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Some people say that being angry and not being angry, one is hell and the other is heaven.
How to interpret this sentence?
The word "anger" is "slave" when taken apart, and the word "forgiveness" is "such as", and both words are "heart" as the base. This means that the person who forgives others will live more and more satisfactorily, and the person who is angry will become a slave to "qi".
The Chinese characters of the Chinese nation are broad and profound, and all this has long been explained clearly in the Chinese characters of the old ancestors. After reading it, are you still angry?
It is said that anger is the devil, often angry because of a small matter, if you do not control your temper, arbitrary, it will cause uncontrollable serious consequences.
And people who can swallow their breath in life will live a very peaceful life, even if there is a disaster, they will be at peace with you.
Therefore, don't be angry, you must accumulate wealth for yourself with a good temper, and life will be smooth.
When you learn not to get angry, your life wins.
01. Angry and self-righteous is actually self-inflicted humiliation
The next-door neighbor is a couple who are almost confused, and the woman's surname is Wang. The two often quarreled, and sometimes slept until the middle of the night to wake up by the sound of their quarrels.
In recent years, the two have stopped arguing.
One day I came home from work and happened to meet Aunt Wang in the community, so I chatted. It turned out that Aunt Wang and her husband finally figured it out and said that they would never quarrel again, because they quarreled, they were uncomfortable not to say, and they would be laughed at by others.
Indeed, I have vaguely heard others laugh at their poor couples after they quarreled, and had a bad life.
Aunt Wang and his wife finally figured it out, and they also said that if they hadn't quarreled earlier, their lives would have been better, and they wouldn't have become the talk of others after tea and dinner, inviting people to laugh.
I'm really happy for them, no matter how old they are, they understand it, after all, home and everything is happy.
Quarrels will make others laugh, and those who are smarter than you will crush you; those who are weaker than you will avoid you; people like you will laugh at you.
Anger is actually a kind of personality self-righteousness. You feel that your point of view is right, so you will quarrel, in fact, if you say it yourself, others will laugh at you.
There is a saying: "Those who know the times are Junjie, and those who change the machine are heroic." "What is said is that people should have a correct judgment of the current situation in order to do things successfully."
And people who like to be angry, anger has interfered with your mind, made you uneasy, will make a wrong judgment about the situation, say the wrong thing and do the wrong thing, so that others will of course make fun of you.
Therefore, don't be angry in life, there are things to discuss, there is no obstacle in the world that cannot be crossed, and there is no river in life that cannot be crossed. When the words are said, all the problems are solved.
02. Angry, thinking that you are strong, in fact, you will pay for it
The adult world, harsh and harsh, very competitive, when you are brilliant on stage, how many people want to drag you off the stage. And what you have to do is to be down-to-earth and calm.
The famous host Zhu Dan was once a well-known host in China. She has a good image, good temperament, good voice, and is very popular with the audience. However, the more powerful people are, the more life will test you. Zhu Dan's highlight moment on the TV station, how many people are waiting below to take his place.
Sure enough, at a variety show celebration in 2019, Zhu Dan mispronounced the name of one actor, and a month later, she mispronounced the name of another star. Zhu Dan's value plummeted on CCTV.
She was in so much pain that there was a reason for it, she and some people who were associated with her began to get angry, and she didn't show up for several days. Later, because of the family, the children... Zhu Dan had to return to CCTV with a cheeky face, and he began to clean up a rotten mess caused by his own anger.
After that, Zhu Dan was back on the show.
Therefore, celebrities are like this, and we ordinary people can't escape the tests that life brings us. If you are angry, there is a mess caused by your anger, and you have to clean it up alone in order to survive.
And all the consequences of being angry, the price paid, in the end it is you who pay. For your days will go on.
It's like when you break a water cup when you're angry, because you don't have anything to hold, so you have to buy it back, which is a waste of money.
The same reason, all the people, things, and things that you damage when you are angry, including interpersonal relationships, you must rebuild, so that you will waste a lot of financial and material resources and manpower, and the gains will not be worth the losses.
Therefore, not getting angry is the best state of mind.
03. Angry, thinking that you are relieved, will actually be angry with yourself
During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhou Yu, the governor of the Eastern Wu Water Army, was narrow-minded and framed Zhuge Liang many times because he was jealous of Zhuge Liang's talents, but Zhuge Liang escaped by chance.
After that, Zhuge Liang fought back against Qi Zhou Yu three times: first, during the battle for Nan Commandery, Zhuge Liang took advantage of Zhou Yu's engagement with Cao Jun to capture Nan Commandery. When Zhou Yu learned of this, he was so angry that his golden sores broke down; the second time, Zhou Yu used Sun Quan's sister as bait to frame Liu Bei, and was discovered by Zhuge Liang; the third time, Zhou Yu helped Liu Bei attack Xichuan and seize the opportunity to seize Jingzhou, but Zhuge Liang recognized that Zhou Yu was trapped in Jingzhou City.
Zhou Yu's temperament was small, which could withstand Zhuge Liang's three design counterattacks. Zhou Yu shouted angrily, "Born Yu? He Shengliang? "Spit blood in his mouth and die of anger."
In fact, being angry is the most useless thing, not only will it make others see jokes, but also angry with themselves, and the gains are not worth the losses.
Writer Liu Na said: "Emotion is a gun, when we pull the trigger of emotion, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves." ”
If it is angry, if you see it, you should not see it, if you hear it, you should not hear it, and if you know it, you will treat it as a wind in your ears. As long as you are happy, see the flowers in the fog, enjoy the scenery in the clouds, make tea in the snow... It's all okay.
If you are angry, think about the allusion of the three qi Zhou Yu, and probably you will not be angry.
04, the rest of your life, do not get angry to win life
In fact, being born as a human being is a kind of luck, what can not be lived, life is to live happily to have meaning.
If there is no road before the car reaches the mountain, get off the car to enjoy the scenery; the water is not yet successful and then dig; when people reach middle age, they will look away...
For the rest of your life, don't get angry, you just win.
Oh man! Only after experiencing it can we have some understanding, missing it to learn to cherish, and understanding how gentle it is to know how gentle self-realization is...
So, if something makes you angry, learn to think backwards, look at the opposite side of the matter, and everything will be light.
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