Someone asked me, when did you really realize the importance of mental health? I want to tell you that the event that really shook my heart and made me feel that mental health is very important was the death of a distant relative.
My cousin's family had twins, and the brothers were brilliant, both of whom joined the workforce after graduating from graduate school. The younger brother of the twins, one meter eight, has a white face, wears a pair of myopic glasses, and is polite. After graduating from graduate school, I worked alone in a city far from home. The younger brother is usually less verbal and more introverted. Usually, he does not communicate much with his parents, and usually calls once a week to report that he is safe. Every time I call, I ask my parents about their bodies and ask if there are any changes in the home.
Suddenly, one day, my parents received an urgent call from my brother's unit, saying that my brother was sick and hospitalized, and I needed my parents to come over quickly. The parents were particularly anxious to hear this, and hurried from home to the city where their brother was located.
Who knows, when my parents arrived, they saw a cold corpse. It turned out that the unit was worried that the parents could not withstand the blow of the news of their son's death, so they only told them that the child was hospitalized. In fact, the night before, my brother had fallen from the eight floors where he lived, and the next morning he was discovered by a neighbor who got up early and went out.
Later, a suicide note was found in his brother's room.
My brother wrote in his suicide note: I have been depressed for a long time, I feel that there is nothing in the world that I can leave my nostalgic, I am no longer interested in the things around me, even planning the wedding that will be held soon can not make me feel happy, but full of pressure.
I seemed to have fallen into a deep black hole, trying desperately to grasp a straw, but I could not grasp it. I tried desperately to make myself happy, but even squeezing out a smile at the people around me made me feel particularly tired. I don't want my parents to worry about me, every time I call to ask them if they are in good health, do not dare to talk to them about their own affairs, afraid that they will find out that they are different, every time they call to ask about the changes in their bodies and the people around them, they will hurry up and hang up.
I tried to live like a normal person, work well, get married and have children. So I also found a beloved girlfriend, and we planned the wedding together. I thought I could gradually return to my normal state, but everything didn't seem to follow the trajectory I expected.
It was another sleepless night, and I had spent several nights in a row, in the transition between waking my eyes and waking up after a few moments of nap. I felt like I might not be able to hold on, and the endless darkness weighed on me and I couldn't breathe. I don't want to continue to suffer, although there is reluctance, but I always feel involuntarily. Dear Parents, my lover, I can't afford to love you anymore.
Mom and Dad, the most reluctant thing in this life is you, forgive me for not being able to do filial piety for you, and not being able to stay in front of the bed when you are sick. I can no longer greet you at fixed times and chat with you. I am well aware of my filial piety, so that you can bear the pain of losing your son in your old age, and bear the pain of sending white-haired people to black-haired people, but I really can't see hope, I can't see the light. May I still be your child in the next life, but become a cheerful and optimistic child who lives in the sun. Chat with you and give you a pension.
Dear lover, although we have not been together for a long time, I am especially grateful for your company during this time, giving me encouragement, comforting me, enlightening me when I am helpless and confused, and making me seem to see a glimmer of light in the darkness. I used to think that your appearance would give my life a chance, but I still couldn't get out of the darkness. Forgive me for not being able to accompany you for the rest of my life, for not being able to fulfill the promise of holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son. Forgive me for being a deserter after all, I admit that I am not brave enough, not strong enough. May you find the lover who loves you, is willing to guard you and take care of you, and will work with you for a lifetime. I will be absent for the rest of your life after all, and I think I will guard you in another world and bless you in another way.
Brother, brother can no longer share the responsibilities of the family with you, take care of the elderly parents together. From childhood to adulthood, we are like shadows of each other, going to school together and playing together. In the future, there will be less people who are almost exactly like you, and may you not be alone. At the same time, I would like to thank you for taking care of my parents for me and taking on more family pressure. Take care of your body, because your parents need you more.
Goodbye, this world, I don't want to be like this, but it is really too tired, and this exhaustion seems to make it difficult to breathe. I don't want to talk to people, I'm afraid people will say I'm too vulnerable, but I also don't want to be so vulnerable, instead of struggling, it's better to end it as soon as possible.
A young life is taken away by depression that is not yet known to the public. If you can understand the disease early and seek medical treatment as soon as possible, you may not have such a tragic end. Elderly parents, young fiancées, what kind of parting pain they should bear!
When I heard this news, I was also extremely shocked, did I really think that the tall and handsome brother had really passed away? It seems that this fact cannot be accepted for a while. Maybe the feeling of listening to other people's stories was not so strong before, but when it came to the people around them, they felt incomparably real, extremely sorry, and incomparably shaken in their hearts.
In order to avoid tragedy, I will give you a brief introduction to depression. If you have the following symptoms that persist for more than two weeks, be on high alert for the possibility of depression:
Feeling sad, anxious, irritable, or hopeless; gaining or decreasing weight; sleeping more or less than usual; moving slower than usual or finding it difficult to sit still; losing interest in something you usually enjoy; feeling tired all the time; feeling worthless or guilty; having difficulty concentrating; thinking about death or wanting to give up.
At this time, we should be highly vigilant about whether we have depression, and we must go to a specialist hospital in time to receive a doctor's assessment. Don't be afraid to be criticized by others for not being strong enough, because depression is a real disease, not simply fragile or not strong enough.
Moreover, depression will be greatly improved after drug control, and if it is combined with psychological counseling, it will make you recover faster.
Don't delay diagnosis and treatment for fear of being blamed by others, your life and health are the most important thing compared to the judgment of others.