Someone said:
Love at first sight is the beginning of sight
Day-to-day relationships are weighing the pros and cons
But I think love should be
For a lifetime, I only see this person
And only with this person to weigh the pros and cons of living a lifetime
Thrilling, déjà vu, fascinating, insane, as if hit by fate, and like a marriage destined in a previous life...
These strong and sudden emotions, because they are uncontrollable, are called love at first sight, and everyone looks forward to it and everyone fears it.
What kind of psychological secrets are hidden behind love at first sight?
Or is everything really predestined?
Love at first sight takes only 8.2 seconds.
That is, the eighth second I saw you, my heart already belonged to you.
The results of a questionnaire called "On Love Experience" showed that 55.2% of people had had the experience of love at first sight, of which 61.1% were men and 50.6% were women, indicating that love at first sight not only existed, but also had differences between men and women.
Men are more likely to fall in love at first sight (unrequited love) and are more likely to be attracted to each other's appearances, while women value each other's interiors more.
We found that men are generally more lustful, after the failure to chase girls, there are few "non-secretarial and not married" heroes, most men often quickly set new goals, so girls do not take men's vows too seriously.
Even after men marry the woman they like home, they can't help but look at beautiful women on the street, and the women are very angry, saying that they can't believe men.
Love at first sight is too beautiful, too confusing.
The glare in front of you makes you lose your reason and judgment, because one minute has handed over your entire life, and it is indeed a bit rash to gamble on all your years.
Whether it is love at first sight or long-term love, the heartbeat of that moment is the characteristic of love, but it is not the whole of love.
So when you have a heartbeat moment for your partner, but then there is no, this is a very normal thing, because love is not always composed of heartbeat, if you have been moving in love, it is estimated that your pathological heart rhythm is uneven, it is a heart problem, and it has nothing to do with your love.
Sometimes we can't set a lifetime just because of a minute of good feelings.
There is no need to make a decision in such a hurry – to love or not to love.
There are two kinds of love at first sight, one is to see the other person is handsome or beautiful, and the other is to see that the other party has a feeling of "déjà vu".
Many girls say: it is because of his handsome appearance that he has to take it out to have face.
Who knows he is donkey dung egg surface light, embroidered pillow a bag of chaff.
In addition to being handsome, everything else is a disadvantage.
There are so many different people in the world, there are big personal differences in ideas and feelings, some people often fall in love at first sight, but you can't say that he is a flower heart;
And some people look at each other, the result is to fall in love to get married, and finally stay together until they are old, this kind of situation we have also heard;
There is also a rare case where someone may not have a love at first sight that touches a heartbeat in their entire life.
Everyone wants to have this love at first sight, and we will conceive in our hearts of the standards of a perfect lover, and then look forward to meeting it, producing a feeling of electric flint.
This kind of "color" is not a minority.
In fact, every relationship begins with appearance, falling into talent, loyalty to character, and security.
Zhang Sheng, who is "sentimental and sickly" in "The Tale of the West Chamber", falls in love with Cui Yingying, who "falls into the country", and the white lady Who has cultivated into a fairy in "The Legend of the White Snake" meets the little Chinese medicine doctor Xu Xian and steps on the rhythm of "waiting for a thousand years" for a lifetime.
"Titanic", in which Jack and Rose, two young men and women whose social status and the gap between rich and poor meet by chance on the Titanic, Jack saves Rose who intends to commit suicide by throwing herself into the sea, and they can be said to fall in love with each other at first sight.
Although the giant ship sank, you jumped I jumped, and Jack sacrificed his life for Rose to end this tragic love story, but their love at first sight when they met on the spiral staircase was enough to make our hearts flutter.
These are typical cases of love at first sight, and Shakespeare's classic "Romeo and Juliet" can be described as "a bloody case caused by love at first sight"!
There is always some madness in love, but there is some sanity in the madness.
Love at first sight, as the name suggests, love at first sight.
A process that is determined simply by the appearance, eyes, demeanor, and smell of the other person.
After understanding the appearance, you will begin to understand the various things within the other party.
There are fewer components of love rationality at first sight, and there is also a lack of components and processes of love development.
If people in love are fools, it is not an exaggeration to say that people who fall in love at first sight may be described as crazy.
Psychologist Jung believes that people are born with a dual gender, and the other half we fall in love with is actually another self.
Then when the object of love at first sight is neither a relative nor an idol, it is possible to fall in love with another "self", but this is only possible.
When a person meets a person of the opposite sex who has his own "shadow personality", there will often be a feeling of joy in his heart, because the other party shows a personality trait that he lacks (or has been suppressed and disappeared).
Love at first sight is also a narcissistic reaction.
Everyone is affected by the environment
In my mind, there will be a template for the other half, which is in line with my own perception of love.
Once we meet someone who is similar to this template, we feel like love at first sight.
After the passion of love at first sight, the high emotions return to normal, and both men and women may suddenly find that the other person is completely different from what they thought before.
See literally emotional projections
Someone who has never met
Because the text is as if they know each other
It seems to smell the soul of the other person
Many friends through our texts, always in the background private messages, want to get to know our content editor sister.
We edit the little sister, and every day we are picked up by friends backstage...
There is a feeling that it is impossible to say where it is good, but it cannot be replaced.
The essence is to hope to meet a delicate lady as a companion!
Is there love at first sight in the world? Maybe there is.
Only people of equal energy can recognize each other
Only people with the same energy appreciate each other
Only people with the same energy will understand
From the perspective of autopsychology, partners in the stable development period can meet each other in terms of idealization needs, mirror needs, close friend needs, and integration needs, and are in a proper and balanced state.
Partners have both the space of the self and the right intersection, so they will find a balance between independence and sharing, and it is easier to make the intimate relationship spiral upward and develop steadily on this basis.
The same frequency can resonate, what kind of friends you want to find, what kind of person you have to live first.
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