I often hear my friends say that they and the girl they like are stuck in the friendship zone, and now they are in a dilemma, which is very uncomfortable.
Or rather, he and the girl have been talking for a long time, but there is still no substantial progress in the relationship, hanging in that place, making him want to give up.
Problems like these are situations where the relationship is delayed in entering the temptation stage, so what to do? We can break through this bottleneck by flirting.
I've always stressed that you shouldn't reveal your sense of need when chatting with girls. But when attraction is established, and we and the girl have reached the pursuit stage, and then it is time to enter the seduction stage, we need to go up the ladder of relationship through chat.
And the specific method is to flirt. The so-called flirting, that is, when we chat, the language with some small bad, such elements, we go to chat with girls about some relatively private topics, chat can make girls think of some things related to sex.
I summarized three points:
First, talk about private behavior
Second, talk about private objects
Third, talk about private parts
The fastest way to get a woman excited is to talk to her about private topics, so when we talk to girls about this kind of topic, the mood swings in the girl's heart will be larger, because she is being touched by you, and the whole chat atmosphere will become quite ambiguous.
How do you flirt with girls? Quite simply, it is to verbally make us and girls have a physical connection.
There's a famous psychological experiment called, "Don't Think About The Pink Elephant." Participants in the experiment were told not to imagine a pink elephant in the house, and the experiment found it difficult for those who participated in the experiment to do so. Because once he had this signal in his head, it was difficult for him not to think about it.
So when we say something related to our body and the girl's body in speech, even if the girl doesn't want to, she can't control imagining the picture you describe in her head.
For example, the girl said: Where do you live? You can say: Want to come to my house so soon? Not too good, coupled with a bad smile. It's a kind of flirting.
Words like "go to my house" and "go to your house" are actually signs of a private topic, because we generally can't just go to someone else's house or let someone else come to our own home.
Once it comes to "who's home", it basically means that there will be some different stories next, such as hahaha, so our answer just now is to lead girls to private topics. For example, you say to the girl: I know that a new restaurant is very good, and this week I invite you to a big dinner. The girl said: Recently, I can't eat delicious food anymore, and I feel that I am fat. You can say: I like to have a little meat.
Hints like this, which involve intimate physical contact, are actually a common form of flirting. Although we may not have physically upgraded to that level with girls, we can first upgrade verbally and make a test.
For example, before we kissed the girl, the girl said: I prefer to eat matcha-flavored ice cream.
Then you can say: my lips are sweeter than ice cream, do you want to try it? Or before we hold hands with the girls, the girls say: I've been under a lot of pressure lately, and I want to go out on a trip.
Then you can say: Hand me your hand and I'll take you where you want to go.
And these ambiguous things we express in language are equivalent to giving a girl a preventive shot so that she doesn't feel too strange or too abrupt when we do the next real physical upgrade. Girls' imaginations are very strong, and this imagination sometimes plays a role in psychological cues. If the girl always has some vague imaginations about us, then she will think that she may be in love with us, otherwise why is she always thinking about what will happen to us?
So we can describe a specific ambiguous picture to her while chatting, and let her constantly replay this picture in her mind.
For example, you can say: I think the last time we went to the movies was in a good location.
The girl said: Ah, why?
You say, "You think, that position is dark under the lights, and no one around you will notice, and I can kiss you there."
Girls will definitely say: Hate ah, why are you so bad.
No matter how she answers, as long as she does not show disgust, depression, or rejection, we can safely and boldly continue to upgrade and test in language, and then let the girl rationalize this ambiguous relationship with us, and she will naturally be able to accept our physical upgrade faster after a long time.
In fact, flirting does not mean that we only say things related to private behavior and private supplies, we are mixed with some immodest things in normal chat, so that girls feel interesting, and the effect of our flirtation will be better. For example, the girl sent a photo of herself wearing a swimsuit by the sea, and you can chat privately about her: I didn't expect it to be so big, it was too tempting.
Girls will definitely think that you are saying that her breasts are right. Whatever she replied, the next thing you can say: I'm talking about coconuts on the ground. Or rather: I'm talking about this sea.
