In the 3rd week of the break, I received a background message.
Oh, in the cultivation of how to transform into a super action faction... (A serious book)
Oh, hurry up and start updating!
There is a line in the movie "After Forever": "I have heard a lot of truths, but I still can't live this life well." ”
Heartache ah old iron.
In the face of results, the most important thing is action.
1. Only when knowledge and action are one, can action change people
Have you ever found one thing, that those who have results are people with super mobility.
They may have failed many times, but it did not prevent them from starting over, iterating themselves over and over again in the course of action, and finally achieving the fruits of victory.
Most of us always think more and do less.
Looking ahead, thinking too much, and still "aiming", the cattleman has already "shot".
Action-oriented results, even if the mind has been turned upside down, without action, the status quo will not change.
"But this man knows to do two things, thinking that he will be a prophet, and then he will be able to do it."
Now I am going to practice and discuss the kung fu I have done, and when I know the truth, I will do the kung fu of doing it.
Therefore, I will not be able to do it for life, and I will not know it for life. ”
"Transmission and Practice" Wang Yangming
Divide knowledge and action into two things, thinking that you must know before you can do it. Now I'm just talking about how to do it, and when I really know it, taking action will inevitably lead to a lifetime of inaction, that is, a lifetime of not knowing.
Our usual way of thinking is to understand one thing first and then do it.
Can you do it first?
In the process of doing it, we deepen our understanding of knowledge and re-guide our actions.
When the actor Zhang Junning (ning) participated in "Longing for Life", he would get up early every day to meditate.
She loves sports and is very disciplined.
A reporter once asked how to stick to sports, she replied: "When you hesitate, you first put on your running shoes and go downstairs, so that when you have not made a decision, you may have finished running and returned." ”
Troubled by thoughts, you may as well throw aside those "cut and sort out" thoughts first, and you're done.
2) It is more reliable to build habits than willpower
Many people do things halfway, often blaming themselves, feeling that their willpower is weak.
Lose weight halfway, be tempted by food, and eat a big meal;
Halfway through learning, being seduced by the game, killing the four sides;
In the middle of getting up early, I was sleepy and missed the time, and I slept late;
Quit smoking halfway, smokers and committed again, did not resist, smoked one;
And so on, and after the foul, you can't help but blame yourself.
However, people's enthusiasm itself will diminish with time, and it is difficult to accomplish something by willpower alone.
When people are lazy and procrastinating, there are often two little people fighting in their minds!
One said, "Get up quickly and pee!" ”
One said: "So sleepy, don't want to leave the bed, and then endure ~~"
What to do at this time?
"I count 3 and get up right away!"
It's by putting pressure on yourself, finding transitions, and pushing yourself.
When parents educate their children, they often say this sentence: "I count 3, you will come to dinner immediately / The TV is closed / Write homework ..."
However, things that require decision-making and confrontation consume energy.
Only the habit is not, we have to wash our face and brush our teeth when we get up, and we don't need to fight to do it automatically.
So, can you use the same method to train your actions and turn them into habits?
Force yourself to do something at what time, do it when it's time, and give yourself a countdown.
3. Start simply, develop micro-habits, continue to act, and repeat the effect
Have you ever had this experience?
When you set yourself goals like reading for 1 hour a day, writing 2,000 words a day, exercising for 1 hour a day, it's hard to stick to it, always fishing for three days and drying nets for two days, and then falling into remorse.
Everything is difficult at the beginning, at the beginning, let things be simple, and then simpler.
Stephen Gas, the author of "Micro Habits", went from an ordinary otaku to a writer, starting with 1 push-up per day.
Try to change your goals, change 1 hour of reading to 1 page of a book, write 2000 words to 100 words, change 1 hour of exercise to do 1 push-up...
Forcing yourself to do it every day, you'll find that these things are easy, even when you have enough energy, to over-complete them.
Of course, at the beginning of establishing a habit, we must first understand why we should establish such a habit, what benefits this thing can bring, and we have the internal drive to action.
When developing new habits, it is best not to exceed 3. Doing a lot of things at once, it is impossible to do everything as you wish.
Getting rid of high expectations, sometimes the greater the determination, the more effort is consumed.
With small determination and micro-habits, people's sense of accomplishment will slowly increase and they will be more confident.
People always like to see the results and feedback immediately, which is the working mechanism of the brain, so in order to continue to act and get results in repetition, you must know how to reward yourself appropriately.
Create a reward mechanism yourself, set the time node, and complete the task to give yourself a small gift within the specified time limit!
Another supervision mechanism can also be used, with the help of external forces.
For example, publicly promise what you want to do, ask everyone to supervise you, punch in the circle of friends, or look for "teammates", and send red envelopes if you can't do it.
As the saying goes, "Self-discipline is not enough, he rules to make it up."
4. Abandon self-blame and accept yourself
The book "Starting with Action" mentions a concept called "automated thinking," which refers to the thinking that people make in an unconscious state.
Automated thinking is like a car driving itself, and it is said that everyone thinks automatically 700 times a day, and most of it is negative thinking.
If we are influenced by these negative thoughts and caught up in our emotions, how can we do it?
When the mind comes up – "Why can't I do it?" Why don't I do a good job! ”
Replace it with "What should I do better than last time?" ”
The former focuses on goals, the latter focuses on self-growth.
Accept yourself, failure is also a part of yourself, the face is thick, and you have the courage to constantly try and challenge.
People get upset and blame themselves, usually because they're out of control.
We all want to be in control of ourselves, but getting caught up in negative emotions doesn't help the outcome.
It is better to save feelings and devote yourself to action.
"If you don't realize your own looseness, then even if you act loosely, you won't be bothered by it, but once you realize your own looseness, you will become very remorseful."
The word "loose" is very powerful, and it is found that you are a loose person, and the blow to a person is very large. But this idea of self-blame doesn't help change the situation, so let's forget about the problems we've always had and start with action. ”
"Start with Action"
Not easily judging yourself, nor labeling and defining yourself easily, objectively expressing a certain behavior will reduce many additional emotions.
For example: "I'm late for today." ”
This is to describe a behavior.
"I'm late again, I'm late procrastination!"
It's an emotional judgment with a negative label.
Accept yourself, imperfection is also worth embracing and praising.
People always have weaknesses, and that's why they need to practice in life.
Tracking and analyzing actions and plans, constantly reviewing and iterating, this is a course of understanding oneself, but also a course of understanding human nature.
Thumbs up, may you take action as an oar, row the boat of life, transform into a super action faction, increase horsepower, and change yourself!
(I'm Mengxi, thank you for reading, if you like my text, remember to pay attention to me Oh ~)