Which family is stronger in dissuading marriage? The cooling-off period for divorce helps you. Yes, I'm talking about France. Everyone knows that the French are more romantic and impulsive. It is possible to get married on impulse, and it is also likely to divorce on impulse.
As a Christian country, the french legislators also feel that this is not OK, in order to prevent flash marriage and divorce, the French divorce procedures are also extremely complicated, which can make people completely calm down.
The divorce process in France is like this: First, you do not want to divorce within 6 months of marriage. Flash marriage is terrible, flash marriage is shameful, and the state does not support it.
After that, if one of the spouses requests a divorce, they must live apart for more than three years. (I don't love you, but I can drag you to death until you and your baby who is three years old)
If both parties agree to divorce, or have been separated for more than 3 years, submit a divorce application, and have to delay for another 3 months to completely calm down before leaving.
You see, according to this set of procedures in France, if you want to get divorced after marriage, it will be a year later. Divorce is so troublesome, presumably the French who are afraid of trouble by nature must not divorce, right?
No!
Since divorce is so troublesome, it is better not to get married at all.
France now has 59.7% of its children who are not born in wedlock. That is to say, three-fifths of the babies in a class are not the products of marriage, and as to whether they are the crystallization of love or the stones of passion, we don't know, and we don't dare to ask.
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Psychologically speaking, people have a loss aversion. If you want to face both gains and losses at the same time, people will hate losses even more. The negative effect of the same amount of loss is 2.5 times the positive benefit of the same amount of gain. That is to say, if you go out and lose 100 yuan, you have to earn at least 250 yuan to feel better.
The same goes for migrating to marriage. Thinking that divorce may cause all kinds of tosses and all kinds of pain, then marriage must bring people at least 2.5 times the benefits to make people make up their minds to get married. So can marriage bring such a huge harvest? Can you?
Friends who often shop online may have a deep understanding that if a product is written "seven days without reason to return, only change and repair within half a year", you can most likely be assured to buy an order. And if a cargo is marked "the goods are sold, there is no return and replacement", it is most likely to be discouraged. (It is said that this is the brand of the old state-run store, and I have hardly seen it since the market economy)
Originally, there was no cooling-off period for divorce, and the two of them could not go on together, so they could immediately take the marriage certificate and return it for a divorce certificate, just like 7 days without reason to return it, without worries. The result is hard to add a cooling off period, although it is not "the goods are sold, no returns and exchanges", but if you want to return and exchange at least two or three times to run the store, I know this, you still can't buy it?
If the exit threshold for a thing is too high, people will definitely be more inclined not to do it.
If the divorce rate is too high, is it better to cancel the divorce? Let's talk about what an "Italian divorce" is.
As the birthplace of Christianity, divorce was not allowed in Italy for a long time. Those two people turned their faces into enemies, and seeing each other was like seeing a lump, what to do? One is to play each other and find a lover. If it is difficult to find a lover, it is difficult to eliminate the block in your heart, and you can only find another way.
There is a play called "Italian Divorce", which tells such a story.
The male protagonist Ferdinand dislikes his wife for being fat and ugly, laughing like a duck, and secretly falling in love with his 16-year-old cousin. On one side is the delicate little cousin, and on the other side is the yellow-faced woman. Ferdinand was constantly wondering how to leave his wife and cousin to fly together. After studying the legal provisions, the male protagonist found that divorce was not feasible, but if he caught the lover being unfaithful, he killed the other party on the spot, as long as he went to jail for three years.
This buy and sell is done. So Ferdinand deliberately designed to let his wife have a private meeting with his old lover, and then collected the letters written by his wife to scold himself, staged a "cowardly humiliation" in public, and then shot and killed his wife in public. In the end, three years of imprisonment were exchanged for a lifetime of freedom.
If you can't get married and get rid of your spouse, this is Italian divorce.
Therefore, when two resentful people are together and artificially do not let them untie, the consequences are very serious.
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There are only two ways to divorce, a divorce by agreement, and a divorce by litigation, which is commonly known as litigation.
In the past, as long as the two families discussed who the house belonged to and who the baby belonged to, they could get a divorce certificate when they went to the Civil Affairs Bureau. Later, because the staff of a civil affairs bureau in Wuhan, every time they saw someone divorced, they lied that the printer was broken, the network was broken, and they did not do it. Later, there were really a few pairs who were clamoring for divorce and did not leave. Wuhan also awarded them the "Most Beautiful Red Lady Award".