In this way, a more humorous push-and-pull effect will be achieved. Girls may reply: you are so naughty. Or rather: You're so annoying. Then you reply with another one: not as attractive as you are.
Such a round down, not only praises the girl, but also does not expose the sense of need, but also mobilizes the girl's emotional fluctuations, not only will not cause the girl's disgust, but will make her feel that chatting with you is really interesting.
There are generally two problems with flirting. The first problem is not to flirt, and the second problem is not to flirt.
If you are afraid to flirt, it may be because your identity, your profession or your personality limits yourself, you always feel that these words can not be said by yourself, some things you just can't do, can't cross the hurdle in your heart, or feel that this thing should not be done, it is not right.
In fact, you have to believe that a person's potential is unlimited, and this potential will not be bound by any professional identity, because you are you, no matter what your profession or your current identity is, it is a label given to you by the outside world, but what kind of person you are, only you can decide. If you find that some of your current thoughts are preventing you from becoming a better person, a purer self, a more authentic self, it means that it is time for you to break through yourself. If you think of the factors that are holding you back now as a wall, the breakthrough is to tear that wall down.
I used to chat with a lot of girls with different professions and different personalities, no matter how cold they behaved at the beginning, how inedible fireworks, until later when you flirted with her, you can see that she also has humanity. She is also an ordinary woman, with her good and her bad,
There is a glorious side of her humanity, and there is also a dark side of her humanity. Whether it's a teacher or a cop or a martial arts instructor, it's all about being a person, either a man or a woman. There's nothing strange about men flirting with women, and there's nothing that shouldn't be done, it's like men and women want to reproduce, it's a mission that genes give us. ‘
We can't just casually flirt with girls, that's called hooliganism. But in the case that the attraction has been established, the other party already has a good feeling and window for us, and when it is time to upgrade, you do not upgrade, it is a mistake, and the girl may have a frustration.
Many girls have told me before: Why does this boy always delay in acting?
Do you want me to be more proactive? Shouldn't it be the boy's initiative?
They have these confusions and then they come and talk to me. So if you belonged to the category of people who did not dare to flirt before, then now you should let go of your psychological baggage, as long as you see the window of the girl, flirting will not block you from the door of love at all, on the contrary, it is a necessary stage. There is also a category of boys who do not flirt, then you don't want to talk about so many intimate topics at once, you can try to go from shallow to deep, little by little.
For example, the girl said: I originally wanted to go shopping today, but I didn't expect it to rain, so I was disappointed. Then you can say: when it rains, you can just nestle at home and stay at home like a kitten for a day.
As you become more skilled, you can reply to her like this: Or come to my house, there is no rain in my bed.
Flirting is like a hook-up, it also requires practice, and you also need to constantly familiarize yourself with the process, so that you can naturally say those words that are provocative enough without making the girl feel disgusted, and this degree can be just right.
If we want to make substantial progress in our relationship with girls, we need to use flirting to bring the relationship into the seduction stage.
Flirting means that when we are chatting, the language has some elements such as small bad and small waves, and we go to chat with girls about some private objects and private behaviors. Talk about things that can remind girls of something about privacy or ambiguity. Talking about sex can quickly excite girls, so flirting can bring girls a lot of mood swings. The way we flirt is to verbally make us and the girl have a physical connection, an intimate relationship. If the girl does not give obvious rejection and rejection, it means that she can mentally accept the actual behavior of being more intimate with us, and we can carry out actual physical upgrading with the girl according to these.
We should mix some of the improprieties in the normal chat, so that the girls will find it interesting, and the effect of our flirting will be better.
There is a class of boys, he and girls chat is always serious, girls will find bored. There is also a type of boy, his chat with girls is always improper, and girls will feel that he is frivolous. Therefore, in the serious chat, some immodest is sandwiched, so that the girl will find it interesting.
Flirting is the only way for us to enter an intimate relationship with a girl, so there is no need to think that flirting is playing hooliganism.
If you are not able to flirt with girls naturally now, then you must simply upgrade the language first, do not have to be fast, practice more, make your experience more abundant, and then flirt with ease, so that the chat will not become a stumbling block to the progress of your relationship.