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It is said that the true portrayal of marriage is: "Turning on the lights is a brother, turning off the lights is a husband and wife", and each other is an indispensable partner in life.
As partners who cherish the spirit and life of each other, many middle-aged couples live asexual marriages because of fatigue at work and physical troubles.
Today's husband and wife, if they only rely on spiritual communication and have no sexual life, what are they relying on to maintain marriage?
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For the sake of the children, make it up
Giving children a day without a father and mother will make the child feel traumatized inside, and even if the family is reorganized, it will also be remorseful, just like a sentence: Halfway couples, always thieves, can not give children enough love.
The most chilling thing is: "Compared with the shell of a family, but there is no soul of home, family affection cannot be broken, no matter who is missing, the child's life must be broken." ”
The emergence of husband and wife makes the world of children from childhood to adulthood become rich and loving, a complete home needs to be worked hard and co-managed, and children are always innocent.
According to statistics, as long as many couples have children, their sex life is only a sense of ceremony.
It's like saying:
"The person who loves you may be a lover, but the person who really understands you is a partner, the life of chai rice oil and salt is no longer the love under the moon before the flower, and the real life cannot be just fought in bed." 」
After marriage is life, the meaning of life lies in itself, unwilling to divorce in a big way, and maintaining superficial happiness must take care of the children.
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For the sake of responsibility, stick to marriage
In fact, marriage is really not a safe haven, but at the age of time, do not go against the wishes of your parents to choose to get married, and share the burden of marriage with each other, but it has nothing to do with love!
"A friend who plays very well, due to his age, found an object under the urging of his family, and is ready to get married after half a year, completely obedient, he is not very intentional, and his feelings are purely cultivated after marriage.
Such a marriage may seem beautiful, but like two familiar strangers, there is very little to hold hands and hugs, let alone sex.
Even if there is no sweetness, no warmth, no you and me, but perhaps for them, what really matters is responsibility, parents, and family.
As a tacit partner after marriage, even if there is no sex, they all do their duty to work hard for the family, respect each other, and life is still relatively calm and stable, and they can get by.
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For the sake of a partner, the companionship of personality
In fact, when we love someone deeply, we always want to give the other party the best, and the people who accompany us should be grateful and not do anything sorry for our partner.
Maybe one day, love will be transformed into affection, but we still cherish such a life.
Although disturbed by all kinds of trivialities, there is not much sex life, but the tacit understanding of each other, so that we do not have to talk, a look, can understand each other's intentions, not only in bed, can find the value of marriage.
As a partner is also extremely trusting of each other, a tired life requires an understanding lover.
Zhou Guoping said in "Marriage and Love":
"Sex is physical life, following the principle of pleasure. Love is the spiritual life, following ideal principles. Marriage is social life, following the principles of reality. ”
The place of marriage is to unify the three into life from now on in the partner's body.
But the secret of marriage for a long time is not only love, but also companionship, but also responsibility, is to fight side by side with each other, so sexless marriage, not so terrible.
After marriage, the mutual understanding between two people is more profound than the soul mate, keeping a distance not far away, leaving a good appearance for each other, and can be more long after marriage, for the family, for responsibility, for love.