Everyone's emotional attitude is different, some people want to try to save after breaking up, but some people will quickly find a new love, no matter how many contradictions there are when they are in contact, in most cases, it is inevitable that there will be sadness and loss after really separating, and what is the psychology of those who can quickly find new feelings? Is it that the new love is too attractive, or that he has never taken the relationship seriously.
Never loved
It cannot be denied that this person has never really put you in his heart, so after the breakup, there may be a little bit of loss, but it will definitely not be painful, and even without exaggeration, loss is a kind of gain.
Because of the vacated position of the role, he can start his life again without any worries, and finally he can find someone more suitable for him, not so loving, naturally not so hurtful, when to change, fast or slow, is not so important at all.
Therefore, where there is so much open-mindedness and broad-mindedness, it is just not enough love. Without intentions, where there will be sadness.
Healing new joy
All wounds seem to have medicine to heal, but emotional wounds are the most difficult to heal, some people say that time can heal everything, but how long it will take, and who can say clearly, not to mention that it is really difficult to survive alone for a long time. Many old drivers say that the fastest and best way to forget old love is to find a new love, so they will find new feelings as a way to heal themselves.
After just ending a relationship, when people have become accustomed to having that person there, so there will be an emotional window period after the breakup, and this time is also the moment when we need someone to accompany us the most, simply put, the new love we are looking for, not because of love, but let the new person make up for the gap in the role after the ex leaves.
Using continuous intimacy to gain a familiar sense of security is not so much about finding a new friend, but more bluntly as a Band-Aid, looking for a healing new love, mostly caused by the inner defense mechanism, trying to cover up the pain in your own way. And this fake feeling of happiness and intimacy basically does not last long, a few weeks or as long as 3 months or so.
But this attitude of opening a relationship is extremely selfish and naïve, because in the end it can only cause new misfortunes, implicate the innocent incumbent, and may even add an enemy, and the past life of hatred is all love, and how deep the love is, how much hate is heavy. So don't quickly find a new partner for this purpose, because it is likely that there will be new emotional problems, unless you really like to appreciate, otherwise your own injuries, heal yourself, and then start a new relationship.
Stimulate the other party to indulge
The reason why some people quickly find a new love is to stimulate the jealousy of the other party, but this kind of action is a bit childish and ridiculous, because it is likely that the other party is separated, and it is already a relief that can't wait for you to start over.
Therefore, not only can not achieve the purpose of repairing emotions, but it will make the ex more relaxed, feel ridiculous and ignorant. You can not give up, you can also guide the other party to change their minds, hinting at compounding, but don't try to use the stimulation method to make the other party jealous and come back to you.
This way of throwing stones and asking for directions simply did not meet expectations. Can really do a new start, or successful compound, the first thing to do is the "zero mentality", a good mentality is half of the success, that is their real beginning, a simple incumbent does not play a role at all, nor can it change the situation of the relationship.
epilogue:
Attach importance to their own "happy emotional value", know how to be good to themselves, and understand that they can establish their own advantages in order to achieve an irreplaceable position. And those who try to stimulate old love with new joy will eventually miss not only the beauty of the past, but also the scenery in front of them.