Pregnancy is not an easy task, from pregnancy to childbirth, the closure is difficult, ordinary people are often difficult to bear, for elderly mothers, the burden is heavier.
The 60-year-old mother risks giving birth to twins
In medicine, women who become pregnant after the age of 35 are referred to as advanced maternal age.
Nowadays, with the acceleration of urbanization and the impact of the two-child policy, there are more and more elderly mothers.
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According to incomplete statistics, the proportion of elderly pregnant women (greater than or equal to 35 years old) in the country has risen from 24.5% to 31%, and the average age is gradually rising.
Sheng Hailin is one of the elderly mothers, and she is super old, at the age of 60, she can already be a grandmother, and risked giving birth to a pair of twins.
But for her, this may also be a helpless move -
It turned out that Sheng Hailin had given birth to a daughter before, and the daughter was already married, but because of an accident, the daughter and son-in-law unfortunately died.
The most painful thing in the world is that the white-haired person sends the black-haired person, and the death of the only daughter gives Sheng Hailin a very big blow, washing her face with tears all day long, and her spirit is weak.
Perhaps as a reminder, she finally decided to do IVF with her husband, which was a very risky move.
After all, test tubes are not a small operation, from taking medication to promote ovulation, puncture egg retrieval, in vitro fertilization to embryo transfer, confirm pregnancy, each step will bring certain harm to the body.
And Sheng Hailin was nearly 60 years old that year, and her physical function was far inferior to that of young people, but she insisted on fighting again, fortunately, God opened her eyes, and finally let her get her wish and conceived twins.
But pregnant with a child is only the first pass, throughout the pregnancy, Sheng Hailin has too much sin, has encountered high blood pressure, ascites and other problems, she has to endure breathing difficulties, body puffiness and other physical discomfort.
And in the end, the twin daughters were also prematurely born, sent to the incubator for guardianship, spending at least 6,000 yuan a day, staying for dozens of days, plus Sheng Hailin's postpartum maintenance money, the once wealthy family was squeezed out of the remaining.
Originally living in the old age, because of a birth, to sacrifice health, energy, money, and since ancient times, it is easy to have children and it is difficult to raise children, she is already super old, and there are still various difficulties on the road to raising children.
After 11 years, several practical problems of elderly mothers giving birth have emerged
1, the cost of parenting is too high
We all know that the cost of raising a child is very high today, taking the second-tier city where Sheng Hailin lives, the two daughters together need 3 million education funds to support the child to go to graduate school.
In order for the child to have a better life, Sheng Hailin needs to make money non-stop, from the child's hundred days later, she began to pull the box, running around to lecture, a month may only be able to stay at home for a few days.
Fortunately, she and her husband have a pension subsidy, plus they have the ability to work, so they are enough to support the whole family.
When the average elderly mother gives birth, she may need to consider whether her financial ability can support it.
2. It is difficult to get close to children because of the large age gap
This should be a real problem that elderly mothers will encounter, as the children grow up day by day, the gap between themselves and their children is getting bigger and bigger.
Especially at a super age like Sheng Hailin, under normal circumstances, it should be the age of a grandmother, and when she gets along with children, there are too few topics that can be communicated with each other, and it is often difficult to integrate into the children's world.
There are also many elderly mothers around who sigh that after they have given birth to a child:
- First, physical strength can't keep up. Children are lively and energetic, playing in the amusement park is most of the day, they are less than half a day to stop cooking, and the back is supported by willpower;
- Second, we face mental suffering. I want to talk to children and don't know how to open my mouth, I am most afraid of going to school for parent-teacher conferences, and I am always recognized by other parents as grandmothers (grandmothers), so I always dress up young.
3, the time to accompany the child is too short
"I'm old, but the kids haven't grown up yet."
Sheng Hailin once expressed concern about the limited time spent with children, the original energy could not keep up, the body also had various problems, accompanying the child has become a burden, coupled with the need to make money desperately, it is even more exhausting, so always worry about their limited time with their children.
In case you are not there one day, and the children are not yet adults, what can be done in the future?
Indeed, many elderly mothers may need to face this reality, your life begins to count down, the children's lives have just begun, in this world, accompanying them to grow up has become a luxury, what a heart-wrenching life experience.
In summary, the birth of life is not a trivial matter, not a hammer deal, you need to take on a lifetime of responsibility, for the elderly mother, you may need to face more practical problems.
The family's financial conditions, their own health and the future growth of their children need to be taken into account and think twice.
Extended reading: There are elderly women at home, and the following obstetric examinations cannot be saved
1. Amniotic puncture
After the age of 35, the ovarian function gradually declines, the quality of the egg declines, and the quality of the embryo will also affect, so it is recommended that pregnant mothers do amniocentesis around 20 weeks of pregnancy, which can help check for deformities.
Elderly mothers are often prone to endocrine disorders and emotional instability, and the blood sugar in the body fluctuates greatly, so the probability of gestational diabetes is higher and the risk of fertility is relatively large, so it is best to do a blood glucose screening around the 24th to 28th week of pregnancy.
3. Fetal heart rate monitoring
It is recommended to start from 36 weeks of pregnancy, once a week, 20 to 40 minutes each time, real-time observation of fetal movements and fetal heart rate reactions during contractions, to prevent fetal hypoxia.