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When people reach middle age, although they have certain experience and certain connections, their lives will also become complicated.
There are elderly people who need to be taken care of, children who need to be raised, and there are mortgages, car loans, daily expenses in life... Often when you wake up, the pressure is like a mountain tsunami.
So, we chose various ways to decompress. But for the fast pace of life, the pressure is high, we are just as physically and mentally exhausted, haggard.
We can't change the environment, but we can change our own state of mind.
When people reach middle age, the greater the pressure, the more they must understand these three points in order to improve their quality of life.
01. The room is not in the width, but in the simplicity and brightness
We will always pursue the tall, in fact, sometimes you will find that simplicity and simplicity is the original intention of life, but also the connotation of life we need.
Just like a room, the more things in it are loaded, the more messy it is, and the worse people's mood is. If it is neatly packed and clean, it will make people feel relaxed.
Aunt Liu, 45 years old this year, is a quality inspector of a listed company, because the factory has good work efficiency and runs fast, and her usual work pressure is particularly large.
The family had two children, both boys, both in college; both elderly and sickly parents who needed his care; and her husbands were just ordinary employees of the company.
Therefore, in order to get more salary, Aunt Liu often works overtime until midnight. Aunt Liu's husband also has to work part-time in his spare time at work in order to make more money. In addition to paying off mortgages, car loans, and daily expenses, two people's lives also have to take care of the elderly and provide for children to study.
Because their work and life are too busy, they basically have no time to clean up the house, and the house is very messy.
One day, she was overwhelmed by the busy life and intense work, and she fainted in her room of only 60 square meters. By the time I woke up, it was already two o'clock in the afternoon.
The afternoon sun fell lazily through the window screens in the house, and you could see the dust floating in the air.
Aunt Liu felt too uncomfortable, so she began to clean up the house. She categorizes things, packs useless clothes and sells them to recycle, useless small items, throws away, and uses storage boxes to pack up...
Polish the glass shiny, the floor is dragged without dust, the dirty clothes are washed again...
By 5 p.m., I was done packing. Her 60-square-meter house looks much brighter, simple and bright, the snow-white walls reflect the light, and the house looks much more spacious and bright than the original. Aunt Liu's mood was particularly good.
In the evening, my husband came back, clapped his hands and applauded, saying that he would always remain like this in the future. Later, even if Aunt Liu was busy at work, she still had to take time to clean up the house, and she insisted until now.
Her whole person is more energetic than before, and the whole family is refreshed and in a particularly good mood. Aunt Liu's headache disease for many years has also improved, and Aunt Liu's husband's blood pressure has also remained normal.
They themselves said that although life is stressful, as long as there is spiritual struggle, it is happiness, and they believe that through their own efforts, they will live a better life.
Indeed, the cleanliness of a house is the best feng shui for a family, because the god of wealth also likes a clean place, as long as the home is always kept clean, the mood is getting more and more comfortable, and the days are getting more and more prosperous.
Clean is a person's habit, after the house is cleaned, there will be more space to accommodate useful things, so that people's minds will also be clean and transparent, will remove depression, into the pleasure.
Life needs to be broken, and only a life that has been broken off will live a transparent life.
02. Life is not in luxury, but in the quiet of the years
In the past, the social economy was backward, life was very simple, and people were easy to satisfy; now that the social economy is developed, life is very complicated, and we are even more unable to satisfy our own hearts.
Yang Dai said in "The Two of Us": "Our family is very simple; the three of us are very simple, we have no quarrel with the world, we have no quarrel with people, we just want to get together, stay together, do what we can, and when we encounter suffering, we will no longer be difficult; we will help each other, no matter what bitter and difficult things, we can become sweet, we are a little happy, and we will become very happy." ”
In fact, born in a bustling city, the city is bustling with traffic. No matter whether you live rich or poor, the best state of life is to live quietly.
I chatted with my girlfriend when I was fine, and there were two sisters in the university dormitory, both of whom belonged to a very ambitious category of people at that time. They are like Gu Jia in "Thirty Only", doing their best to live a high-society life.
But now, the two sisters, hearing that a stock market has gone bankrupt, the house has been sold to pay off the debt, and now live in a rental house with their mother and father.
There is also a business that is too strong, running east and west to do business, and finally lost money, and a person married into the countryside. I heard that I was farming.
Think of our six sisters, although there is no great wealth and nobility now, but the economy is not tight, there is a time to use. Life is as plain as water, but the days are idyllic and warm.
People often want to climb too high, but they can't climb up, and if they don't get it right, they will fall off the cliff and fall to pieces; and if you always look at life with a normal mind, whether you live rich or poor, you will be quiet for a long time.
Although effort does not necessarily succeed, without effort it will not succeed. However, while working hard, we must also have a normal heart. Positioning too high will be disappointed too much, only the usual mentality, will gain and loss look down, life is stable.
Life, there is no need for grandeur, as long as life is calm and calm, and the years are quiet. Many happiness in life comes from the most simple way of life.
No matter how luxurious life is, it is not as comfortable and fresh as the days.
03. Friends are not many, but in the snow to send charcoal
For friends, the icing on the cake is not important, and the charcoal sent in the snow is precious.
Now the work is stressful and the pace of life is fast. For friends, there may be people who cheer and drink, but there are very few who really give you charcoal in the snow.
However, this friendship is really present in our lives and is enviable.
The friendship between Gao Xiaosong and Pu Shu is only to send charcoal in the snow, not to add icing on the cake.
It is said that the brothers are clearly calculated, but compared with the feelings of Gao Xiaosong and Park Shu, their feelings are better than the brotherhood. This can be seen from the economic exchanges between the two people.
When two people encounter a lack of money, they only need to send a text message to each other, and they can transfer money directly on their mobile phones.
Once, Gao Xiaosong was financially strapped and had no money, so he borrowed money from Park Shu, who only used his mobile phone to send two words "borrow money", and Park Lima transferred 150,000 yuan to Gao Xiaosong. When Park Shu had no money, he only used his mobile phone to send Gao Xiaosong two words "pay back", and Gao Xiaosong immediately repaid the money.
Such friendships are really rare. Now the world is full of lights and gold, and more friends only think about their own interests, and when they get benefits, they don't interact with each other. The friendship between Gao Xiaosong and Park Shu is a true friendship in the snow.
True friends have, not near and far, no longer rich and poor... And it is that when there is something, it can be cloaked for you, and when there is difficulty, it will send you charcoal in the snow.
The ones around you may not help you, and the distant ones may squeak and fly to your side.
The rest of your life is not long, and you give double the reward for our good; for those who are perfunctory, you also return to the scene. Our hearts are small and can only be packed into true friendship. So, useless social stay away from it.
epilogue:
People reach middle age, life, success can only be obtained through hard work, not once and for all; career, will experience staggered fundraising, but still have to retain the original intention of the initial pursuit of career; socially, there will be many friends, but can live for you in the snow is the best friend.
When people reach middle age, they need to quit luxury to unload the burden of life; only when they see through the false name can they understand that plain and simple is the truth; they will have a new life by abandoning useless social interaction.
May our lives be filters, filtering the noise in life and restoring the original beauty of life.
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