Text/Wei Chen
Liu Tong said: "Your face is light and breezy, no one knows how tight your teeth are; you walk with the wind, no one knows that you still have bruises on your knees that have been broken; you laugh so much that you have no heart and no lungs, and no one knows that you can only cry silently." To make people feel effortless, we can only work extremely hard behind the scenes, we have no future that cannot be changed, only the past that we do not want to change. ”
The true appearance of life will never be the appearance of others. The joy or sorrow that can be seen in the eyes of others is only the appearance. True feelings are hidden in the bottom of your heart, as long as you don't express them, others can't understand you.
People who have been in the rain will always remember the rain, no matter how many years have passed, and when they encounter similar scenes, they will not help but want to hold an umbrella for others.
People's emotions cannot be shared, but similar experiences can quickly bring each other closer together.
People who have suffered are well aware of the suffering, so they do not easily ridicule others.
There are many kinds of feelings in this world, and we can't experience each of them, and naturally we don't have a deep feeling for the experiences of others. There are always some unspeakable pains in life, and only those who have experienced it personally understand it.
We often hear similar sentences from other people: "Your difficulties, your pain, I understand."
In fact, the more people who speak in this way, the less they understand, because the real understanding is not verbal empathy, but the pain that cannot be hidden.
There is an old saying: "He who lies for a long time will go far, and he who has been lying for a long time will fly high." "The more people who experience setbacks and tribulations, the more they know how to cultivate obscurity, and if they don't make a sound, they will be amazing."
People who have suffered great suffering cannot hide at all, they often have the following 4 characteristics, and they will become great instruments in the future.
Treat people sincerely and know how to cherish
Human nature is so strange that it is always cherished after it is lost, and it is regrettable to lose it.
Time is really a good thing, it can heal the scars of the past, let people grow quietly in silence.
Don't think that the person around you who treats people sincerely and knows how to cherish is just mature. Everyone's maturity is not easy to come by because it requires experiencing pain and stress that others never know about.
People are always reluctant to speak when they are wronged, because they are afraid that before the words are spoken, the tears will not be able to help but flow down.
The more gentle and understanding a person is, the greater the probability that the depths of their hearts will already be scarred.
People who have suffered greatly emotionally, the more they know how to cherish it later, they are always cautious and understand things that make people feel painful.
The tear point is low and easy to move
Whether the human heart is strong or not is inseparable from the experience of the past.
Don't think that the person who has a low tear point and is easily moved is because of strong empathy. Usually they just see who they once were in others.
It's rare for someone to cry for someone else, and most of our emotions are because of ourselves.
When one person sees one's own shadow in another person, it feels very intimate. It's easy to bring yourself into the other person's world at the moment.
The sense of substitution will reduce a person's tear point, making those otherwise inconspicuous little things stand out.
Some people shed tears, in the eyes of outsiders, because they were moved, only they understood, that is because they really felt the pain at a certain moment.
No money, free atmosphere
Everyone in the world loves money, whether it is a villain or a gentleman, but a gentleman loves money and has a way to get it, and a villain loves money by any means.
However, there is still a kind of person in this world, who does not value money and is free of atmosphere. So indifferent to Mingzhi, quiet and far-reaching, not because of self-confidence and lack of money.
But there is something more important than money in their hearts. That is the emotion that cannot be regained after loss.
People who have suffered greatly have seen the good and evil of human nature, so they can cover everything, and there are fewer and fewer people and things that are not accustomed to it, and more and more people want to protect it.
They understand the principle that "when the moon is full, it is lost, and when the water is full, it overflows", so they can do it enough to be free.
The other party does not argue, not because of how strong you are, but because his cognition is far above you.
Affectionate and affectionate
As the saying goes, if you eat bitterly, you will be a good person. Those who have suffered greatly will still have different feelings in their hearts whenever they recall the suffering they have suffered.
No one knows better than the parties how hard it is to endure hardships.
The writer Mader said: "A person's soul, only in solitude, can see its own clarity and brightness, in order to enjoy the fullness and vigor of life." "Nothing inspires a person's feelings more than suffering.
Not all affectionate people are affectionate from birth, and most of them slowly understand the power of feelings in time and experience.
Since ancient times, it has been said that the children of poor families have long been in charge, because there is no way, so they can only force themselves. Suffering can accelerate a person's growth.
The more affectionate and righteous people are, the more they may have suffered.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About author: Wei Chen, freelance writer. He loves literature and has a certain understanding of poetry and literary works.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.