have a great time, she should be happy."
How to use internal jokes
There are some things that connect people more than internal jokes.
Text her and tell her funny things happened on your date – if anything. Such a text message is a good opening statement.
For example, if there is a very famous movie that almost everyone in the world has seen, but she has not, mention it in the text. "I still can't believe you didn't watch Game of Thrones, I thought all humans had to watch it."
Bring up an interesting shared experience and reminisce about the past; for example: you went rock climbing and took a picture of both of you wearing helmets, the photo is terrible, keep it and send it to her later.
When using text messaging, the general rule of thumb is not to use it as the main means of communication, you want to keep the text message short and accurate, and it is easy to get bored with too much text message content, especially at the beginning of a relationship.
You want to leave your communication to face-to-face communication. You should use text messages to arrange to go out. So, when you use these six SMS strategies, be sure to keep them simple and accurate.