When we were young, we always thought that many things would not change.
It's like a relationship with a person, like the street we often walk through, like ourselves.
As we get older, we will gradually find that time never speaks, but quietly changes everything.
Many people walk and walk, disperse, friendship fades, the road we often walk, quietly changing, even ourselves, will become more and more different from before.
Our view of the world is no longer the same, and we will have different ideas about feelings.
It is true that in the adult world, it is difficult to meet a particularly pure like, we can't simply like a person, and the people we meet will not just like us very simply.
Adult love, male and female, is basically a special reality.
All concerned about all aspects of the other side.
When the love sinus first opens, both men and women do not think so much, but only follow their own feelings.
Once you like a person, then no matter what the other person's family situation, ability, and personality, often do not care so much, will only ignore, directly like especially, very much want to be together.
At that time, love was always particularly innocent and blind.
With a certain age, after the age of twenty, we may still envy that kind of love, but that kind of love will only exist in the past, exist in the self at that time, and will never happen again.
I don't know when to start, when we know a person, unconsciously, we will first judge.
Look at the economic conditions of the other party, look at the ability of the other party, and see what kind of person the other party is.
But whenever we feel that a certain aspect of the other party is not very good, does not meet our own requirements, and has no way to satisfy ourselves, then even if we like it a little, we will only hide this like and will not go near it.
We will still want to find a person who likes each other, but we will not just see if we like it, but also all kinds of trade-offs, only if we feel that the other party is good in all aspects, we will be willing to go further with each other and try it.
I won't just think about the present, I'll think about the future.
Speaking of which, when we were in our twenties, loving someone, we never thought about it that much.
I will not always think about what will happen in the future, I will only feel that I am very happy with each other at this moment, I want to live like this all the time, and I will feel that as long as I am with each other and have feelings for each other, even if I am poor, it does not matter.
We will always be so lonely, and we feel that we are very remarkable.
However, with the passage of time, no matter how much we once wanted to live in the present, we will also begin to care about some more practical things and begin to know how to plan for the future.
For example, when you meet a person, your mind will not only think about being together at this moment, whether you feel happy, but also thinking about the family with the other party, whether you can live in harmony, if you marry each other, will your future life be guaranteed.
After that age, we really start to think more and we start to think further.
If you can't see the future at all in a person's body, feel that the other party will only delay themselves, and there is no way for each other to support the future days, even if we like it, we may still let go.
In the process of growing up, we have already begun to understand that living a life needs feelings as a foundation, but if there are only feelings, it is far from enough, then there is no way to guarantee each other's future years.
I care about my own feelings, and I am very calculating about gains and losses.
I believe that many people are the same, when they are young, they like a person and always want to give the best to each other.
Even if the other party always seems very cold, dismissive of himself, often paying by himself, he will not take it seriously at all, and he feels that it does not matter, he likes it, and he is willing to accommodate.
At that time, we could only see each other in our eyes, rarely cared about ourselves, as long as the other party was happy, we felt happy.
Maybe we think that liking is what we should think about each other so much, but we can't really do that all the time.
As we grow into adults, we will really start to pay more attention to ourselves than others, and we will also start to calculate what we have won and what we have lost when we are with a person.
If in this calculation, each other's efforts and gains are fairer, and we feel that the other party is more worthwhile, then we will be willing to continue with each other and continue to live together in the future.
On the contrary, if we are often unhappy and feel that we have suffered a loss, we will not be willing to go with each other at all, even if we have established a relationship, even if we are married, we will want to give up.
It is even said that when giving up, it will be particularly resolute, not willing to look back at all, and only want to love someone again.
In the adult world, a lot of things are actually very realistic.
For love, each other will have various considerations, which looks utilitarian, but in fact, it is just ordinary.
Originally, everyone could have their own requirements, and everyone could have their own standards.
What's more, choosing a person, what is at stake, really will not only be their current life, what they will live, but also related to their quality of life in the next few years.
Love, that is a very important part of life, because it is important, so choose well, that is not wrong.
In this process, we can have our own choices, and others can also have others.
No one has to say anything, no one has to laugh at anyone, just go and find it according to your own needs, and then bear the consequences for it, and that's it.
Text/Tan Meng
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