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When it comes to children's education, many people have the responsibility that society and schools should bear, but this is not the case.
As the old saying goes: "Parents are the best teachers for children". 【WeChat public account: Lao Tzu Tao Te Ching】
Around us, those well-read parents always carry a well-behaved and intelligent child. And those parents who do not pay attention to self-cultivation, their children can learn to speak dirty words at a few years old.
What your family is like, what your children will be like in the future.
When we can't understand the techniques of educating children, we may wish to learn from the sage Wang Yangming:
Being a good person is the foundation of life
The ancient saying has clouds: "Moral heirlooms, more than ten generations, cultivation and reading heirlooms are secondary, poetry and books are passed down from family to family, rich and noble, but three generations." ”
Leave the children with gold mountains and silver mountains, and there is a day when they sit and eat the mountains. And a beautiful personality benefits children for life.
Ever since the rebellion of King Ning, the chancellor Jiang Bin had become jealous of Wang Yangming's exploits, and he had taken advantage of his position as viceroy of Jinyiwei to make false accusations against Emperor Wuzong.
And Wang Yangming was a man of integrity and kindness, there was no evidence of corruption and rebellion, and even the faint and absurd Wuzong was willing to believe in his innocence.
Only by being a good person can we have a good life.
If life is a big tree, the good personality is the root system of the big tree, and the root rots, and the whole tree will gradually lose its vitality.
Every good person is an angel blessed by fate, even if they encounter setbacks and frames, they can win more trust for themselves.
Kind children, even if they are confused in front of them, will have a warm beacon to show them the way.
Reading is the lowest threshold in the world
The first rule in Wang Yangming's family training is: read diligently.
Reading and learning are always the cheapest shortcuts to change destiny, and from ancient times to the present, they have never changed.
Wang Yangming has had the ambition to become a saint since he was a child, and in order to achieve this goal, he has turned diligent study and hard reading into his motto.
Wang Yangming only began to systematically study the art of war at the age of twenty-six, which was an age when he learned everything and "halfway out of the house", but he finally achieved great success with diligence and understanding.
We must encourage children to read, but we must not let children read as nerds, and it is also important to learn to use them flexibly.
In the process of learning the art of war, Wang Yangming also read a lot of military books, and although these martial arts were complex and obscure, Wang Yangming only adhered to the three-character mantra: "Don't move your heart."
Second, it is to guide children to read more classics.
A large part of the books for children, the reading value is far less than the classic masterpieces, what parents have to do is to carefully select, let the children read more good books.
A person who has developed the habit of reading is to have the "superpower" to draw wisdom from human civilization.
Children who can read, their horizons and patterns are more open than other children, as long as such children maintain the kindness of their hearts, the future is only a matter of time.
Unity of knowledge and action, dare to practice
The Song Dynasty great writer Lu You used this poem to educate his children:
"On paper, I finally realized that I had to do something about it."
As the saying goes, "Just talk and don't practice the false handle."
Many times, the knowledge of books is still too one-sided, and if you want your children to really benefit, you still have to encourage your children to practice it.
We all know that Wang Yangming was a successful thinker and philosopher, but we all know that Wang Yangming has also made great achievements in the fields of military, calligraphy and painting, Nongsang and politics.
It is the concept of "unity of knowledge and action" that guides Wang Yangming to continuously apply what he has learned in practice, and finally become holy on the ground and achieve countless achievements.
In life, when children face new problems, instead of doing everything instead, it is better to encourage children to study in person and be brave in trial and error.
Let the children learn from the continuous mistakes and successes, and personally harvest useful knowledge, which is stronger than the hundreds of times of parents' long-winded preaching.
Even if the child's life ideal is as high as the sea of stars, step by step, it will always reach the end.
The ancient saying has clouds: "Practice makes perfect". Blind impatience and excessive help are not good for children.
Only children who continue to persevere with their own efforts can have a more complete life.
Whether we like to admit it or not, the impact of family education on children is lifelong.
In his childhood, Wang Yangming was a smart but maverick child, he studied seriously, but he often danced with guns and sticks in the courtyard of the study, and liked to think about some strange problems.
One day, Mr. Wang Yangming's private school came to talk to his father, Wang Hua. It turned out that Xiao Wang Yangming was not good at school, and wrote an inexplicable poem in class:
The mountain is small near the moon, and the mountain is larger than the moon.
If a person has eyes as big as the sky, when he sees the mountains higher and the moon is wider.
Wang Hua saw from this that his son's extraordinary talent and unique way of thinking, he did not blame too much, and immediately took Wang Yangming to Guanwai, which was an unusual decision.
Although the conservative ideas of this father's pursuit of merit and fame made it impossible for him to support Wang Yangming's path of sages.
However, his way of educating according to the situation eventually fulfilled Wang Yangming's philosophical thinking.
Correct education of children is to give children the best future! 【WeChat public account: Lao Tzu Tao Te Ching】
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