Leaving aside whether this is dereliction of duty, the result is a look: Hey, procrastination saves the divorce rate? This deal is done!
So there was a cooling-off period for marriage.
If the cooling-off period for divorce is implemented, and two people go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce for the first time with the agreement, the Civil Affairs Bureau will not look at it, only lock the materials into the drawer, and say: You go back, wait for 30 days.
During these 30 days, either of the two men repented. This marriage cannot be separated.
But do you think you'll leave automatically after 30 days?
NO, in the next 30 days, no matter how busy you are with your wrongdoer, no matter how you don't deal with it, you have to go through the divorce process at the Civil Affairs Bureau again in order to get away. If you both forget within 30 days, don't go. Sorry, please do it all over again.
Come and go, at least 30-60 days. This also requires the other party to let you go, and do not regret it halfway. You know, in order to persuade the other half who does not want to divorce, someone has done everything in his power, and it turns out that it is not enough to convince once, and for the next 30 days and nights, the one who wants to divorce can't sleep every night, worried about the other party's remorse. It was hard to survive 30 days, and then I had to persuade the other party to cash in the divorce papers.
It's really hard! Know that people who suffer in pain can't wait for a day. It's not so much a cooling-off period as it is a pre-dawn darkness. And always going back and forth, isn't it a public resource? How many times do you have to run to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get divorced?
And it is not that if you are divorced, you can remarry, you can remarry for 9 yuan, is it not fragrant?
If you think this is too much trouble, change the lawsuit. Well, you probably think, it's better to wait 30-60 days.
Two people live a life, as long as one does not agree to divorce, the probability is inseparable. If there are only four lawsuits, the court will rule.
1. Bigamy.
2. Domestic violence, abandonment, abuse
3. The vicious habits of pornography, gambling and poison have not changed
4. Emotional discord, separated for more than 2 years.
Looks OK isn't it? It's not that simple. Generally speaking, the first time you file for divorce, you will be dissuaded, especially if the reason for divorce is emotional discord or something, almost 100% will not be judged. After being persuaded to retire, he could not fight the lawsuit again within half a year. After half a year, the prosecution was again, and the success rate was not easy to say.
Let's talk about domestic violence and separation. If you have to produce evidence for domestic violence, you will almost certainly not be sentenced to domestic violence if you do not have any injuries on your body. In other words, if the girl is unfortunate enough to find a violent man who likes to slap you two times, and the other party refuses to divorce. Fight it, and did not leave an injury, only to make you feel pain and humiliation in your heart, then sorry, agreed divorce and litigation divorce, it is difficult to go through, please be prepared for litigation 3 times, a year and a half of youth is gone.
As for the separation of more than 2 years, the focus is on emotional discord. You have to prove that for 2 years there was a disagreement. Usually only 2 years apart is also difficult to leave. After the court ruled that the divorce was not allowed, they could not be separated for another 1 year before they could leave. In this way, it will take 3 years before and after, and you can stage half an episode of Infernal Affairs.
Divorce is like shedding a layer of skin.
Compared with the divorce cooling-off period, I think that the marriage cooling-off period can improve the marriage rate and reduce the divorce rate. Two young people look at each other, impulsively, this situation is there. But the thought of divorce being troublesome is enough to dissuade many people, see France.
Set up a cooling-off period for marriage, and if someone repents within 30 days, the marriage will not count. The advantage is that the threshold of marriage is lowered, and no one will be able to get along because of a momentary impulse, and the "unmarried" on the household registration book will become "divorced". Maybe more people will be willing to go inside the walls to experience the experience. There will definitely be most people in the middle who feel "really fragrant" and end up together for a lifetime. (Jun did not see bought a seven-day free trial, the actual return rate is very low)
If you really can't get along, it doesn't matter, anyway, it doesn't count the divorce rate, isn't it the best of both worlds?
In any case, there are many passionate marriages, and passionate divorcees are rare.
I am Yijun, post-80s mother, national second-level psychological counselor, good at cognitive psychology, multi-platform author. Thank you for your attention and retweeting!