Text/Little Snow Mom
Unconsciously, the Spring Festival has almost passed, adults should go to work, and only children are still immersed in the joy of the Spring Festival holiday, after all, the elders gave so much money a few days ago, although most of them have been taken away by their parents, but these days the children are still the richest period of the year.
Speaking of pressing the old money, many parents are a little bad, after all, some relatives and children have more relatives and children, and how much money to give must be discussed in advance, so as not to give more and less to affect the relationship.
Moreover, children also love to compare, after taking the red envelope privately will also compare who took the red envelope how much, looking back to find that the number is not the same, passing to the parents' ears will also destroy the family relationship.
"Why is the pressure money given by grandma a few less than grandma" The child said a sentence to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Colleague Xiaoling just had a daughter that will, originally planned to let the mother-in-law help with the child for a period of time, but at that time Xiaoling's husband's brother's child was only one year old, the mother-in-law said that she could not free her hands, there was no way at the same time Xiaoling could only ask her own mother to help, the child's grandmother was also dedicated, the granddaughter to the kindergarten.
It can be said that at the same time, Xiaoling's daughter has lived with her grandmother since she was a child, and she is relatively unfamiliar with her grandmother, and the time spent together in a year is also very limited, and it is obvious that there is some difference between the mother-in-law's feelings for the son of the eldest brother and her daughter.
In the New Year, the children all went to their grandmother's house, according to the tradition of the old man on the morning of the first day of the New Year, the old man gave the children a red envelope, which was originally a festive day, but because of the problem of the red packet, the wound of the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was torn open.
Grandma sent a red envelope to each child, privately the children played together, colleague Xiaoling's daughter found that there were 5 red coins in her brother's red envelope, while there were only 3 in her own red packet, so she told her mother about this discovery.
After listening to her daughter's words, Xiao Ling's heart was very unpleasant, and she was also her own grandchildren and granddaughters, and the pressure on the old money was different, which made Xiao Ling very mindful in her heart.
In this regard, Xiaoling's daughter asked: "Why does Grandma always give less money than Grandma?" Xiaoling had to say to her daughter, "Because you are still young, when you grow up, the red envelopes given to you by your grandmother will become more."
Privately, the more Xiaoling thought about it, the more uncomfortable she became, so she vaguely told her mother-in-law about this matter, and the mother-in-law said that it would not be the same in the future, but this matter also left a bad side in Xiaoling's heart.
Who is the child closer to? The following factors are key
From the former issue of pressing the old money, many people have led to a topic, that is, children and grandmothers are closer, or are they closer to grandmothers? In fact, the following factors are the key.
First, who takes the child for a long time, who is good to the child, the child and who kiss
Just like the colleague Xiaoling's daughter grew up with her grandmother from childhood, and spent a long time together, naturally the child is the closest to the grandmother, which is the common feeling of people, the same if the grandmother takes the child for a long time, the child must have a better relationship with the grandmother.
In addition, the other is who is good to the child, and who the child is closer to, these two criteria can be regarded as an important factor affecting the child's relationship. In the past, most of the children were brought with the help of grandmothers, but now the situation of grandmothers with babies is becoming more and more common, and some of them get along less with their grandmothers, and their natural feelings are worse.
Second, who has more patience to accompany the child, the child and who kiss
Now there is a saying on the Internet called "fake baby", which refers to the fact that the elderly seem to be taking children every day, but some are perfunctory with babies and do not really care to bring children. Like some old people take their children to play mahjong together, play mahjong themselves to let children play next to themselves, this way of taking children, children do not necessarily have to be close to the elderly.
The elderly who can really make the child close must be the old man who patiently accompanies the child, is willing to play with the child, accompanies the child to play games, and brings the child from the heart.
Grandma and Grandma are the relatives of the child, there is no need to distinguish who is better and who is better!
Just like the New Year's Press Money, the number of old people on both sides may be different, and there is not much to compare, after all, the situation of each family is different.
Some elderly people have a better economic situation, naturally send more red envelopes to children, and some elderly people have a general economic situation, and may give children less money, but some old people's love for children is not measured by money, unless it is said that the number of old people to other children and their children is not the same.
For children, grandparents and grandparents are their own relatives, there is no need to distinguish who is better in the child's heart, like most families are only children now, the whole family loves a child, the old man is very good to the child, that also teaches the child to respect and be close to the old man.
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